I am just now realizing all that TER has to offer. I like the honesty in the reviews, but I'm curious. What would get me higher scores on my looks? I mean I would assume the provider you are going to see is at the very least attractive to you before you go to her, but I keep on getting 5's for my looks and 8's & 9's for my service. I want to know what I can do to boost my appearance scores. Any ideas?

I'm working on that. Is that all though? I mean I don't claim to be anything other than a BBW, so if that's what I am listed as, why would that count against me? Just curious because I am loosing weight for my health, not just to look better. But if my weight is the only issue, but the client is into BBW's then shouldn't that get me a higher score since I am what I claim to be?

Everyone has different tastes and you can not please everyone.

Some reviewers may factor outfit and hygiene into the appearance score.
Perhaps fulfilling an outfit request and/or being 100% on hygiene may help.

Best of luck.

In a nutshell, you are offering too much for too little. First of all, you're offering 30 minute sessions. Not all guys who choose half hours fit this description, but most who choose them are not going to be interested in your personality, uniqueness, attraction or connection. Basically anyone can afford $100. You are charging $100, and the millionares alongside the pizzahut delivery guys, the college frat boys with cc's paid by daddy and even a gang member can afford $100. There is not enough value being put into who you are and what you do. You are offering bbbj uncovered oral with swallow, full service and even Greek at the low low price of $100, and 30minutes. This means a guy can get your ass, and all the most ellite services for a price less then his monthly electric bill. There is just not going to be an appreciation from all of your visitors on who you are. Some of course will, but in general you are going to attract major hobbyists who are critical on looks and are just looking for a cheaper option to their usual ladies of choice. Your profile says you are heavy, over 40, with very large breasts. There are many men who like heavy women, and if you raise your rates then you will stop getting cheap guys who don't care if they are attracted to your looks or not, and will start getting the men who like bbw's. Once you attract Bbw lovers, your looks score will go up. Even your performance scores will go up. The fact that you're offering Greek, swallow & Bbw and only getting 8 shows how little the cheap guys really appreciate your services. Those services should be getting you 9 and 10's especially Greek. That's my advice. 200-250 if you want to do half hours and 250-350 for 1 hour, 400-500 for 2hours. You'll see that perceived value brings more appreciative men to you.

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I just looked at your faqs and there is a service you should really consider either not offering or not promoting. That will scare off Alot of the appreciative men and men who value life, health and peace of mind. It will attract more men who know nobody gives that service and again, they are only seeing you for the service and not because they are attracted to you. It also said you got hurt with Greek. You are going to keep getting hurt and mistreated, and broken down too fast if you keep doing things the way you are. At $100, you'll be too high volume and seeing way too many guys who will be rough. Raising rates will help your body not get hurt and mistreated

The overweight issue should be dealt with as your personal decision to improve your own health and happiness. Don't lose it because you feel to do it for other people. Do it because you'll feel more confident, light, comfortable, and your longterm health will benefit greatly.


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Frustration and disgust over potential BBFS aside, you need to change your business model more than your looks.
Like natural-lady posted, offering 15 minute sessions in which everything is on the table will not garner you high reviews. Reviews are in part a reflection of ego, in part an assessment of a provider's looks and performance, and in part a description of perceived value/'class'. You're not charging enough to attract clients who will care about you, nor is it enough to target a more specific market (men who like BBWs); right now anyone can afford to see you and therefore you're receiving scores from men who might not be attracted to your body type but like your full menu. Moreover, if your clients don't believe you value yourself, why should they?

Advice aside, I am begging you, on behalf of everyone in the hobby community who values their reproductive health, reputation, and career longevity, to PLEASE discontinue offering BBFS, if indeed that has been the case.

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Far be it from me (love this idiom!) to say how people conduct their businesses, but when there are gaping, irresponsible health and safety concerns (testing every 6 months when offering BBFS!?), I don't believe the chance to educate or inform should be passed up. Moreover, I refuse to believe that BBFS is the final frontier.

Stay safe out there, everyone. This is just one example out of an increasing number.

Thank you for your advice. I will keep that in mind.

Because she is a "nurse" and she "knows what comes out of there." For fks sake, where do I even begin? Honey, your low scores for appearance really seem to me to be the least of your problems. As a nurse you don't understand the inherent dangers of non-monogamous bbfs??? Really???

You'll keep it mind?
I was mentored by the best of the best, I mentored another girl who went on to be successful, plus I'm one of the top companions in the USA. I've given you golden morsels here to solve your problems. But you're just going to keep it in mind??
Seriously, if you pay no heed to the love and help you're receiving here, then I'm not sure what you're going to do about your future.

Gross.


Guys - if you reviewed her you are on my NO SEE list

I also posted in a blog and have removed any reference to BBFS on my website. In addition I responded to a much nicer person who used proper English to explain myself a little more. In addition to that I am more than willing (as I always have been) to provide proof of my safety and cleanliness (as I always have). I would also provide a hard copy with a copy of my ID to any person that requested it. If that and everything else about me is not enough, so be it. I have explained myself once in an earlier reply and I hope that is enough. Have a great day and God Bless!

I'm sorry, I was tying to directly quote your website. Here it is in full before it is removed.


"57617. Are you available for BB? You used to offer, now I can't find the INFO?

Answer: I am not going to be accepting any more BBFS dates any more. This is NOT because I contracted anything! This is simply because is REALLY is not SAFE. When I first began doing this, I figured I had to put myself out there in a way no one else does. Granted, I knew I had things to worry about, but I figured I would be discerning in allowing this. Now, after a year, I still believe that I was being careful, and still have never gotten any thing that I could "Give" to someone else. Because I realize this is putting you guys at risk, and I never want anyone to be hurt because of my actions, BBFS dates will no longer be allowed. Thanks for understanding."


UPDATE: FAQ on her site claims no BBFS "any more for safety" not "coz she got something"
Her PM reply was cute: my English was improper. Oh no! Sorry there was a character limit.
My reply was a one sentence summary of your last post i your FAQ on your site.
To me you have only updated this because of the backlash of a blog meant to request input on looks ratings.


I'm sure you are lovely, but IMO you should take 6 months off since your last BB encounter to ensure nothing was contracted.

it is your mental health that I have a concern for as well working in the medical field as you claim and taking that kind of risk. I am in no position to judge you so you might want to talk to a professional and get his/her position after speaking to you at length about why you would place your life in such jeopardy in this day and age. I wish you well though. Peace. Blue.

It's no secret that I have been through a very difficult year. I have lost family, my security and numerous things I wouldn't even begin to burden others with. As much as I appreciate your concern for my mental health, there really is no deep dark reason why I was willing to offer bbfs. I thought I was being selective and going about it as safely as possible sans condom. In reality, I perform more oral services than anything else. The few FS dates I did have were with men who were married, in professions that they were required to have clean blood work, or just older men who after being married for 30 years couldn't keep it up if they but a cover on. In fact, the number of BBFS dates I have given in the past year can be counted on one hand. Not that any of this REALLY made a difference on the risk I was taking, I see now I was being careless by trying to make a risky behavior less risky in my mind.
I do however appreciate the concern and I understand what you were trying to say. I hope that this won't be held against me. I really do enjoy being a provider and I hope that my realization of the danger involved is seen and I can still provide a sensual and erotic fun time. Only now, I will be able to be a lot more safe by no longer offering bbfs dates.
Beth

You jeopardize the health of any man or woman you see if you continue to play russian roulette with your health. This is STUPID behavior.

Maybe even BBFS, for that same bargain basement rate? You put this on a website? Seriously! WOW. Then, you post a thread in GD asking how you can assure a guy you are SAFE? Um, offer him a plastic bag or a hazmat suit to wear whilst you are with him! Geezus!

Many guys will see girl they rate as a 4 or 5, just to get off for cheap. It's not only your looks that play a part. You're wondering why guys see you already knowing what you look like and then not giving you high scores...methinks the rate. Women in New Orleans where it is cheap as hell to live, could not even charge what you do and get by.


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I said this very same thing to her on the newbie board, and she got offended. Sorry, but get real here. Guys paying 100 for a fk, are not the cream of the crop, and that's a FACT!

Yea right lol. A "nurse" would make enough money to not have to use the same house she lives in to provide in. More like a "CNA" here. No wonder our educational and public health systems have gone to shit. Floored....

Agreed.  Women like this scare the **** out of me.  She is a major threat to the hobbying community.

This is going to be a long post.

If you are truly not doing bbfs anymore and aren't just saying that because of other poster's reactions, then I truly feel sorry for what you're about to go through. I know exactly what bbfs posts and word of mouth do to a provider and I'll mention some of these things in this post. It really doesn't matter the number of men you've done it with, this thread did enough damage. No to mention how difficult it will soon be to walk in public if you've shown your face in your ads.

Despite saying on this board that you don't do bbfs anymore, you'll still be having mostly bbfs clients lining up to see you even though you're attempting to start over. No sane man looking for only covered sex is going to see you after seeing this thread nor will they believe you've changed your ways. The only safe clients who will see you are men who haven't been informed yet.

I know that some people can make very stupid choices in life and they eventually learn from their mistakes so I won't be yet another person on here to make you feel worse.

 In fact, I speak this all from experience. The only men who will be contacting you are bbfs only clients.
When you tell these men you don't do bbfs anymore and use a condom, some will find a way to get their bbfs session. "Accidentally" slipping the condom off, tearing the condom in doggy so that their cock rips through, and attempting bbfs without even saying a word. When things like this happen without your consent, it's heartbreaking.

It may be wise to restart fresh with a new persona if you haven't shown your face. I'm afraid you're out of luck if you have shown your face. One last thing, doing full 10 panel tests every 6 months is insane. I do full 10 panel every month out of panic and fear. Regular blood work every month isn't enough if you're in the sex industry.

She needs help and support, not exclusion.  Exclusion only promotes what we as a community fear the most!   I recommend she delete her profile, pictures, and TER profile and start over.  
NEW Name, New email, NEW pictures, New phone #, New higher rates, New TER reviews, LOTS of condoms, and NO BBFS.   Otherwise she'll carry this and pay the price of her mistakes into a futile future..

Good Luck!  Start OVER..

Very well said and good advise. I hate to see a provider under sell and over work herself to the point of putting her life, health, and career in jeopardy. Not to mention it brings down the value and amount of money a higher class provider that charges a lot more for those same services can make.

I really hope you're not doing BBFS because that's just NUTS!!!!!