and have learned my lesson. The standing rule now is to never forward or lend money to a provider. It is interesting to me how short sighted it is on the part of the provider. Think how much more income she could derive from having you as a steady long term client. Live and learn from it, I did.
Met with a model(i prefer not to say the name) a few times became a quick ATF, she informs me that she is leaving the company she is working for and is moving to a new one, so i give her my phone number and she gives me her cell. A few weeks go by and we have talked on the phone a few times, she calls and asks for a favor, she will be starting with the new comapny in a few days, but needs rent money, so i lend it to her, using western union and having her real name and social number. A weeks go by and we have kept on talking, and then the phone goes dead.
Find out her that she has gone to a new company, a year has passed and i am wondering if i should inform her new comapny of this, those in the industry i have talked to have said that the company needs to know, even though they wont help you so that other people dont get scammed.
taken in a familar fashion once. The goal is to never let it happen again unless she is willing to give you collateral for the loan. Calling the new agency wouldn't do much good in my opinion.
At the end of the day just as providers seperate personal from business so must hobbysts. There is always the exception to the rule and the smart thing to do would be to walk away but I certainly wouldn't feel guilty about helping others not get taken by the same sob story. All it means is that you have compassion.Something that in short supply
Loaning money to anyone is a dicey proposition at best. That's why banks want collateral and loan sharks break legs.
Deatbeat cousins, down and out friends, desperate providers. Doesn't matter.
I've given money before-rarely compared to other hobbyists I have met, but done it anyway. I say "given", because while in the rare instance it was bartered back or repaid, most of the times, it's just gone.
If I choose to let it bother me, I could see getting bitter, kicking myself, wanting to dish out a little vengence and expose them.
I can't live like that. Choose not to live in negativity. So I don't loan money. Very rarely (No requests please, LOL), I give it away. IF they pay me back, wonderful. Reaffirms the goodness of human nature. Otherwise, I kiss it goodbye and take solace that I could help someone else when they needed it.
Maybe someday Karma will reward me if I find myself in need.
But I don't "warn" other people-you just can't protect people from themselves. They are going to do it or not, no matter what I say.
Hard to accept, maybe-but forget about it. Life's too short to dwell on the bad choices we make.
I agree. There's no point in telling all the world you screwed up, and you don't really know what her situation is. I think I read a similar post last night, and my thinking then was the only reason to call the company would be to ensure that your friend is all right. So long as she is, let it go. Polonius's advice, quoted in the subject of the original thread, is as valuable today as it was 400 years ago. "Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for loan oft loses both itself and friend and borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry (in this case, he means "friendship.")
I have never been in that situation. Write the money off but don't be surprised if good comes your way somehow. I do think good deeds pay off in unexpected ways. Never lend money you can't afford to loose. If inclined to help another then consider it a gift at the start, if it comes back to you then be happy
and have learned my lesson. The standing rule now is to never forward or lend money to a provider. It is interesting to me how short sighted it is on the part of the provider. Think how much more income she could derive from having you as a steady long term client. Live and learn from it, I did.
She did provide you with collateral when she gave you her real name and social sceurity number. Like many forms of collateral your challenge is how to figure how to convert the info to cash in your pocket.
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