We all know that providers are skilled at creating fantasy.  The best make us feel wanted, desired, even needed.  This is not to say that any or even most of the providers you see don't genuinely enjoy your company and what you do together, but the best providers make ALL the gentlemen they see feel that way, not just you.

(At the same time, if one repeats and gets to know a provider, friendships and even affection can naturally occur.  Sometimes its hard to distinguish between "real" feelings and that which is offered to every client.)

The Gallop Pole started thinking, therefore, about those of us who are not providers.  How often do you nonetheless use some of the skills of a provider, especially vis-a-vis relationships?  Do you work with a boss or client with whom you must act as though you like them?  Are you in a domestic relationship that requires you to make a partner feel desires that don't really exist?

Do you have some (any) of what it would take to be a provider?  Do you use it?

-- Modified on 3/19/2007 7:13:35 AM