I recently let a girlfriend back into my life after a year and half of not talking, she needed help, so I let her stay with me. Her car was and is broke down and her boyfriend now recently husband is a bastard, she set this up from the start with me (coming back into my life asking for help) she new her car was about to go, so I went to have it serviced for her, half way there the engine goes(or so her s.o . had said over the phone to me) YEA the same guy she wanted help from is now threatening me and telling me he will go to the police unless I fix her car. WOW, she took my car keys, (only set while she was here) among the many other awful things) in the end my bill at the dealership was $1500 for my car to get re-keyed and alarm reset and broken side mirror. I was trying to offer her my help and in two days she managed to destroy my life. I'm a wreck. I now am being told that I'm a hooker and a call girl, my keys have been redone on the house and mailbox. Because yes they were all on the keys she took, I had her and herself towed back to Mesa where she lived. All of this was to help her, I wanted to get her a massage , made an appointment for her hair, and tried to feed her positive energy from the start, she sucked the life right out of me, pre meditation is what had happen to blame her car on me (when she followed me home on the express way she went 45 miles an hour in a 65 mile(can go 74 if you want) and I wondered why she was going so slow,keep in mind this was me taking her back to my house helping her from this man and helping her get some prespective on her life, I've been burned in the past by her(bad) but its been a long time(people can change) and I wanted to help. This was a set up on her and her husband from the start, he now is telling me if I do not fix her car that she new was about to break or why did she go so slow behind me, knowing she couldn't go any faster for fear it would be sitting on the side of the road.  ,all this trying to help while she stayed at my house on the phone talking with the one person she wanted away from, the whole time she was there. I'm upset because I'm not sure what the legal rights are here, can they go to the police about my profession??? Yes they can, but what can be done? I screen my dates throughly , but now scared to answer emails or phone calls thinking they are all set ups. I'm so beside myself about this mess, I wanted to share this experience for two reasons, I wanted some advice as to what to do about these threats, and two, how much information does she know about me??? She knows the sites I'm on, TER, cityvibe, eros, phx.411, and whatever else she can pull up. What should I do , I'm really hurt that I opened my home, my heart, and my wallet up to a friend in need , when it was two con artists looking for a car to be fixed and they had the perfect plan (because neither had any money) there are known in the past to be extremely shady, I have an 8 year old son, so these threats hurt me and scare the hell out of me for the safety of my son. Should I go to the police?? Or should I just do extra screening on both phone and emails. Thanks for letting me vent my situation, and I hope this board can be of help, or if anyone else has ever had this happen, its hard to have a friend while being in this industry, if they want to hurt you they can use this against you, I KNOW, not a friend to began with , but I'm a changed women , positive, spiritual , happy(normally) except right now, devastated is more the word( didn't do spell check) I'm really hoping to trust and be of help, but this just brought me down to a level of disgust and excess pain and worry. Any thoughts on this shitty situation would be greatly appreciated, I do not talk to many women in the buisness, or personally for that matter, I guess my son always came and always will come first in my book, so it leaves me with some great dates and my other hobbies and goals, so a girlfriend was just what I was wanting, but what I got was some evil unthinkable bullshit, from a women, that I simple wanted to help. What to do , what to do.....
Sincerely,
Brooke

Brooke, I think there are some things that you can do.  I will email you and give you my references so you know I am legit.  The law part does give you some rights.

Threats are usually unfounded. They can notify the police, the question is- are the police going to take all the time and effort, not to mention the money it will take to go after you. You are only one person- most likely not worth it for them.
   Sorry you got burned. Ever heard the saying "Fool me once, shame on you- Fool me twice, shame on me"? I think it applies here. Once you learn to recognize users, you won't fall prey to their game anymore. I feel for you, been there as I think most people with a soft heart have been.
 Good luck-

themselfs. Just move along knowing you did your best for someone you thought was worth the effort. Most of the time good intentions seem to be rewarded somewhere down the line....

Tina and Hacker.  Keep your chin up, a smile on your face and forget them.  The nice thing about history is it is in the past and hopefully one can learrn from it instead of repeating our mistakes.  I would not worry about the threats, I think they are just that - threats.  Go about your daily business as if nothing has happened and show that love and compassion you have an abundance of to your son.  It's like my Daddy used to say, you won't remember this a hundred years from now.

I agree with Tina.  Law enforcement is very busy and spread thin- especially with the serial killer right now.  If you screen and take precautions I think your exposure will be pretty slim. Busting one provider does not make the headlines.  Leo's can go on Eros and cl all day long to make a bust but is doesn't seem so.  

All I can say is I do believe in Karma- and one day they will take advantage of the wrong person.  Don't talk to them- don't answer their phone calls, my guess is they will go away.  I have found many bullies are really weak people when it comes down to it.  They have to present this harsh scary outside because inside they are weak and lack brains and confidence.  The pray on the weak because they know the strong will not succumb to their threats.

You probably won't even remember it a year from now. If you let these folks get to you, then they win. Tough as it may be now, I'd just go on with your life and ignore them.

Thanks for the support and positive energy. I really needed to vent what happen and I did, today is a new day, I went for a run(first time in over a year) it felt so good getting all my frustration out, since dating is slow lately(hint hint) I have to get it out someway. I'm happy and positive today and most days, it felt good to talk to the board and ask advice, perhaps I seemed alittle uptight, but it had just happen and it was newly imprinted on my ass. I usually do not let much bother me, I love who I am and respect myself, even if others do not. I'm not here to fix the world, just to spread some love and have some fun and make some friends along the way! Thanks for listening. Oh and the gentleman that posted about the legal avenues, I would appreciate any information, because I do want to know what my options are if I need to have them, just incase, besides annoying phone calls and weird emails(which I can handle) if something more serious was to arise I want to be prepared, for me and my son's sake. Some people can be very dangerous, so I do not put anything past someone's capabilities. Peace and love with you and yours.
Sincerely,
Brooke

For a variety of reasons your lawyer will make you aware of, you're best served to not post anything more about this matter -- let alone in such detail. Sincere best wishes and best of luck. You deserve better.

by someone I was trying to help (yes, a provider damnit) I can relate to the frustration and disgust that you feel since you were just trying to help them so why are they acting pissed and threatening when you're the one that was used?..
Anyway, Like Tina and Hacker suggested, move on and try to stay upbeat. Just be wary next time and by all means DO NOT give them anything else. This will blow over. Once they realize they have nothing to gain by contact with you they will go away as all shitty people who use others tend to do.
They could try to inform LE or CPS about you or out you to family or friends so you might consider in what ways you are vulnerable in this regard but I would tend to think that LE would take personal threats more seriously than a lead on someone who may or may not be an escort..
I only talked to you the one time on the phone but you seem to be a caring and compassionate person and hopefully that good Karma will be revisited upon you

Regards,
--p#3

But no one here was helpful towards me, so I suggest removing this from the board because it's way too much information and people will later call you unstable along with a few other choice names, in other words...kicking you while you're already down. Email people you trust for advice and get your very private problem off this very public board where the police DO hang out.

Andi

PS If you'd like, you can email me and I'll get you going in the right steps legally.

Thanks for the advice Andi, I've said nothing illegal or unstable, just wanting some advice in whether or not any other providers might have had this happen to them, and if so, what did they do? This board (from what I've read in the past) sometimes talks about personal issues, if its involving topics related to this industry, I'm wondering about how others(meaning providers or even hobbiests have dealt with threats in the past). I feel that so many topics are discussed on this board, whether it be daily specials , in or outcall rates, what I am saying is a story in life that may or may not have happen to someone else in the past and what they did. I never disclose my dates, rates or other information pertaining to how I conduct myself during a date, which means I'm having a cup of tea when I leave out this door to meet anyone. Until references are checked, my doors remain a mystery. Similiar stories have appeared in the past , and it seems that alot of people(strangers or not) have offerend some advice whether good or not. Look what happen to me was a friend. So if this is what a friend does I would rather talk to a stranger, which includes this board, opionions here are clean, fresh, and to the point. Sometimes asking a stranger for advice that doesn't know you can help more, then someone that did know you because they already are partial to who you are because they are around you all of the time. I've had discussions brought upon me in the past too. Whether good or bad, its either here nor there. The truth comes out eventually about anyone. One person may have had a wonderful date with you and maybe someone didn't, that's part of life not everyone clicks, or maybe people's perceptions are different to a certain situation, meaning, cancellation fees, or two hour minimums are not everyone's thing. We can all agree to disagree, but that's the beauty of freedom of speech. I hope that whatever happen that nobody offered you help or advise for, was not blown out of porportion, sometimes statements I've seen can get really harsh on this board, but in the end most everyone either rereads or looks at what is really going on then gives their thoughts before jumping the gun on someone, if one has something bad to say another may correct it by giving a different outlook on what happen, causing that discussion to be of use to somebody that needed it. I agree this is a very public board, and my situation is a story, lengthy yes, but nevertheless a story, not what I do on dates. If you found this to be too personal then I'm sorry, but I'm a writer in my "personal" life and I tend to talk in detail "except" when it comes to details of my dates on a public site, that's not only stupid but stupid. So I appreciate your insite to how this site is, but I did nothing but tell a story not disclose my bedroom fantasies, my address and or even my site information(link that is) just a women looking for some advice on a couple of real assholes!

I don't think your "friends" want to bring themselves to the attention of the police by going to the police. You're beautiful. Stay that way.

Ok ... so I'm not very smart.  I been burned twice by providers. Once for 3k and once 3.4k. Both I'm told still operate around Phx. The 3.4k lady also burned two others for similar amounts explaining that the loan was needed for yoga school. So I don't loan money any more. A shame really.

Sorry for the Hijack- but-wow- now I don't feel so stupid.  Lesson leaned- if you loan someone money- think of it as a gift- because most of the times you will never get the money back.  I got screwed once by a provider (6g). She moved- yes I know where she lives- I guess I could sue her as I have a signed note- but then again she does have some dirt on me.   Oh well- I sleep well at night- can’t say the same for her.  But I did it again (just recently)- but I know her story is real- checked it all out and if I don't get paid back I am okay with that.  I am prepared this time to not recover the money. It made me feel good to help her and I expect nothing in return.  I hope others don't have to learn this lesson the hard way like us.

If a gal making $300+/hr has money problems it unequivocably must be her fault.
One key problem with U.S culture is that many people have no concept of how to live below their means, no matter how much money they make. Sad.