require disclosure of "persons of size"  
add it to the screening process to avoid any embarrassment of either party?

Come on people, do you really think I am that self-absorbed or that big of a bitch?

What I didn't mention was that I have waited 3 years to share this with anyone, & am only doing so to make a point that certain things in which the general populous is not conditioned for, might need mentioning beforehand to save embarrassment/discomfort later.  Upon careful thought, I concluded that the odds of this being read by this man who is far away, 3 yrs later, who doesn't even Hobby on a frequent basis (or claimed he didn't anyway), vastly diminishes the chances of him ever reading this.  

Think what you will if your minds are already made up, but I am more sympathetic than many of you obviously give me credit for.  And trust me, I felt a lot worse about his presumed humiliation, which I expected, than he ever was humiliated.   Frankly, he was more confident than 75% of the people I know, so my assumption of his embarrassment was my own preconception of yet again, more twisted social conditioning.  But b/c of that, I was caught off-guard, with a look on my face equivalent to my mother telling me not to stare.  I felt bad 'thinking' he was feeling bad, & that is all.  And as it turned out, I don't think he even gave a shit about his weight, but was more so concerned about how I felt he was feeling about his weight, b/c he too was a compassionate person & feeling a discomfort over my discomfort.  And now my head hurts...

So once we got past all that (& he & I did discuss this), I saw this man 3 times during my short stay in his city.  I discovered many great qualities about him... he was freakin' hilarious for starters, he was full-spectrum-intelligent, considerate, romantic, & with the help of a cane, he got around with impressive agility (as most people his weight are bedridden).  Incidentally, he taught me a great deal about accepting & liking who you are w/out the influence of others' projection of how you should appear & then feel bad about yourself b/c of it.  (And really, all they're trying to do is take the attention off themselves, b/c THEY'RE the ones who feel so bad about THEIR own appearance, so they try to make a spectacle of others to overcompensate for it.)  This was an amazing, admirable man, that I actually wish DID use this board, b/c we could all use a little of his sunshine.

Posting that on the public board does make you a self absorbed bitch period!!! Whether it happened 3 years ago or 3 days ago it was wrong to make fun of a hobbyist that way. Continue to back peddle yourself out of this, but everyone will see you in a different light now, I know I do.

...see her in a different light, and I would highly doubt "everyone" will. You may and thats ok. Personally, I feel there is nothing wrong with her opinion. She was well spoken without a hint of rudeness. How did she "make fun" of this guy exactly? Truth telling is not considered making fun. Why do providers have to walk on egg shells regarding the content they post? Get over it.

Perhaps if you could read, you would know that I am not & did not in any way ever make fun of this person, neither here, in my thoughts, nor to anyone, b/c there is nothing to make fun of & I certainly wouldn't broadcast it if there was.  He's not defective!  

And there is nothing to "back peddle" (& I think it's back paddle...) myself out of b/c I said nothing about this man that he & I hadn't already talked about, & I know my views & beliefs are of equality & are humane, I am compassionate, I am sincere, & I am confident knowing that I mean well of this.  It's not like I didn't know that fascists like yourself wouldn't come out of the TER woodwork on this; that's just an expected given.  But that's your problem.  So I'm sorry (meaning I have pity - NOT that I apologize to you) this burned you so much & that you had to hide behind an alias to ridicule my opinion with your opinion, which you based upon what you wanted to hear me say & not what I said, Rudolphthebrown.

Don't we choose our ladies based on looks, age, ethnicity, etc.  So we judge the ladies thousand times over before we ever meet them. So what if Kelsi voiced her opinion. She stated facts, wasn't rude and I don't see anything wrong with that. I understand some of you might say that she is getting paid but my guess is that you would have no problem with her if she turned away a guys who was rude, drunk, or had terrible hygiene. I frequently see ads with ladies saying no black man. Fair, no, but it's her choice. I am not here to teach anyone what is politically correct to do or say. I am not all that skinny or have a face of Brad Pitt, I don't get offend if a lady and I don't hit it off. It is what it is. Some of us like skinny, some of us like a big girl, so don't judge Kelsi based on what she prefers

All I got from this post was that it would be nice to know ahead of time when you are going to come upon something unexpected as you did. From my point of view, I believe the gentleman should have mentioned it to you before meeting. I know that if I had some out of the norm issue, physical or otherwise, I would not want to be embarrassed or embarrass the other person. How did he know you would see him? May providers regularly post things such as "no black men" "no men over 50" "no men under 30" ect... If I were him, I would have hated for you to show up and tell me you didn't feel comfortable, or with someone of his size. I think the fact that you overcame your initial shock and were able to make him happy, more than once is admirable.

I get the idea of the original post and I saw nothing wrong with it.

Great prose.  Concise, to the point; transisitons in thought perfectly clear, make sense (to me).

But even more important, delightful positive uplifting tone that high llights what could be a problem for some.

 
wordsmithing--10 out of 10; posting content relevance 10; tone of post 10!!

Deprive

I, as a person with a physical problem, like to let someone know before we meet. That's why I enjoy meeting ladies at M&G's before getting together. I have had that "look" if the lady was never met me and it's not very pretty.

So good job for Kelsi for bringing it up when no one else would. I also don't feel she was rude in any way.  
IMOP.

Vampster

These women need to know what they are in for before a date. I've met with her and she is one of the nicest women you'll ever meet. Just as ki.wan said i'm neither skinny or as good looking Brad Pitt or even Tom Arnold.hahahahaha But she treated me with the utmost respect and make sure our time together was totally enjoyable for both of us. And by the way as i always say "and i'm hung like a knat." So thank you Kelsi for a great post......................

I'm fine being the odd man out with this one. Maybe it's my age, maybe it's how I was raised, but my strong values I hold are to never judge or discriminate anyone no matter what their age, gender, height, weight or race is. To always treat others how I want to be treated, unless they become an asshole.

The only thing I saw offensive in Kelsi's post that it made it sound worse than it was .. was  "I knew there was no possible, polite way out of this"

Agree it would be nice to let folks know of any odd issues before hand but not a terrible offense not to.

I think Vampsters  post well said.  For use that have known him for years (from M&G's) his wisdom is especially good and a lesson on how one can overcome physical issues and turn out to be VERY popular with escorts.

She was not rude at all. Not in anything she said. Were you really operating under the belief that she would have found a 500lb man anything but shocking before she posted that? When she said there was no polite way to get out of it I doubt she meant the session. But rather her initial shocked reaction that was clearly on her face. Hell the woman sounds like she went through with the appointment!  

All she did was post the following.  
I showed up to an outcall and a 500lb man opened the door. Unfortunately this individual didn't have the forethought to tell me he was more overweight then normal and as a result there was an unfortunate moment where I had a startled look on my face as this was not what I expected to see. It would have been nice to be able to avoid this awkward moment to have had a little forewarning and be able to provide the client with a more GFE style experience. Please people. If there is anything about you that may be strange let us know ahead of time so that we don't have an embarrassing and unfortunate reaction of shock to something we are not expecting to see.  

Now. I just said the same damn thing she said. Only with slightly different words. What is so bad there?

No, it is back peddle

As in "pedal backwards" out of trouble.  To "peddle" means to sell.  (Paddle works though, but that's not the correct popular expression).

My personal favorite might be "for all intensive purposes", which I actually saw the other day, luckily wasn't any of my people wrote that ;