I posted this on the NY board- hope it sheds some light on your question. If there weren't a market for big women I wouldn't be successful...
For the love of a fat woman.....
Posted by thickredbeauty , 4/30/2007 4:30:15 PM [See my TER reviews]
This is a labor of love and I hope it is received well. I realize that some of you do not understand why a hobbyist would seek a larger provider for any reason. My hope is that you will open your mind a bit and try to understand.
First, the notion that there is some sort of superiority of a thin woman over an overweight woman is nonsense. This is why… women are not just made up by the body they come in. Now for some of you, I get the need to see women that are out of your league but the conclusion that a big woman is inherently NOT out of your league is silly. I have noticed that my fellow large ladies tend to let themselves be abused and taken advantage of often, and there are many reasons to explain that occurrence: primarily the need for under achieving, pre-pubescent juveniles who seemed to be trapped in Junior High to tease and otherwise demean other humans to hide their own inadequacies. However, the same environmental influences also affect so called “pretty” women. I can not tell you how many times I have been approached by women half my size that are mesmerized by my confidence. I have seen 115lbs beauties being called fat by men that were turned down. And these poor girls actually listen! I also love the way women are compared to cars. Why drive a ….. When you could drive a ….? Well that’s why there are Mustang lovers versus Corvette enthusiasts. Still others would rather drive an Escalade or a Hummer. It is personal preference. You are being selfish and arrogant to assume that you know what other men enjoy! Get over yourself; you can not speak for anyone other than yourself! When you roll into (pun intended) a fat bashing post, you are bullying. If you don’t like big women, OK but don’t assume that since YOU don’t like them that OTHER men do not enjoy their company. Your fantasy is not the fantasy of all men.
Second, the notion of beauty is subjective, cultural and somewhat influenced by age (not the age of the object in question, but rather the age of the judge). Please read this definition http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beauty. If you have any cognitive abilities you will realize by definition a big woman can fit into that category and a thin woman may not. Point being that your idea of what is beautiful is your choice. What traits you find beautiful may not match the next persons. Moreover, a man that enjoys beauty in all women will find that in each woman he meets.
I must take from some of my personal experience to relay my point. Without exposing my client’s identities, I will try to explain what I have been told by men that have sought me out professionally. Most of my clients (probably 80%) are not “chubby chasers”. They enjoy many qualities in a woman, not just a willing body (for the record, I know that is a misconception about why a man sees a larger woman). I have been told by “spinner” connoisseurs that I am the first big woman that they have been attracted too. They can’t explain why, they just are. The point is, no one can be certain why someone is or is not attractive- you are just attracted.
I am sure someone will post the unfounded societal preference toward thin women and I am quick to point out that society did not always favor thin women. It is sad to me that society has any bearing on a person’s worth. Each of us has qualities, physical features and abilities that are unique to just ourselves. Societal pressure to look, act or be a certain way is in no way an accurate representation of how the individual should look, act or be. For obvious things, society has helped to reign in obscure and barbaric behavior but being overweight is hardly that destructive. Granted it has been shown to accelerate many illnesses and conditions but the same can be said of drinking, smoking, working, fucking, etc. Using those reasons as a means of justifying your fat bashing is poor and unfounded.
My final thought is, can large providers, adoring hobbyists and those that despise large women not be in harmony? You don’t like us, we get it! So, let’s just call it a draw and go on. You feel your money is better spent elsewhere, and I respect that. But please respect that your preferences and tastes are just that, yours and not everyone shares them. The need to tease, satirize, belittle, demean or otherwise harm anyone (not just large women) should have been left in your freshman locker along with your acne cream.
XO
Melanie
“If I had been around when Rubens was painting, I would have been revered as a fabulous model. Kate Moss? Well, she would have been the paintbrush.” ~Dawn French
Let the flaming begin!
