t's true, there are different skill levels. I am in a camp of "it's my time" and while hobbying, I no way resemble who I am as a lover with someone who is not hourly.
As for the kiss - I have a great friend and he kisses girls like a parrot. Now, he likes girls who kiss that way and they are out there (I dated one once, and it kinda freaked me out), but that was how they learned.
There are some passionate kissers for certain in this hobby. And I prefer that even when hobbying. But there are a lot of ladies who do not kiss "much". Rarely do you find the ones who not only kiss well, but REALLY dig kissing the person they are kissing....and that comes through in a slight lack of interest. Though the kiss is good, it is not, well, as sincere, as someone who is hungry for your kiss.
I guess that's the line. Is there a difference between sincere relations versus staged. Regardless of skill, it can come through as a little disconnected, to an experienced lover. I sense it more often than not, though there are some wonderful providers who connect.
Phermomones, experience, attraction, compatability (the parrot kiss), all play a part in defining a "great lover". Honestly - I have had some ladies who I would not want to try and teach me as they need a lesson. Being a provider does not mandate being a good lover for sure. It is more based on the quality of lovers we all have had in our pasts and whether we adapted our styles. My guess is some providers want you to get your nut and be done. Just saying...
It is not a negative post for certain. I truly wish that COURTESAN was the highest echelon of provider who truly excelled at all of the skills, connection, and intelligence needed to make the session spectactular (of course, they would need to fit the market version of beautiful as well). But as we find here, what one guy thinks is a 10, another thinks is a 6.
Where you want a guy to put his hands is great for you, but maybe not the next lady?
Flip the script. If the women these guys were with were great lovers would they stray? Trick of the trade - teach honest, compassionate communication in the bedroom - without fear. That's something that can be practiced by both sides.
Peac