Both the recent little "ruckus" over some of my comments and the "poor" review on calli made me ponder this question.

Probably more of a question for the "lurkers" out there...when it comes time to choose your next adventure, is there anyone in particular who you tend to lean on review wise for guidance??

As a lurker.. (thanks Mya and one who doesn't participate in the hobby more than a couple of times a year, I look at the sum total of the reviews.  If it is a new girl, I'm probably not going to see her without a reference from one of the well reviewed ladies or a lunch.

Just my two bits.

LOL, almost as often as you do cutie.....

So now you want to play gangbang since I "dissed" a member of your little club. I dont hide behind an alias when I talk smack like you and so many others. I've got long way to go before I get trashed as badly as you do in SD and elsewhere.....

Your question starts by talking about the Discussion Board, but then asks about Reviews.  There's a HUGE difference.  Personally, I think there are a couple people who post comments here, who believe they are doing a service to other hobbyists by having an opinion on every topic.  They remind me of the people on Karaoke Night who won't give up the microphone because they think everybody wants to hear their off-tune voice.

This business isn't rocket science, and just because a guy sees a lot of girls, or posts a lot of reviews/comments, doesn't make his opinion any more valuable to me--probably just the opposite.

Beyond that, how can anybody know whether another guy is posting a good or bad comment or review with pure intentions?  Things get posted all the time with the apparent purpose of pumping up one provider/agency or knocking down another.  We have no way of knowing whether favors (freebies, extra time, discounts, priority booking) come as a result of these postings.

So, my $.02-worth is that I think the most credibile reviews are probably from the guys who are otherwise quieter than average.




"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." --Mark Twain

I was referencing two recent threads that prompted the question.

There IS a big difference between a "411" post on this or any other part of the BBS and a review. BBS posting doesnt always correlate to reviews at all. Basically TER is a review baord and the general consensus is that reviews drive business to some degree. Obviously it helps to weed out the rip off's and the "General access" portion gives some basic 411 and a rating. The VIP provides more specific information as well as a more detailed "Blow by blow"....

Personally I tend to discount anyone with just 1 or 2 reviews since I dont know how experienced they are. I also tend to prefer reviews that give me some feel for possible chemistry vs the "alphebet soup" menu of services....

I actually agree with your last comment to some degree. My "favorite" reviewer for Phoenix is BASSVOICE...a great guy but also a talented reviewer. {added at edit} TEACH4U is another guys who's reviews I consult often.

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I promise...BASSVOICE isn't the karaoke singer I was referring to (I'm sure his is beautiful!)  Funny coincidence, though.

Andre is a friend....and one of the good people on the planet.

I am a nice guy and my "attitude" here on the boards is fine. We've never met for a number of reasons...none of which has anything to do with my "attitude" here. Other than my comments regarding Asherah....which were actually directed at the reviewers not the reviewee I cant think of anything "mean" I've said to anyone who didnt deserve it.......

Why did I bring it up, because I'll play this out however you want to. I actually enjoy your postings (mostly) and have never slammed you directly. If you decide you want to start in on me...just know I wont tuck tail and run. We can be friends or we can ignore each other...or you can pick a fight...your call.

And we both know the review I wrote you was favorable and that I gladly conceeded your well deserved reputation BCD. My comment was directed at reviewers who I felt handled the "looks" rating in a less then candid manner. My intention was not to ruffle your feathers and I have no problem apologizing for an unkind delivery even if I stand behind the comment.

You have to seperate out the professional "you" which is subject to "review" from your personal identity. I found you to be smart talented and good company...and I said so. I also refrained from posting here since I didnt feel I good be both forthright and still post a complimentary review that did you justice.

As I stated elsewhere and above I have no ax to grind with either you or Mya. We can let this die down or we can take the gloves of and get serious about it....

Cant we just try to get along??? LOL Lets get serious here a moment.

I could be called a "lurker". And Mya is right, I read between the lines of most of the posts on this discussion board. Believe me when I say you can tell alot about a person by the way they post on the board.

I never have read a review of any one , nor will I ever. I will not base my decision on another "guys" opinion of how their intimate adventure went for several reasons:

1. MOST GUYS LIE. Most guys of full of themselves when it come to the bedroom. ( It would be interesting to see the providers view and their side of the incounter.)

2. The experience depends on the chemistry between the provider and client and may not be the same for both.

3. Last but not least...what in the heck is wrong with the "MYSTERY"of the encounter. I for one like the first touch, the first kiss, not knowing what her reaction will be to something I do, not knowing what she will do, or how she will do it. It all makes the second encounter more exciting.

I already know who my first provider will be, and it wasn't based on anyones review. (now if I can just get it scheduled )

Just a little old fashioned!!

I’ve been a lurker here for a long, long time. I haven’t actually ever crossed the line and become anything more, so I have as of yet never picked a “next adventure.”  Although, I have considered doing so many times, and toy with the idea often. Regardless, I can’t say there is any one reviewer alone that I would consider for guidance. I think to rely on any one person would be foolish, there are just too many variables in play. I tend to gain my perspective on a provider by gauging her overall reviews and then people that make them. Exceptionally good and bad reviews without a strong trend I tend to discount. Moreover, any reviews by new people I tend to disregard. So in the end I think the trend speaks volumes more than any one single review can. Even then as with all things in life there is always a certain amount of chance involved. Maybe that’s why I still haven’t crossed over and become a reviewer myself. However, based on many reviews and reading this board for more than a year now, I know almost without exception who the first person I will contact should I ever wish to become established will be. I probably know the second as well. For that I think nearly everyone who contributes should be thanked.

I've never gone wrong going on the advice of modprod.  He's reviewed alot of great ladies, and in his concise style, let's us know what was expected, what was received, and whether or not it was satisfying.

I consider myself a lurker, and depend on reviews to help me protect my meager discretionary dollar.

Because a review tells me exactly what I want to know about a provider when I venture out:

1. Is she legit?
(Not LE, CnD,BnS...pick your acronym.)

2. Did she deliver what she offered for what she promised?
(FS-or something less? Upsell? "Starts at"?, etc.)

The rest of it, well...it's definitely entertaining to read, and some people are more compelling writers than others.

Is it Useful? *shrugs*

Your Mileage MAY Vary?
Your Mileage WILL Vary.

How can we possibly get the REAL story anyway?
What even IS the real story?

What I rely on most from a review isn't learning the difference between some guy's "6" experience and his "10" experience...

It's learning whether I am going to get conned, robbed, maced, beaten or possibly killed or not.

And because I can vividly recall those dark days of the not so distant past, all you reviewers are the best in my book.

And for your efforts, and the time you take to share them, I thank you.

Just one guy's perspective-for what it's worth.
Cause yours has been worth a hell of a lot to me.

JJ

Seriously,

I have found that discussions with the providers lead me to the best times.  They know what I like, much more than any guy does, so I listen to them.

That's how I met Mya and Monique and Carlee (I miss Carlee) and Asherah and Roxanne and Tina and just about every other provider I have seen in the last year.  The last time I listened to a fella's recommendation, I wished I hadn't.

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within certain parameters it holds true. At the same time not all providers are friends either. All in all back channel reccomendations (off all kinds) tend to be better. But many are dependent on "public" resources like TER, I was curious how the reviews are utilized and weighted.

Asherah I agree with you.  My respect for you keeps growing as you slowly reveal yourself to us here on this board.  We all can learn from the sincere and tactful way you present your feeling.

Thank You Asherah...your post is soooooo dam true and I truly believe that our business is sooooo very personal and we do care, I know I couldn't do this if I didn't care and certainly couldn't if I didn't enjoy the total giving of me and my mind..But times like these it's hard to do your job when your constantly defending yourself, in the end we really can though...with age comes Maturity and Wisdom and Self Confidence and Elegance
You have all of it and more!!!

xoxox
terri

As I stated above there was never any intent to trash you and I'm appreciative of the opportunity to end this amicably (sp?)...

In answer to your question, I feel that even if the format is disagreeable in some ways its intent needs to be honored. And I did/do feel that many violate it in both directions for various reasons.

I'd like to point out that I walk the walk with regard to my comments. My own ATF is on the bottom half of my "appearence" scales if we ave all 14 reviews. 2nd I've NEVER maliciosly (sp?) slammed any gal in a review.

I certainly have no issue with those who care for you coming to your defense....as I have for others. My only "gripe" is the inference of malicious intent instead of a simple difference of opinion.

All the Bast

As I side note I'm unaware of a single gal who's met me personally with any negative experiences or comments...

Knowing you as I do I’m hoping you wouldn’t object to me adding as follows;

..."with age comes Maturity and Wisdom and Self Confidence and Elegance" [and Self-discipline].