First of all, I'd suggest you copy this over to S&P. Just a thought.
I think a lot of your complaints are valid, some of the same things have annoyed me a bit. However, I really think a lot of your post boils down to this: don't think of TER as a one stop shop for research. Put a little time and effort in. I always look at the rates on here with a shadow of doubt anyway. It's always best to confirm rates on her p411, her site, her ad, or by PM when confirming the date. As for women OOT, charging different rates in different cities; that all should be clearly stated on her site or her ad for the city in question. You wouldn't necessarily want to assume she's charging the same rate that she did when she was in your town last year anyway, so again, always confirm that from her.
Yes, it's not a perfect system because not all providers keep their TER profile up to date. But if admin is telling you that only she herself can update that portion of it, I'd say that's for the best. There's going to be less misinformation that way than if any Tom, Dick or Harry can just wander in and fiddle with it.
My point is, I never have an expectation that rates on TER profiles are set in stone. Get that from someplace that you know for certain SHE put it there.
Personally, I think there is such a thing as too much information. IMO, an outline of exactly what did and didn't happen and at exactly what rate for every last appointment is over that line. It will discourage women from specials, OTC time, and following their whims. A LOT of women put out there that they don't do xyz, because they don't ALWAYS want to do it. They do it when they're comfortable with the person, in the mood, whatever. They don't necessarily want absolutely anyone who happened to find their ad walking in and demanding it. A lot of johns will say that ain't fair, and maybe it isn't, but I do see the other side of that coin and I'm okay with it.
Earlier this year, I met a woman with like four reviews that all said only CBJ and only upon repeat visits. After I paid, she gave me those same ground rules. Five minutes later she's swallowing my dick. Bare. Next thing I know, she's laying on her back with her head hanging off the side and I'm standing there fucking her throat with wild abandon. Honestly made me feel like I was shooting porn. That wasn't an upsell. Just happened. I don't for a minute think I'm super special and that's the only time she ever did that. But I also don't think all four of those guys were lying to keep her secret. Maybe it was because I'm sweet. Maybe because I showed up with impeccable grooming and hygiene. Maybe she was just in a wild mood. Doesn't matter. I didn't review her, but if I had, I wouldn't have given all that up, and I wouldn't make a point of saying I paid the same as yet another guy who got HJ.
I've come to terms with the reality of YMMV. Sometimes, I'm on the other side of it. However, TOO MUCH info on review boards may start to spell the end of YMMV. Which I won't like, because it will be the same, low mileage for everyone.
As far as the one you met, if her rates and menu are wrong on her profile, do you feel comfortable enough with her to suggest she update them? Like you said, it's setting up other guys for a fall. She wouldn't want that either, if she's a decent provider. If she does less and charges more than her profile indicates, you should put that in a review. As I said, I see wisdom in letting the women handle their rates, but you can always file a PR about the services. If admin doesn't change it, maybe they will after they get several of them.
You do have a point about seeing someone who tours and it ends up looking like you saw her in her home base town. That's been brought up on S&P before and I think a lot of people agree.