Recently, I had a date arranged with a provider who advertises herself as "classy and professional". She cancelled 80 minutes before the meet. I suspected something was awry as I had messaged to confirm and request an addy 24 hours earlier without a response. Again, I texted 3 1/2 hours before the meet but didn't receive a response until more than 2 hours later-the cancellation. Her approach would be par for the course if she posted on humaniplex but she posts ads here. Please, cancel earlier so alternative arrangements can be made. Just trying to keep the Valley green.
It never feels good when the date doesn’t happen, but she didn’t NCNS. 80 minutes is still enough time to catch you before you leave. I respect the fact she communicated before the scheduled date, saving you confusion and wasted time. Hard to say what happens to people, or thier loved ones. For any of us, work and friends can suddenly become the lowest priority. I think that does show professionalism to bow out before the date (even 80 minutes) compared to the latter.
I’m usually not surprised when the date doesn’t happen when they’re not responding at all leading up to the date. All though once that was because an assistant was handling communication and I wasn’t actually communicating with the provider herself.
What do you think of providers with cancellation fees but when they cancel on short notice don't offer any extras for a future appt. I have had this happen once and I felt somewhat not appreciated.
The way I look at cancellation fees is it depends on how much you’re out and if it really effected you or not? There was a recent discussion about this and the OP was out $300. He was wealthy and the $300 was of little concern to him. He seemed to be more upset about her lack of communication and unwillingness to reschedule in a way that made him happy. There are obviously reasons why a provider keeps a deposit, so if you can’t afford too, or are bothered by the idea of losing the deposit, why get involved?
As much as many of the providers are great people and are very professional, This hobby is illegal and there is no standard in the way things are done by anyone. Though you may be able to trust one provider with how they handle a deposit, that does not mean you will be able to trust the next provider with the way she handles a deposit. Since there’s no way to guarantee consistency it’s really coming down to whether or not you’re OK with losing the money if it doesn’t happen.
"I am not sure if I am going to make it we can reschedule....", was the message I received. Reschedule? So she can flame out a second time? I don't think so. My real world life has to be rearranged with alibis to be out of the house, etc. It takes some effort to construct an AM or PM to meet a playmate so when a cancellation occurs, the effort is wasted. She wasted my time, something that is more valuable than money as my time can never be recovered.
At least there was communication. Everything else is all conjecture. If a cancelation happens to me, I decide if I want to suffer from self righteous indignation or just go on with my life. Even if I have to change my life around, BFD! It's not that important to me. But, in my business, I've had the promise of income pulled out from under me and that is a financial loss, that I could have been spending that time or energy chasing other income . That is a different thing than a luxury cancelled for a monger.
To call those equivalent is self righteous at best,and childish at the least. As a retired favorite of mine used to have on her website about cancellations. "Don't be a fool, use your tool!"
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