Yes there is a stigma with black gentleman..........but, it is nothing of what any of you men think that it is!!!!!!!
Out of all of the gentlemen that I have seen over the years I will tell you that black gentlemen and Hispanic gentlemen have tended to fall in the category that I like to call "over bearing and controlling"......for a provider this sends up fear flags as we have come to feel safe by being more in control.
Don't get me wrong..........all of you have a category!!!!!!!!
My best advice to you, my friend, is just this.............say that you are an educated, polite black gentleman (and, for the record this goes out to all of you men)!!!!!!!!!! Anytime a man approaches me that way he gets off on a good footing because when you say it I might just believe it!
Let me tell you why I might believe it..............Because whether you know it or not, many men are just rude when they contact us. 70% of all men that contact us are just flat rude which is why most girls prefer email first..........we weed your stupid out in the first sentence (which is why text is a bad idea!!) We know in our minds that you are probably just short of time and excited but if we have so much as 2minutes to think about it we will find the rude/dog in you.
Black or white or any color or any race,,,,,,,,,,,,be a gentleman. Allow us to be the one eating our words when we see you and take your money and have a great time to be the fools in our own mind. Allow yourself the space to humble us and not forget your name when we are asked for a reference on you...............trust me when I say that we do!!!!!!!!!!
Happy Holidays my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!
X's Summer of the Chicken Ranch