hen I am with someone, I do not want "porn" sex. Meaning, the gagging sounds, spitting, almost violent pressure and stroking - as found in free porn. Lots of providers are doing it that way now and it is kinda distracting for me, unless they REALLY know what they are doing and to quote a favorite comedian, "you don't. You may think you do, but you don't."
I like to feel lips. Soft pillowy lips. Moisture. But not so much that I can't feel anything else. And if you want, hum your favorite tune while starring deeply at the little guy. He likes a good quiet hum. But he would prefer if the "excitement" just popped up on him out of no where!
As for finish - we all know the best - key is, if it can't be that, find a way to make it feel that way. Just don't back away like you just saw a ghost.
I never ask up front what the finish is. I guess I should. Because that is what tends to be the difference between mind blowing, great, good, and ok. I mean, is there ever such a thing as a bad one? Nah..