Anyone have any recommendations for a blind guy trying to make an appointment with a provider?  outcall to my place isn't an option and obviously getting to their incall location would be problematic.

I think maybe hotel outcall is a better option.
You could have plenty of time to check in and get settle before the lady arrived.Acquaint yourself with the room layout etc. I also think discussing this with the provider you want to see would be a great idea. A well known provider is most important in this instance. Good Luck!

Simone

Surely you must manage to shop, go to doctors, etc.  If you normally use family/friends for that, then a cab would take you to the incall, and I can't imagine a provider who would be unwilling to come out and meet you in the driveway or parking lot and offer you her arm.  Because I know several visually-impaired people, I'm puzzled by your question.

hes never been there before and wont be able to see what the situation looks like.
also finding the incall could be kind of hard. i have a hard time finding apts in those big complexes and i can see perfectly fine.

i think he would be better off getting up a hotel room and doing outcall myself since you get a comfort zone.

Valid points.  I do manage to shop and etc, but as you guessed its family that helps with that (in my case a spouse).  For all intents and purposes you could say that I'm forced into  a very sheltered life.  I get driven to work in the morning and get picked up at night.  That about sums up my normal day.  The only time I get any freedom as it where is during my lunch.  Even then I stopped trying to go places after the 3rd time I was hit by a car trying to cross the parking lot.  I have also had several bad experiences with cabs, so I try to avoid them too.

I have seen a provider in the past that was to picking me up and dropping me off again, but she's no longer in the business.

is to find a provider who could pick you up, go to a hotel and then take you back home. The valley is full of wonderful ladies who would do this for you, if you pass their screening.

Good luck in finding the right woman for you

Hugs,
Swedish Anna

This is what I was thinking.
I am interested on how a visually impaired guy would pick his provider? Based solely on reviews of her personality/performance or do you look at providers who post or blog often? Im very curious!

Honestly, using this site helps.  Even without VIP access you can get a good idea from the bio-data on the reviews as to what the person looks like.  Also, I'm not 100% blind, just like 95% or so. You can imagine a guy with his nose pressed up against the monitor trying to judge a provider's looks.

Just don't understand, if you are blind how is it that you can read this board???

Not trying to be mean or cruel, just don't understand how it would be possible??

I sit REALLY close to the monitor.  I wish that was joke but it's true.  I retain somewhat decent vision at 2 or 3 inches, after that it goes to crud on me.  My last eye exam had me rated as having a visual acuity of 20/2600.

On a side note, there are a lot of software packages that act as screen readers that will read what's on a web page for you.  There also another on that converts the text on a web page to braille. Great for reading forums, not so great at looking at the pictures though.

amuse me...but really
Ter

so there is some sort of translator. And when I was in college one of the students had Playboy in Braille; text only but no pictures( but pictures in Braille is fun to imagine),

I meant no harm but you must admit it did seem odd, plus the fact that you have no reviews and this is your first post added to my skepticism.  And with the recent negative activities in our community, it causes one to be cautious and skeptical.

I wish you luck in your adventure.  Again I meant no harm.

Ok, I am a little shocked by this statement, because it really questions the validity of this post by saying this, to say the least.

This statement by you could have been phrased so totally different, truly it could have.

There are only a couple or few things that could have taken place; Either he is a total fraud: He can type, and he can't see.

Second; He is asking for a friend of his (who is blind) and just is asking a question...or...he actually are able to read, write and ask a question but his eye sight is severely impaired. There are actually equipment to help people who are impaired in many different ways.

So why are we questioning this guy who is asking a simple question? Why are we so harsh?

Hugs,
Swedish Anna

I am sorry if my hoensty is a problem.

I was not trying to be harsh but he stated he was blind.  And if a person is blind that usually means they cannot read - they cannot see.

But as he clarified in this thread, he is legally blind but can read with some effort.

He also has NO reviews, NO other posts and as I have already stated in my other posts in this current Phoenix environment, one must be cautious.  

Again I was NOT trying to be harsh, mean, or cruel but speaking truthfully and honestly.

I thought it was a legitimate question myself.  A lot of people I know and work with have a hard time understanding the limits of my vision, especially since I don't use a cane.  I had a reputation at work for being stuck up becuase I never said hi to anyone in the hallways, they were shocked when I told them the reason I didn't say hi was because I didn't know who I was talking to.

Actually it was the recent negative activities that prompted me to ask the question in the first place.  If in the best of times I would imagine a potential client contacting you saying "hey, I'm blind, can you pick me up and take me back to your place" would set off some warning bells.

Agreed Misty....we've seen tooooo many crazy things and this just sounded like one of those...for all the help we've given so many gents over the years as to who to see suggestions or how to go about it.or helpful insights of our perspective of weight or impotence everyone would know we don't mean harm but just trying to clarify legitimacy of the person and or motives...if these guys would be more helpful as to the preference of the kind of lady that fits their fancy. All we'd have to do is pm them that we'd love to see him and would be able to figure out the best way to meet.

Most of us Ladies don't have as many restrictions on who we'll see as the hobbyist has on who he see's

Love and kisses you all of you, sweeties Male and Female a like
xooxo
Terri

It it the first thing that popps into ones mind when they are online reading something  by someone who states that he is blind... "How's he doing that?"
And the question has been answered,I agree he might have diverted some confusion by stating "legally blind" or "90% blind" or what have you but he did not and the question begged to be answered.

I understand what you are coming from Misty, I just said what was on my mind. I WAS honest as well. Honesty doesn’t mean rude, it means it can be phrased in so many ways to say the same thing. One thing I learned many years ago, was that you can do whatever you want with your life, unless you step on anyone’s toes. With that being said, honesty can be rude and cruel or it can be very informative and it still state the truth.

I have a mom who is blind, but she can still do things as reading and writing, because she learned it when she was a kid and she wasn’t born being blind. She can still do many things as me and you can but she can’t drive a car because of it, because that is plain dangerous.

I feel that many times we don’t take the time to understand a problem before we throw ourselves into it and starting to ask all kinds of weird questions. It is people we are dealing with and if we get so jaded because of recent events, that we can’t see the people behind it, then maybe we should be doing other things. I am a firm believer of this. If we can’t treat people with the respect they deserve, then maybe it is time to change what we do.

In times like this we should get smarter, not more accusatory and rude or honest as you would like to call it. We should ask questions, of course, but like I said earlier, it can be phrased in so many different ways. This is my opinion and I am entitled to it, right?

Hugs,
Swedish Anna

if you get a good one, hang on to them.

i can refer you to several nice cabbies, who happen to already know the way to my place, but i'm happy to share them regardless of where you're going.

they're honest and dont take advantage.

if he had perfect vision, would you answer the question differently or be too scared to give him a suggestion ?

the blind have been reading since the 1800s and actually it is considered to be rude to challenge someone's abilities in this day and age of technological advances i'm sure that everyone is aware that such physical impairments have long ago been overcome and are not a reflection of a person's abilities.

if it comes as a surprise to anyone that a deaf person can have a phone conversation or the wheelchair-bound play basketball, it might be time for them to come out of the cave.

children are often rude because of innocent curiosity but that doesnt stop us from correcting them and teaching them that it's not always polite to ask but if they feel they must, to at least show some sensitivity and phrase the question tactfully.  

was i curious - yes
would i ask - no
why - because it doesnt matter therefore, mere curiousity is not a good enough justification to be rude or risk being unintentionally mean.

its really nobody's business how he read the board, maybe its personal, maybe he doesnt want to talk about it, maybe it's embarrassing, maybe if he wanted us to know, he wouldve told us in his original post, but probaby he just wants to focus on getting his question answered.

but maybe he's lying about being blind and he has some secret evil motive for trying to trick us into giving the very top secret information he's seeking never really occurred to me.

but to be fair,  perhaps if i had been around for "recent activities" i'd be gripped with the same paranoia and these obvious red flags wouldve warned me to tread carefully, use caution before answering.

We REALLY DO NEED to use tact when posting questions and so on, & re-read what you write and try to think about how it will look to the other readers. I see this quite a bit and the posts are HARSH so much of the time.

There is no need for that.

A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself how YOU would prefer the question to be asked if it were you being questioned.

My .02 for all it is worth.

AND back on track...
PHS- I hope you are able to find a great provider!!!

Kisses,
Cheyenna

Although I know Misty's question was legit, I really thought most people knew that there are several types of equipment that allow a blind person to respond to telephone calls, board messages and read books.

The important thing is he wasn't offended. Thank goodness. And, to you Posthumousrex: You can use your hands to feel my body and count my freckles any day, hon.

Hugs,
ciara

Take a taxi to her location.  Make sure she knows your condition, and that she will need to meet you at the car to walk you in, as well as put you in a taxi home, and make sure the taxi driver will walk you in once you get home.  

I would totally do that...and I'm sure many other ladies would as well.  

xoMegan

by taking the long way to drive up the cost of the fare.

call the taxi company and tell them that you're blind and that you want an estimate of the cost of getting from point a to point b.

 drivers pay a set amount per day or per week to lease a car from a taxi company,  so the taxi company doesnt benefit AT ALL from customers getting ripped off by dishonest drivers and they will absolutely take precautions to prevent it especially if they know you're in a group thats apt to be taken advantage of.

such as the blind or people unfamiliar with a city.

That was exactly my point.