Hi all,

I rarely post but was looking for opinions.

Anyone know where/how best to meet a sugar baby? I enjoy the hobby but am curious about exploring this avenue. I've seen some posts on the topic and noticed some providers do LTRs.

Thanks!

I would have pm'ed you some info but since you're using an alias, so will I. Good luck

I'd be curious on learning more.

I actually answered a few of these ads and met a few gentlemen in person before I became a provider.

One of them had had a sugar baby/daddy arrangement with a college girl before she graduated and moved away. He was looking for a replacement, but rekindled things with an old flame instead. One I tried to see but he had scheduling issues and we rarely saw each other.

I finally gave up on it because it was too much like a relationship and most guys were expecting bbfs. It was like you were their girlfriend but only because you were getting compensated. I only would want to do bbfs with an SO and not because someone was giving me money. Guys don't expect that when you are a provider.

There are a few websites specifically for these kinds of arrangements, but that is not how the average guy finds them. A lot of times they run into a girl who needs some extra money (like a college student). But I'm sure the "ad" approach works as well.

From what I noticed about the whole SD/SB thing is that it is cheaper and has more advantages then a hobbiest/escort relationship... But only for the guy... They get way more for way less money because the girls and guys are naive but for the most part they just play that roll... It just seems a lot easier to eliminate all the BS and get down to the main reason why both parties are there in the first place... Sorry if my response is too real...

...your response that is and pretty much agree. There always the few SB exceptions that know how to work a sd/sb relationship in their favor tho (usually after a lot of trial&error).

Escort. Both parties are honest about what they want and what they offer.

Sugar. Both parties are interested in getting as much as possible, to give back as little as possible.

Escort. Both parties are subject to certain standards. Bad behavior can result in blacklisting for guys and income losses for the ladies.

Sugar. Zero accountability.


Escort sites are best suited for gentlemen looking to have NSA fun with hot ladies and comment.

The sugar sites are best suited for "gentlemen"(and I use that term loosely) who are interested in taking advantage of women in need or for men who like to pretend they are not paying for it. Occasionally there is a divine justice, and they end up with real gold digger and get taken for a ride.

lol & prefer this arrangement with my good friends!

I post rarely as well (I think this is the second time in 8 years.)

I've done the SD/SB thing several times, and in my case at least it's been more
expensive in than being in the "hobby." There are several sites dedicated to
that type of arrangement, most are terrible, there's only one ("SA") that's worth
your time, and easily more than half of the women there are escorts as well,
so you're probably better off looking here!

My two "best" SD/SB relationships were with providers, and I was responsible
for taking one very popular provider off the market many years ago, and we stayed
together in a normal relationship for a long time after that.

Pros:
Possibly exclusivity
Each of you get to know each other pretty well, which can make things more fun.
More time together/travel companion cheaper than normal provider rates.
Regular schedule is possible.

Cons:
Expense (a "real" SD/SB situation is going to be $2500-$5000/mo. You might be
lucky and find someone who would be your girlfriend anyway and wants $1K/mo to
help with bills, but I've never found that in real life.) I might be biased because I
go for very long term (many months to years)

Golddiggers/sneaks. Some SBs keep boyfriends on the side when they've negotiated
that they're exclusive, and are actually the "breadwinner" of the couple. No issues if
this is disclosed, but when it's a secret it creates a pretty weird dynamic (boyfriend
sees you as a threat, checks in all the time, or the SB cancels dates due to BF drama.)
The golddigger ploy is to keep having "emergencies" that are something that prevents
the girl from seeing you, so she manages to get paid for not showing, and hits you up
for cash to "fix" that problem. Either of these happen, pull the plug right then and there,
you'll save yourself time and grief.

Commitment/dependency. In some situations you will be the SB's sole means of support,
and boy does that open the door for drama (she blows off multiple dates in a row, you
go to pull the plug and trust me, life gets interesting.)

When the SB/SD thing works, it's fantastic, but when it doesn't, you're paying a lot
more for a lot less. I've been looking for another arrangement for the past year and
haven't found anything suitable, mostly because I can spot the signs of bad news
a lot better now.

My preference is something I'd like to repeat, which is many years ago I saw one
provider on a regular schedule (but without any fixed commitment) for years. Downside
was no exclusivity but it had all the pros of the arrangement. Haven't found anyone
for that in the past year, either.

Hi Smokey,


I was a sugar baby for about 7 yrs he was a wonderful person who is in the mile high club now may he rest in peace. But everyone has a different outlook on this sugar baby deal. Are you married? Do you seek
multiple days per week or whenever you want? So much effort has to go into connecting and communicating I don't think a sugar daddy site is the answer where they promise you will have sex or refund your money . In fact, i can't see how they are legally getting away with that lol! To me it's a form of pimping , but back to the question. I would say meet the providers you like, and depending on the financial assistance you provide, one might retire , seeing only you , or only see select people.

Start with multiple hour dates, let things take their pace to ensure you that neither person is pretending to want or desire to be with the other. Hope this helps you ...

XO
Angela

You got that right about the word gentlemen. I dabbled on those sites just because I am a curious person . I met one man who was a TER member . He took me on trips , Boston for a Redsox game, a lovely place in Chicago for a playtime overnight getaway but I'll tell you something. He had a difficult time parting with currency . Made promises he could not or would not keep then one time PMed me to tell me he found someone who will see him at no cost at all just dinner. Good luck to that .One think I see on those kind of sites is a fatal attraction on its way . The what if's don't seem to strike the men at all.

What if : Spouse or family member found out and decided to go after the two ? It has happened before on occasions where the wife cracks up and shoots the other woman or both or the husband . Look at the Buttafuoco  story. The guys are reeled in with a promise that if they pay a membership fee that they will have sex with a female member and I think that's one helluva scam .

Stay here you are safer.

Angela