Hello all,  
     I have been trying to come up with the best way bring up a topic with providers or potential providers.  I don't like going into it before I meet the lovely lady because I don't want to give off the feeling I am connected to anything or anyone.  So my norm is to bring it up when I arrive.  I have been having a hard time though explaining that I do not want everything on the menu, but I am only interested in the French side of the menu.  I get a lot of inquisitive stares of disbelief.  
     So the question for everyone (hobbyist or provider) is how and when would be the best way to bring this up without raising any concerns?  I really feel this is my own issue and if I can get over it I will have a much better time in the hobby.  Thank you all for your help.  Have a good day.

I've never paid for a specific thing - only for the companionship

I prefer to know any and all requests in the very first email, then I can decide if I want to set the appointment. I can't act I suck at it, so if a gentleman springs upon me some unusual request that  he feels embarrased about or a request clearly not on my menu the scene could become awkward or worse hostile......thus buzzkill.

That they won't like that you want to pay full price but only kiss? Trust me buddy. They aren't dieing to have sex with you. They may be surprised that is all you want but it will be a plus for them if confusing.

I agree.  The way I do things, (and a lot of other providers as far as I know)  is I charge simply for the time as an all-inclusive service.  You may want to look for a provider who advertises as being fetish  friendly, someone uninhibited. There's girls like that out there *wink wink*
Those are the women who most likely wont react in disbelief when you tell them what you're looking for. lol.

I like that approach myself, but in other cases upfront questions like that before BCD gets the "delete" key activated in a hurry.

I get all of the requests for wrestling, leg constrictor body squeeze and even men who want me to hit them as hard as I can. I don't do any of those hence my requests upfront  

You are absolutely right. Us fetish girls need to know up front before we agree to a session, there are some things that are too freaky even for me, plus there are things I don't really care to do. So if someone sends me a long email about the ten things they like, and I only want to do two of them, I am more likely to turn them down, or negotiate only the things I am interested in.  

you're a lover, not a fighter although the wrestling sounds fun.. Got Mud ???

The issue is not about donation, it is about communication and openness.  Thank you though

This is not a concern over donation, I am looking for a better way to communicate effectively.  Thank you for your input though.

Acturally, a meeting below is always on the table in a general meeting. So something like that is not a need to tell someone . From his wording it seemed like he was only intrested in that, and i it would make a diff on the time.cost. and meeting in general. And so, with this being a general request.. then no its no different and no need to tell someone. NOW, if you are a bp 50 dollar girl who does b&G's .. then yes you should tell her so she can fixyou in for a short time and a different price.