Sorry to hear of your disappointment my friend.  I have been hobbying for longer then I care to admit and also have had my share of Provider No Shows.  Back when I was married I even remember booking a nice hotel room only to get stood up.  There is absolutely no excuse for a NCNS by a provider.  I assume she had your number.   I learned to just accept them as part of the cost of the hobby.  Always remember that providers get stood up way more then we do.  Guys change their mind, find something better or simply get cold feet.  Who knows what happened in your particular case...Maybe you'll get a nice note tomorrow with an apology and an acceptable excuse...Or maybe you'll never hear from her again.  Either way it is not worth worrying about.  Just move on and figure you saved yourself some cash.  Enjoy your time in the Greater Philly area.

but she is the one who missed out on great company, not to mention the world's best home-made cookies You are the kind of gentleman women love to spend time with, based on my personal experience and the words of your references.

I hate it when women perpetuate the stereotypes that we are flaky and unreliable - which leads to guys double-booking, and then one the two is stood up and the cycle continues....  

How you treat other people, in this world or anywhere, is a reflection on YOU and your character as a person, regardless of the occupation. You can't have one set of values for your friends and family and your 'good' job and disrespect people in this lifestyle - because eventually you lose any integrity and credibility and become that person who thought it was OK to mistreat the people of 'lesser value'.

A person who doesn't respect others' time and expenses that go into planning a meeting is somebody who probably doesn't have much success or control in other areas of their life - so they have to hustle all day like there is no tomorrow - because they are probably right.

FWIW I have been canceled on for tomorrow, too, after confirming and getting a room specifically for this date, when it's too late to get the money back for the hotel. So inconsiderate behavior is not gender-specific

As a result, I am available in Downtown Philly Friday afternoon/evening or Saturday morning.... If anybody is interested and has verification in order. I was just going to relax and eat the cost of the room, but saw this post.... Anyway, somebody's loss can be your gain

Abby xo

Delta,

I have had this happen to me a number of times over the year and even though I know that its something that is going to happen, it really still steams me every time that it does.  Last year in 2012 it happened again with a woman that had great reviews and was incredibly attractive looking.  I put a note up on the board and got a call from her apologizing and offering to make it up to me.  I must say, she was good to her word, and I had an awesome time.  So sometimes the lady does the right thing, not always, but sometimes.  Give her a day or so to get back to you...and if she doesnt, I would definitely post who it was...if she cares about her reputation, she will make it up to you...and if she doesnt, well at least the community knows.

There is no excuse for her not showing up, especially if she is logging into other sites today. Obviously she isn't sitting laid up at a hospital or something horrible like that. There is just no excuse. I would hate it being done to me. Many ladies will make plans and then they get lazy. This business makes people lazy and they take being able to make money quickly, for granted.

There are plenty of reliable providers that would not behave in such a way. If anything she should of at least had the decency to inform you of her change of mind in keeping the appointment. She would be pretty ticked off if you did to her.

Except in the OPs case she didn't even email, that is most rude.  I hope she makes it up to you, if not there are plenty other gorgeous ladies in the area who will treat you with more respect.

Re: No Shows

I almost wonder if this is the same overpriced provider who tried to get a 50% cancellation fee from a friend of mine for cancelling 5 days in advance this week.