Many men make the mistake of assuming all sex workers are the same. They may try to hire a stripper for sex or assume the prostitute they have hired will perform any sex act for the right price. Even if their assumptions are not this glaring, most men don’t understand the distinctions within the field of Escorting, and consequently find it difficult to have fulfilling paid encounters. The remedy for this frustration is as simple as acquainting yourself with the variety of sex professions and the corresponding boundaries that tend to come with any job description. After all, as a paid professional in your chosen field, you refer to a mental list of tasks and responsibilities that define your position. Sex work is not much different. While it is true that any professional who works for themselves is free to accept jobs that are unfamiliar to their usual repertoire of paid activities, this freedom does not always translate to availability. Of course, not all sex workers fall neatly into the categories I have spelled out below. There is not only some cross-over and blending, but lots of confusion as well. Unfortunately, there are few classes or formalized training in this field, so everyone is free to call themselves whatever they like. But having a working knowledge of the different classifications of escorting services will help you understand some basic expectations and assumptions and hopefully make your shopping experience more pleasant.
INCALL ESCORT: This sex worker receives clients at her/his apartment on an appointment basis, charging for her/his time by the hour. The use of the term “escort” here, is inaccurate since the definition of “escort” is to accompany another person to some event or location. Nevertheless, the term “escort” has stuck and we are stuck with it.
OUTCALL ESCORT: This sex worker visits the client in his/her home or hotel, charging for her/his time by the hour.
TRAVELING ESCORT: This sex worker advertises her/his impending visit to a particular city and books as many appointments as possible in advance to justify her/his travel to that location. The escort pays for her/his travel expenses and operates much as an Incall Escort once she/he arrives. She/he charges for her/his time by the hour.
EROTIC MASSAGE: This may or may not involve sex depending upon your definition of sex. Some practitioners get certified in some form of massage, others study tantra and still others just give one hell of a “hand job.”
PROFESSIONAL DOMME: This is a job practiced almost exclusively by women. The Pro Domme may also enjoy the dominant role as a part of her lifestyle when she is not working or this may be something she only does for money. If she is a lifestyle dominant, she may be interested in a “houseboy” or slave. However, most likely she wants you to pay for her time instead of trying to barter with housework. You are usually NOT allowed to touch a pro dome although she can and will inflict a great deal of physical pain and/or humiliation on you. Whatever her rules, familiarize yourself with them as she is not likely to tolerate any infractions.
GFE (Girl Friend Experience): This sex worker interacts with her clients for extended periods of time (afternoons, evenings, days, weekends, etc.) usually including dinner and/or entertainment and other activities usually associated with “free” dating. The time shared is more personal and emotionally intimate than what usually transpires during hour appointments. Travel may or may not be involved, but whatever the circumstances of the date, the sex worker spends all her time with that client. In other words, her services differ from those of the Traveling Escort, in that she would never book two clients in one day. Consequently, the client is expected to pay handsomely for her time.
COURTESAN: A courtesan takes the Girl Friend Experience to a whole new level. She prides herself in being educated and accomplished as well as a perfect companion. Her clients are looking for an empowered woman who speaks her mind and presents something of an intellectual challenge. She is allowed to age as well as argue.
Obviously, you will have to interview each prospect as an individual and ascertain how she/he perceives her/his role in a potential encounter. But if you are aware of the different classifications of escorting services as they are currently expressed in our culture, you will be way ahead of the game.
For instance, knowing whether a sex worker provides incalls or GFE, can give you some idea of the time constraints and monetary compensation involved. Incalls are usually cheaper because the sex worker can see more clients in a day. However, if you want a date where you are the center of her world and you take up a good portion of her day, expect to pay her well for all that attention. It really is a simple formula you should be quite familiar with in other areas of your life. If you eat at a family restaurant where the prices are reasonable, you don’t expect 5 waiters to your table hovering over your every move. You get what you pay for and if you want an extended culinary experience you know you are going to spend more money for the pleasure of it. Similarly, if you seek the services of someone who works with hair, you know there are hair stylists that will do pretty much whatever you tell them to (they usually charge less for their services) and there are hair professionals that consider themselves artists and will do whatever they like to your hair (they usually charge more). Ironic perhaps but true. The steeper the price tag, the more independence and initiative the professional tends to take. So don’t expect the high-priced courtesan to take direction from you. You are more likely to get that kind of compliance when you pay less. Again, this is an economic reality that translates to any profession and one you as both a professional and a consumer, should already be familiar with.
