I answered "Yes" but only because it fit more than the others. I have had a few provider encounters in the past. (before TER) and I told my wife about them. Our sex lives have been better since, but I wasn't caught. I told her about them because we have something special and different. She excepts my need to experiment (though it's been years)and in return I play safe. Lately I haven't played, but I love to hangout here and get to know all the wonderful ladies for that day sometime in the future. And, as you've seen, I'm more interested in getting my wife involved in this than having my own seperate encounters.

Sorry I've rambled on here, but I guess I'm curious how many have open communication with their S/O that allows them to discuss this sort of thing. In otherwords, how many have confessed to seeking out M/Ps and other providers and shared the experiences with the Mrs?

It's good to hear that you were able to tell you s/o and not be persecuted forever for it. I think a lot of marriages would be much better if the people in them understood that enjoying this hobby isn't meant to be hurtful to them...it's meant to be a chance for some variety, a change of pace. Everybody needs that at some point or another to add some newness to their lives and relationships. When people are together for awhile they tend to take things and each other for granted...mostly out of boredom. I love it when a client tells me that visiting me makes him much more relaxed and happy at home. Because his needs are met he doesn't have to be frustrated all of the time wondering if he'll ever get some 'attention' and his wife is happier not being 'pestered'.  ;o)