Looking for something soft and erotic versus overly dominating.  Searching for someone who can make things last a long time and appreciates the soft touch of a finger can be twice as arousing than the grip of a hand.

I used to see more Tantra style providers advertising but the ads seem to be disappearing. Eros has a section just for tantra providers but there's rarely any in Philly. You might try Joy in DE. No personal experience with her, but her reviews speak of great massage technique, she advertises prostate massage, and since she is not full GFE, something like this will probably be familiar to her.