You forgot to link a picture of yourself, you sexy minx.

As for your question, the stimuli can be any number of things for me. Her scent, her movement, her vocalization, the look on her face, any number/combination of things. And it is unique to that person. But once found, it could be reproduced. I guess that is why ATF's exists.

answer the question by having an up close and personal demonstration with you =)  I enjoy your posts, so please do not feel otherwise about bringing up a topic.

There are a number of elements that can help to make more likely that I will have a good orgasm, including a sweet smile, sparkling eyes, soft silky hair (a HUGE turn on for me) and a soft sweet voice accompanied by the well placed giggle or sigh.  None of these things by themselves are sufficient, and even the whole list of them won't do it for me if I can't believe, somewhere in the back of my mind, that I am giving and receiving feelings.  I realize that the Providers who have been kind enough to spend time with me have no real feelings for me, but some Providers make it feel that way, even if it is an illusion, and when that happens, I will explode every time.

Don't know if those insights help, but I offer them for what little they may be worth.

Fred

....in the mind.  Remember, you're asking for one's "absolute best" orgasm, and I think to take it to that high a level, the mental connection must be present.  And, I remember a great lady, when she was just starting out in this game, who took me there one sun-filled afternoon with the dogs barking outside in the back!  Am looking forward to seeing her again real soon!

great answers so far....Jeffrey, that must of been some woman!  JK

For me, it has to be not just a physical attraction, but a mental connection as well.  Certainaly physical beauty is part of the initial reaction, but in order for the more intense experiences, there has to be an emotional connection as well.  If we have interests in common, if she knows how to laugh, is intelligent and can stimulate my mind as well as body, I know my wandering days are over, at least for a while.    In those rare cases,  the sex is even that much better (a few nasty words as we approach orgasm never hurts).
  Its hard to find, but worth the search. Most women, escort and civilian alike, think it is exclusively physical.  That may be true for those who are constantly in search of the new experience.  I would like to think that at least some men are looking for more than the next notch on the bedpost.