This is a letter from an advice column in Salon magazine, Look at all this needless drama in this relationship description, so unnecessary.

Doesn't reading this give you a headache? Just call one of us, and leave the donation on the table, we'll take care of that throbbing pressure that's building up.

Cum on, where is that cellphone?


http://dir.salon.com/story/sex/col/tenn/2002/07/30/tennis_39/index3.html?source=search&aim=/sex/col/tenn


"I've been faking it for 10 years -- should I tell him?"

"In a devastating, unforeseen turn of events, he dumped me a few days ago. We share a studio apartment, I have lousy credit stemming from a death in the family, and I spent all my savings on these trips, so I'm pretty much screwed. In between telling me that "we never discussed long-term," "we're better friends than lovers," "ideally, people should make the same money," "I want to settle down with someone and eventually raise children," "there's someone more ideal out there for both of us," and "you're not the kind of person I see myself with in 10 to 20 years" and this whole litany of things that I feel should have been addressed openly as a dialogue, not an internalized decision, he also said, "You can stay as long as you need (not want) to."

The problem I have is, I am stuck sharing a bed with this guy for at least a couple of months and it's driving me crazy. I can't help but feel that I was a fool and that he used me as an alleviation of loneliness as well as a gay stepping-stone to put a kind, sociable, semi-normal face on his sexuality to his family. He knows my situation in and out. Yet he makes this decision completely on his own knowing that it will totally reorient my life. He says he really wants to be friends and will really miss our closeness, but I can't decide whether I want this person as a friend. He even halfheartedly suggested that we find a new apartment together in Manhattan with another roommate, but said I'd probably have to sleep in the living room because I wouldn't be able to afford my own room.

I guess I read too much into the moving in, meeting the parents, constant-companion aspects of the relationship and felt that if things did come to an end, it would be more of a mutual decision. I would like to know if you think it is healthy for me to (a) continue living with him (my options are limited because of money); and (b) continue to be his friend. I just feel like a sucker and have a hard time putting my resentment on the back burner.

Stuck in a Moment"

... oh,  and we suck cock too!



"A"

You sound just like my type! I would love to connect...