I have been an enthusiastic hobbyist for about 20 years, married for 12.  My wife is a wonderful, intelligent, funny, great person but lousy in bed.  She also has no sex drive.  It has been over a year since we.......

I also am in a similar situation. Married nearly 20 years, with my wife really in "mood" only two or three times a year, for the past 15 years I've been having fun in the valley. I do miss the parties and meet and greets.

Lexi,
I know you said the question was for the gents, but this is something we have had a number of clients share information about--so we thought we would share. Not sure why, but we have had many cool conversations on this subject with some great gentlemen. Anyway, the vast majority of them say that it does help because it removes some of the pressure with their wife because they aren't as demanding in the bedroom since they are having their needs met elsewhere. Obviously, it depends upon the individuals involved and a whole lot of other factors, but we have had a few people say that without being able to play outside the home, they probably would have gotten a divorce a while ago.

Pushing 7 years and has helped.  There is not the pressure from wanting fun when my wife is not wanting that much these days due to age.

I started about 7 years ago. My wife started having complications from Diabetes well before that so all of our concentration was on dealing with those issues Her condition slowly deteriorated and the possibility of ever having a normal physical relationship was deteriorating along with it. I dipped my toe into the provider pool slowly and soon found the water was great so I dove in head first. Now I am a full time caregiver for my wife and getting out to visit providers keeps me happy, healthy and able to deal with the stress created by the situation.
JC

Lexi
I've been in the hobby for over 30 years. I have done so through several relationships and my marriage of 19 years. It does help because it takes the pressure off my wife. She is wonderful and we have sex weekly but she is not adventurous at all. So this allows me to explore fantasies and do things she won't consider. men generally have stronger sex drives than women and in a marriage pressure to have sex can be a problem. This is a perfect escape valve.

Been with my wife 50 yrs. In the hobby 15 hasn't hurt or helped just lets fantasies come out ounce in a while.

I’m married for 27 years and the wife’s sex drive is next
To zero.  I’ve been in the hobby for longer and I enjoy having the oral gratitude it can bring.  Now I live 2 hours from the valley so I’ve become accustomed to the SB world, however I’ll move back soon enough and get to see the providers which make it better.