I was just curious if most guys were married here or not. Myself I am married and just moved to phoenix but had always wondered what percentage of guys are married in this hobby??

heck never even tried it too see what it was like

Not

I was married for nearly 24 years and never cheated on the wife-  Just a personal decision and stuck to my vows- But now that I'm on my own I'm starting to make up for lost time... And enjoying every minute of it!  Happy Hobbying...

And where did not cheating get you? A divorce! See that is how I Look at it-sacrifice fun for 20 years only to probably end my marriage some day in divorce and never see the wifey again-justlike pre nups-I also have one of those-maybe I am just more realistic these days that 2/3's of marriages end in divorce in CA (where I was from)-well maybe moving here my chances are better since I hear the national stats are only 50 percent end! Encouraging!

I was married when I started hobbying.  Now single.  There may be a connection - or not.

For me personally I would save 75% of my clients are married.

This is just a guess  because believe it or not....sometimes guys say they are single and later you find out NOT TRUE .....I could never figure out why someone  would lie when paying for company, but my guess is most are married maybe 80% the rest seem to be between relationships or recently seperated and then there are the single ones that are just enjoying a variety of ladies and having fun its all good .....V

Ended a marriage about a year and a half ago.  Would never have cheated.  Now I have no interest in another long term relationship so this keeps me going.

Sleepy, not everyone gets  seperated by choice driver lost his wife to illness.....

It certainly was her loss!

I've never had anyone lie about being married...in this biz anyway...seems to me there would be no reason too. I think the percentage is somewhat higher. just my opinion (no big deal anyway)

But in civvy life...yes all the time.

Victoria and Terri are correct in their estimates.

In the real world of the hobby this state of affairs can effect the business in a way that most hobbyists do not and can not imagine. It gives the hackneyed phrase “play safe” a sinister depth of meaning that can place an untold amount of pressure on the ladies from the powers that be.

I have known of escorts who have had to fight some incredibly messy and expensive [and some, not so messy and expensive] legal battles with the wives of clients... Sometimes the names of escort are thrown around in the heat of domestic disputes, etc. etc... I think you all can "take the ball and run with it" from there.

But, that can be the least of an escort’s worries.

The most devastating result is often produced by those shady, sleaze-ball characters that are into profit and control… After all, prostitution is a very lucrative and illegal business.

LOVE AND PEACE,

Sheika Fatima

first time to highschool sweetheart..second time to the mother of my children...one day she asked me if i wanted a divorce(the day before my boys graduated high school) and got the answer she wasn't lookin for..just wasn't happy and faced up to it(ofcourse theres more to it),but in the end i'm happier..don't plan on doing it again..she would have to really special..

i call her and tell where i am   haha   no  im single for 17 years now

I have done some surveys in my time. Single myself. But have a lot of friends who hobby. Key here, it is for various reasons, pasts, emotional, to many to name.

It really doesn't mater though. It is each individuals choice. Being part of a group does not make the decision the right thing or wrong thing. It is a personal thing. One of the most personal there is.

As for single guys, in between relationships is my gig. And the beauty of the hobby for a single guy is you never make a committment to a woman for the wrong reason (the little head). You truly want someone you can hang out with, trust, talk to at all times of the day when things are good and bad, who does not judge you or look at you like an atm. The games go away because you have options for physical fulfillment. Which in itself is a huge motivator and part of the base of Maslows Hieracrchy that we must have, like eating, breathing, etc. When I date, I date for the right reasons. My friends are my friends, male and female, for the right reasons. Because I think they are pretty cool...and I know they have my back.

As for married guys, well, trust is based on so many things. Staying married is for so many reasons. I did that poll too. Why do guys stay with their spouse turned out to be an interesting answer for guys that hobby. The majority (like 90%) stayed with their spouse for family/financial reasons - mostly financial. A bit sad that love has left the building if you know what I mean. Yea, you hear the stories. Illnesses, struggles, etc. causing guys to hobby. Hmm, why do they hobby so heavy then. We need this in various quantities depending on testerone. But I would say as a percentage, part of those stories are untrue. Some are not and I do not judge.

Look inside yourself guy. Why do you want to? Not are you part of a group. And be totally honest with yourself. That level of respect for yourself will lead you to the right reason. And  that will or will not make you a good hobbyist. Your choice.

Peace,




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The question wasn't why married guys stay with their spouses...Hopefully they love their spouse but for what ever reason they do stay it's not important. Even if some love has been lost over the years they still think of them first and are good providers.

What I said was there is no reason for him to lie about being married when setting up an appointment...if fact from what I have witnessed they are very upfront with it.. for obvious reasons. And for most out of what ever percentage rate you choose to use, they hobby for the need of what's not happening at home.

As far as the single guy goes, I have known a few of them in my 22 years of being divorced and it's pretty easy to pick up a sweet thing at the bar after a night of drinking and dancing.

Not saying all do but I think the % rate for married is somewhat higher. (Like over 80% as stated in original post)


side note:
The guys that do lie about being married are the ones at the bar!!!! witnessed that too! heeee heee

Sleepy, I'm really trying to be a nice guy here, especially since in your last famous thread you insulted several of our beautiful Phoenix providers... But you really need to think before you post... Not cheating had nothing to do with the demise of my marriage...

With me most are honest for safety's sake. Some are not because they feel kinda guilty. Some aren't because they want you to think they are single so that they can try to date you on the side. And some truly are single and not interested in the dating game. Bottom line is...we are all motivated by what it is that is important to ourselves. Just be careful and play safe

Thanks Terri, you can make a man, for a few hours anyway, forget all his troubles and then some!!

I'm married, and have been for over 20 years.  Honestly, though, we haven't slept together in a long time, and we're basically staying together until our youngest graduates from high school in two years.  Our kids really have no clue, and we don't fight, but there's really no spark left -- and, mutually, no desire to rekindle a spark.  She doesn't really know I'm involved in this "hobby," and probably wouldn't like it if she knew I were, but mostly because of (a) the money, and (b) the fear that the story would get out and injure her reputation or image or whatever.  I've been quite honest with the women I've seen in the business, not because I'm trying to date them or whatever, but just because . . .  I've been lucky enough to see some very caring, understanding, smart women, and it helps to talk honestly about this -- something I've really not wanted to do with other acquaintances.  And date again?  God, the thought terrifies me.

I'm married but only in the legal sence. We're separated (but still good friends) and she actually told me to go get laid a couple months ago!

Been there, done that!!! Almost did it a second time, luckily my former fiance was a rare female commitmentphobe.