what some men want and just can't find from service providers

Reading through the recent thread here about what we want most from our service providers; top 10 lists— gets me thinking about how my tastes have changed over the years.  Like many men I’ve read a number of books by now about developing healthier and more fulfilling relationships as well as learned methods to achieve prolonged lovemaking and the art of extending my orgasm.  My expanded knowledge and experience from what I’ve learned is literally mind-blowing, but also makes it more and more difficult to find what I want most from the typical service provider.  While I have little interest in seeking out the extra woo woo provided by the relatively rare Tantric sex practitioner, a good deal can be learned from the Kama Sutra and some of the more advanced Tantric techniques that have already found their way into millions of bedrooms across America.  Many couples in long standing relationships still have satisfying sex only because they have experimented and perfected these very techniques.

For the more innovative and adaptive service provider out there who might be reading this, I’d like to suggest there’s a market for a particular type of service that is currently under represented; actually it’s not represented at all.  If you’re looking for a new angle or advantage to attract new clientele or at least secure a few more reliable repeats, I’d like to define a market segment that can improve your bottom line.  If you’re a runway model who’s so busy giving great GFE you can’t see straight, I don’t expect you to have either the time or motivation to take on anything new.  But if you’re not to proud to learn something new, have an open mind, and are motivated to learn a few new tricks, mastering my suggestion will ultimately make you a lot of money and put you in contact with many intelligent and distinguished gentlemen who will literally beat down your door to get your time and attention.  Please read on.

The service providers who specialize in nude massage are probably coming closest to offering the service I’m suggesting.  But they generally miss the mark completely, and even if they hit the bull’s-eye head-on they only comprise less than 10% of the service providers reviewed on TER.  So already you see what I mean about this area being under represented in terms of how few providers I have to choose from.  So lets cut to the chase, what am I really talking about?  I will admit I am spoiled having had women in my life who were advanced in their knowledge of male anatomy including my penis and all its associated nerve systems.  What you want to learn how to do is take over a man’s nervous system and control his orgasm.  This is in fact the same topic written about in so many books for couples over the past 10 to 15 years.  See reading list below.

So here it is in a nutshell; not necessarily how to do it, but what needs to be done.  With your hands and some very good lubricant you are going to take total control over the man’s nervous system and by this I mean you are also going to be totally responsible for when he goes over the top and shoots his load.  Part of this idea is exactly the opposite of making him cum as quickly as you can which seems to be what all current day nude massage specialists pretty much do once the traditional portion of the massage is completed. Ideally you want to take him up to and close to the point of Cumming and back down again for better than a half hour before taking him over the top to the point of no return.  Read that again and let that idea really soak into your brain.  The more times up and down the better, and the more his body will eventually involuntarily spasm, and the more intense his eventual orgasm and release will be.  When done correctly a healthy man will experience your technique and one prolonged and extended orgasm.  See reading list below.

There are specific techniques used to accomplish this and there are specific signs you must learn to read to prevent the man from going over the edge too soon.  Couples in relationships use these techniques on each other by taking turns being the one being pleasured and being the one providing the pleasuring.  I have to admit that it’s great being the one pleasuring my partner, but most of the time if I’m going to pay for sex I want to be the one with the luxury of laying back and having it done to me.  In the past I’ve enjoyed a long-term relationship with a provider who gradually learned these techniques at my insistence, but generally it’s very difficult to find service providers with this kind of advanced knowledge and technique or anyone motivated to learn it for that matter.  But why should your customer pay for your time to learn something that is ultimately in your best interest to be an expert in the first place?.

I currently look for nude massage providers who know something about therapeutic massage only because I have never met a provider who can do what I’ve suggested you learn how to do.  If there were nude massage providers who already knew how to do this it wouldn’t make much difference to me if you had any credentials or background as a certified masseuse. Given you’re going to stroke me off relatively quickly towards the end of my massage (and not give me the extended pleasure that would be relatively easy for you to do if you knew how) then at least giving me some traditional massage helps make the entire transaction more relaxing and worthwhile. Did you hear I’m not getting what I really want?  If not, please go back and start again at the very beginning.

Massage providers do a lot of things really well especially those who freely allow their clients to touch their bodies; I know breasts and nipples are a huge turn on for me and being able to touch adds to my pleasure.  In fact, having your breasts right there as you finally take me over the top is great. Wearing sexy clothes and being attractive still all count.  Having a warm inviting setting if you’re incall is very important.  A massage table is recommended for incall but there are specific body positions that work wonderfully well on any bed for outcall offering GFE.  Regardless of how you package it, knowing how to give a man 45 to 50 continuous minutes of intense stimulation focused right between his legs before taking him over the top a final time will help make you a bigger success.

A final word about pricing:  I’m really not a cheapskate, really!  But it bothers me to pay $150 to $200 for a typical HJ even if it does include some good quality therapeutic massage.  Come on, how tough is it to stroke a guy with your hand and lotion until he comes?  No penetration is being requested, and even a BJ.  But add some understanding and accomplish the right mission, or do what no one else seems to know how to do and market forces will support fair pricing.  And I’m surprised to see that kissing is so popular and appreciated by so many TER hobbyists.  I have to agree that I can’t think of anything better (other than perhaps your sexy breasts and nipples and your face or generally your best features) than a hot sexy woman planting a deep passionate kiss right square on my mouth while sending me to the moon with her hand and lotion techniques.  I mention kissing here because I think providers willing to include kissing should be rewarded with an extra premium; just don’t charge for it when it’s not requested or wanted.

Suggested reading: “The Art of Sexual Ecstasy”  and also “ESO”  which stands for Extended Sexual Orgasm.  And two exceptional video training tapes or DVD’s titled “The Venus Butterfly for Men”  and  “The Venus Butterfly for Women” to mention the tip of a really large iceberg of information appropriate to all service providers.  Let me know when you’re ready so I can schedule my appointment!

-- Modified on 1/16/2006 11:27:45 AM