I, like many of you, now work 40+ hours a week. I check the board when I get home at night. It's my decompression after a long day that starts early. What I do every night is scan. More and more often lately I find myself thinking, "Did I really read all this stuff every single day, multiple times over again? Really?"

So, for some of us, this is a release in more ways than one. Why are we all having so much trouble, a week after one of our own died and many said we need to follow in his footsteps, following our own personal code of ethics on this board? Would we treat each other this way at work? In the bedroom? In passing on the street? If you answer no to any of those, then don't presume it's okay to treat each other with such disrespect here. It isn't.

At our most basic, we're all human beings with the need for compassion, acceptance, respect and love. How about we all try to work together to make each other's lives, our hobby, our business, and each other better?

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts, right? As a whole, I say we're slipping. Let's get back to basics here, folks. Do unto others as you would have done to you. If you're taking stuff too personally, rather than shooting off at the mouth, take a step back and decide whether or not your response is one you'd like to receive. Decide whether or not you may have read the post in the wrong tone. But basically, decide whether you want to be part of the problem or part of the solution.

Respectfully yours,

Megan


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Ms. Megan, well said.  I do not know you but I respect what you posted.  We need to quit bickering, slamming, whinning, and calling names.  This is a great community and we need to keep it civil.  Hats off to you, Megan.

Very well presented and right on the money! Congrats and Thank You! Maybe others will be "listening" also.

I have vbeen coming to this board for a number of years now and it seems every once in a while someone or someones always try to take it over and anyone who does not agree wiht them is nailed to the wall.

I think the gracious lady here has said it best and in no uncertain terms. People get a grip...it is up to you to decide if you want to read someones post or not. These persoanl attacks are not only childish but can and will ruin this for everyone.

TER is a great tool in our search for the pleasure and recreation we are looking for. There is no real need to "blow your own horn" in here, whatever the reason. Let us all try and get back to the purpose here...the enhancement of the hobby and all those who care to share in it.

I for one will not be reading posts from certain individuals until this crap stops. Sometimes we lose our focus...lets get it back.

after a long day is your mode of "decompression"?  That's pretty sad. Why would you care since you realistically left the hobby for a 40+ hour a week job? Could it be that you wish you had a good repeat client base or a flood of new clients that the other xxx1/2 providers reel in?  I'm sensing there was too much comeptition to sustain you at your asking rate.  I can remember a few posts how you cried poor having no money.....and in fact I think you did cry when your post about being in LA was removed or was it that you were moderated. If you were an existing provider in the community, then I might pay attention to your post here.  You might try taping the Oprah show and watching that after a long day rather than turining to the TER board as a means of entertainment.  I think they would classify you as being in the "peanut gallery" these days.

True words  well said.
Hopefully it wil be taken to heart

Megan,
Very well spoken and definitely something that needed to be said.  I have always respected your thoughts and opinions, and your smarts.  Not many other women in this community are in school and trying to pursue other things on the side like we are, and I congratulate you and wish you the best of luck on your new career.  
This board has become a place to vent and unwind, but sometimes the venting and unwinding from a stressful week or a bad day can lead to not so nice comments on here and things being said out of anger or disappointment.  I miss the days when this board held more truth and honesty than it does now.  Lately it is all about trying to figure out whos alias is who and why they would say such things about other people like that.  You are so right....who would treat people in their workplace like this??  Who would say these things in public, much less have the nerve to say things to someones face...but rather they use foolish and cowardly aliases to cover who they really are....I dont really pay much attention to this board anymore, and I rarely advertise on it for that simple reason.  There is no truth or honesty left on here....except for us single few.  I can honestly say I have never used an alias on here or made statements on here that I would not repeat to the person themselves...but the lack of honesty and dignity some of the people on here display is just pitiful sometimes.  Glad you spoke up and said something...whatever happened to a fun Phoenix board that was not all shilling and bullshit every day??  

I miss hanging out with you and if you should ever be up for coffee or karaoke, just call me....
I hope you are enjoying what you are doing at your new job, and that your education and smarts are paying off for you finally.  I am still working on that area of my life, but getting closer to that point each and every day by pursuing my education and being persistant about furthing my life and my life goals.
I congratulate you and wish you all the best!
You deserve nothing less than the best, and hopefully your new endeavor brings you tons of happiness and success down the line.

Best of Luck,
Madison

KARAOKE??  did someone say KARAOKE??  i'm up for that!  can i go too??  )

Well Megan it didn't take long to get an answer to your plea for civility.

Megan, you are a true believer in what the TER board is all about and unfortuantely you hit the nail on the had when it comes to all the negativity.  You have already had one foot shoved at you, when will the next one come your way.

I wish everyone could just sit down, pick up the peace pipe with some funny substance and chill.  This board and the reviews have been a trmendous help to me, making my decisions on where or whom to spent my meager funds.  
Then when you try to do a fellow hobbyest or provider some good, someone with an alias comes along like a spider to spoil the party.

Why can't the moderator eliminate the alias?  Why do some people have to hide behind the alias?  Why do we have to go through this continually? Why? Why? Why?  

Chill folks and tell me your great esperiences with whomever, give up the juicy stuff, turn this back into a positive.

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As I mentioned when I mentioned I was going back to work. I never "quit" providing. I simply provide part time. And this board is one of many people's form of decompression. It's entertainment. But lately, there are more and more people (like you) who are popping up with aliases other than their known aliases making snide commentary to everyone they disagree with.

I'm a well respected, well regarded member of this community. Part of the reason why is because of who I am and who I'm not. One thing I might mention regarding me is that you'll never see me post anything with any other name than my own. Can you say the same? I think no. And my financial situation has NEVER been brought to this board, nor should anyone else's. Now, perhaps you can take a step back and realize your comprehension is completely off and you've made a fine example of what I suggested people NOT do in order to make this a more pleasant place for everyone again. Take a step back and consider whether or not you'd want someone to post what you're about to post. If the answer is no, pick up a book or watch your Oprah.

I certainly hope your business picks up and you find something a bit more constructive to do with your time than to slam someone who has never said an unkind thing to anyone here and who has gone out of her way to help this community individually and as a whole.

Megan

Aren't we all doing that? Maybe we're all pretty sad. Then again we should be glad we have this board for communication & getting to know each other prior to meeting.

Megan, Just my 2 cents.. but you tend to be very dramatic w/ your posts and act like you are better than. Some might even think you are intelligent with your words or outspoken at times but personally I think if you keep your opinions and comments to yourself alot of times
shit like this would not start.  Sometimes it is best to listen and not be heard.  In your case maybe look pretty and SHUT UP!!  

I use to read this board regularly and kinda got tired of reading and seeing the same shit over and over. We all have a personal life and I am also "one of those who has a real job"..  Do you read what you write?  What a b---h!!  

xoxo
Sabrina

As I've never met Sabrina and had, until tonight, only spoken to her once I tried talking to her about her post to me to get a feel for her reasons for posting this, but instead she thought I was attacking her verbally and stated that, "If you have a problem with my post, meet me in person and we can fight" so, I'm no closer to a resolution but feel it's better just to apologize to any of you who felt like I was trying to be dramatic or a bitch or make myself look like I'm "better" than anyone else. That wasn't my intent.

My intent was to simply state that we're all on the same team here and instead of putting each other down, we should get back to basics and be kind and respectful to one another. I'm sorry if anyone really feels like I'm a drama queen (I'm not) and I was using this post to make myself look better than anyone else. That's not the case in the least. I'm not better than anyone and you will never hear me claim to be. I just wish this board could get back to being what it was just 6 short months ago where everyone helps everyone else and is kind to one another.

Sabrina, to you I'm sorry that you feel I add to the problems here. I assure you it has never been my intention to do so. I am also sorry that we couldn't resolve anything over the phone like two adults, but I am too old to have fist fights and I'm definitely not going to do so over a message board post. I wish you the best of luck and health and happiness.

Respectfully everyone's,

Megan

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Megan..  You know damn well you were not trying to solve or settle anything.  You took every word I said and tried to twist it,  I dont take back anything I said in my prior post..  That is how I feel and by the way you argued on the phone it sounds like you really do think you are better then.  As far as "coming to meet me in person" YES I want to look in everyones face that is yelling at me!!!  

I haven't been on the boards much lately & while I was reading your post it bothered me and I said what I wanted if you have a problem OH WELL
cause I am not the only one who called you a bitch..  Read all the posts and maybe next time you will think twice bout others and there feelings b4 u speak your opinion.
I am not sure how old you are but I'm 27 next month and definetly know how to hold my own without fighting, you took what I said and assumed I wanted to fist fight you then by all means think what you want.. Maybe if you let me finish my sentence next time you wont jump the gun!

Megan I had to reread your opening post to see if I missed the point of it all.  What I came away with originally was an appeal for self-moderation.  Even after reading it a second time I still see it as such.  I didn’t see it as condescending or dramatic but what I did find interesting is how your message could gender such broad interpretations.  I’m not wishing to escalate the tension this has sparked but I found your message a positive petition to treat others on this board, as you’d want to be treated.  It’s an old and golden rule and bears repeating now and again.

-- Modified on 11/5/2005 4:38:30 PM