Being on the provider side of the equation I can understand and agree with all that Secret Squirrel wrote and I don't think that the post was meant to be disrespectful or insulting... just informative/educational. Maybe a little humor would have made it less annoying or offensive.

You made very valid and important points for the hobbyist's side of the equation. I know that there are some very poor providers out there because I talk to a lot of guys and I've heard some awful stories. Luckily there's a lot of great providers out there so there's no excuse to ever go back to a bad provider. Don't give the bad ones your business/money and warn others about them. Reward the good providers with your busines and put the bad ones out of the business! That's what these boards are for and that's why EVERYONE should be writing reviews, good or bad.

Sorry Muffyman it wasn't meant to anoy anyone. It was meant to stir a response, just like the one you gave. Bravisimo, well said and points all well taken. I gave one point of view, you gave the view from the other side of the coin. I agree with everything you said and applaud you for taking the time to write it all out. Too often in this business we (providers and hobbiests)get caught up in the "me" syndrome, when it should be a mutually benificial experience. Perhaps the climate in Phoenix with all the LE, and publicity has brought out the less desirable men who normally do not partake in the industry, but feel that if times are tough enough they can get away with deplorable behavior from any provider.(because business is slow and we have to be less selective ?, just a guess)
If the original post came off as harsh or crass, that wasn't the intention. It was intended to offer blantent obvious things that hobbiests should think about before ever picking up that phone or writing that email to call on a companion. I think your post also does that same thing for the providers who try and cram (no pun intended)as many appointments into a day, are never prepared to stay the length of time they offer or are unscrupulous and dishonest. They will be exposed here and on other review sites. But for the provider there is no other way for us to "review" hobbiests and let them know that their actions were ungentlemanly like or just plain obnoxious. So sometimes we have to make generalizations, to spark some good old fashioned debates and conversations.
Signing off...
Secret Squirel

Hi everyone,
I have been around for a while now and have learned the hard way about the importance of these issues.
      I have also had some experiences recently that left me dumbfounded.  I fully agree with the respect issue.  However I try to see the situation from the gentleman’s point of view also.
 I will try to make my thoughts as short and to the point as possible using the same categories.
Class:  Some respect it, some do not.  I have encountered some clients that feel the need to make sure they get their money's worth with MY session AND for the previous session where they had been screwed over.  I generally meet very respectful men but again there are exceptions. Some men think we like being treated like we are a lower class. If you want to see someone and really want to make it mutually enjoyable do your homework. You do not need to grill her on what she does or does not do. You should be able to tell by her reviews what she does and does not do.  You can also tell what she enjoys.  If someone does not have enough reviews to make your decision simply do not see her until she does. There are plenty of ladies out there that are very well and abundantly reviewed.  I agree with not being drunk during your appointments. I learned that one the hard way Nobody wants to see anyone who is not absolutely at their best. Making the bed and having a clean home is kind of common sense.  Fresh towels and sheets are a must.  A clean house leaves a good impression.  So to sum it up just because your behavior is not bad does not mean that everyone's is great.  Also for the ladies try to be respectful in return by not being plowed out or being anything less than sparkling clean even if that means setting your appointments further apart. I am sure a gentleman would be happier to wait a bit longer to see you knowing that you will be fresh. With this one it goes both ways. If you book an hour appointment it should finish closer to an hour, if not you should book more time.  If you wonder why someone isn’t available at the agreed time is is just as possible that another client is disrespectful of a provider’s time just as it is possible that the provider might not be respecting your time.
Style: It is as simple as this: again do your homework.  If you are looking for PSE look into the reviews. I am not a porn star so I offer more of an intimate GFE type thing. I am more playful rather than PSE. Although some reviews are not 100% accurate in some cases, if you go through at least five or more of them you will find some consistency and possibly some inconsistency when doing your homework. You can Judge from there. This is not rocket science. The purpose of a review website like this is to give the clients a chance to share experiences.  Fear of LE will prevent the ladies from being explicit.  Fear of rip-offs will prevent gentlemen from participating in the hobby.  Reading the reviews can mitigate the risks but as TER states on its home page, “everything posted on this site is a work of fiction, written for entertainment and amusement purposes only”.  Just as a reviewer could blatently lie, so can a provider.  If the providers can lie too, will it really make you feel better if a rip-off artist tells you what you want to hear?  You are still going to be ripped off in the end.  It is like the liars paradox, the real providers won’t tell you what you want to hear, the rip-offs won’t tell you what you want to hear, so why ask the question? Ladies we don't have to be rude. Leave that to someone who might not have any class. A simple, “no thank you" will do. A client might not even realize that they are being disrespectful and will either learn or not. Keep in mind that stupidity does not run in a particular sex. We ladies by trial and error have to learn too. By accusing we are only making it more difficult. As for rushing I am not sure what to say. Muffyman said that some girls talk to waste the session.  Many reviews describe a GFE as providing a no-rush comfortable session”.  Some clients are interested in taking their time and establishing a rapport with the provider, just as the provider may want that kind of rapport with the client.  I talk a lot for that reason, not to waste time. I also do not cut my sessions off if I know I have spent a lot of time chatting. If you are in a hurry gently lead the lady to into play time or let her know that you are on your lunch hour and have to be back at a certain time. I do not know about other ladies but I offer a second cup if someone is done in 20 minutes. Again this is something you can get a feel for if you read a lady's reviews. As far as the offering drinks issue is concerned. I have bottled water and sodas.  I do not charge outrageous fees and do not see fifty people in a day so Muffy that is not a fair assumption on your part. I would be happy to pick something up for someone if they ask ahead of time. I like to make sure someone is happy but I am not going to put in a fully stocked bar to accommodate. I try to meet requests if I can when given notice. Simple.......
Grace: What can I say, some people are just not very graceful. Accept each other or don't. Do not get into a business you do not like doing. Don't man- handle the ladies. I have sent people home in the past when after three warnings they did not stop manhandling me.  Dirty talk is a blast but degrading talk can be annoying and disrespectful if a lady is not into it. Again do your homework and you will have an idea. Also I personally do not mind someone asking if I like role playing or dirty talk. I will tell you my personal limits. There are acceptable questions. An example is, “what is your tipping policy?" or “Is your rate a flat rate?" As far as discounts and specials you don't go into a restaurant and offer fifteen dollars for a thirty dollar steak. You will get a rude answer or nothing at all.  If you are on a limited budget it does not hurt to ask if the lady offers any specials. She always has the opportunity to say no.  Tipping is a nice thing and always appreciated but if a lady has a flat rate that is high to begin with she is not expecting a tip and by doing so you are only saying that she went above and beyond the call of duty and that you appreciate her. Bottom line if you really want to make sure you will have a connection ask the lady to take 5 minutes out of her day to chat with you on the phone. Do not ask stupid questions but see how she responds to casual conversation. See if she starts complaining about how bad her life is or asking you who you have seen and if you liked them.  By her being in a hurry or rude you will know. Do not take up her whole day but Make sure she gives you the time you deserve. A five minute conversation can tell you whether you will enjoy yourself intellectually or not. The reviews will say the rest. Again it doesn't have to be that hard for either of us.
My advice to the Gentlemen out there;
1: Make sure that the lady you have in mind is someone you are attracted to not someone you are wanting to see because of rate or convenience only. This can make for a better time.
2: read her reviews and make sure she likes the same things that you like. Again these things can vary a bit but generally you will know.

I have learned the hard way on all these things but I am not here to blast men. Stupidity comes in all shapes, sizes and sex, as does common sense. My sermon for the day
I am off to buy a can of mace and a stun gun:0
On a serious note I hope we can all learn to play nice.
Donna