... by asking those questions.
The odds are against finding a good prospect on BP without doing research - based on the number of scams and just lousy providers on BP. Randomly pick an add and you are far more likely to have a bad time than a good one. But, I can see how they'd make things worse with ignorance in how to schedule.
Regarding most everything else you talk about - I can only shake my head.
For example: Look at the most recent review where some guy went to see "Ashely" from BP. TER ID: 238793.
Now, I know she's a long-time rip-off because of other information sharing sites. But this guy didn't. I am not currently VIP, so I can't read how bad things were - but in the opening section he tells me all I need to know.
You saying he had it coming because he "asked the wrong questions", or even the fact that he found her on backpage is a rather jaded way to look at the situation, and the world in general. It also ignores the intent of "Ashley" to deceive guys into coming to see her.
He got scammed by old photos. Or fake photos. It amounts to the same thing. If she opens the door and looks different than her photos - he should walk away, and he owes her nothing - but how many of the guys who come see her actually do that? I can't think it's that many. Ashley posts her ads, knowing full-well that if they actually knew what she looked like and how her "service" would be, they'd never call in the first place.
I don't think you can say what she did is right, even if I agreed with you that it is inevitable. I certainly don't think that he had it coming to him because he "wasted her time".
I understand that you have to deal with crazy people who contact you. That is apparently unavoidable if you use BP. But, I don't excuse the crazy assholes who are rude to you just because you made the "mistake" of being on BP. I don't think you should disparage the guys who get ripped off out of ignorance, or excuse the thieves who take advantage of them.
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Let's assume he called her up and had a 3 minute conversation. After that conversation, he sets up a time to come see her. Now, do you really mean to say that 3 minutes, in order to make a "SALE", is him wasting her time?
That's wrong. Other guys who opted to NOT come see here might have "wasted" her time - but not this guy. He talked to her for a few minutes, or a dozen texts, and then he is going to become her customer. She should be happy - that is what she wanted and all it cost her was a few minutes, and being polite and coherent (as much as she may or may not have been).
And that tiny fraction of time with each potential customer adds up to very little. So even if you were getting 30 calls a day that amounted to NOTHING and 2 that came to see you, you'd still be way better off than ANY other sales position anywhere.
When Ashley answers the phone (and presumably starts her stop-watch to make sure this guy isn't just another "time wasting asshole"), she's ignoring a very clear FACT of reality: He doesn't have to come see her.
He could go see any girl.
He could jerk off and put that money into something that's actually worth it.
He could go out and invest the time an energy necessary to get sex for "free".
So this 3 minutes - regardless of how clumsy or ignorantly he attempts to verify what he's going to get, is an opportunity to make a sale. Not a burden. Not a waste of time. Because each provider and each potential client are unique agents - not some unified mass deserving of your contempt.
You put the $$$ on your services. You made the choice to enter the market. You are a sales person. I'm not devaluing you or your services by comparing you to all other businesses. I didn't put a value on anything. You did the minute you decided that your time was worth X and your attention was worth Y.
TL, DR;
I don't think that you should lump all the client's into the same boat and just assume that rip-offs only happen to guys who don't know how to schedule, or commit other faux pas out of ignorance.
I also don't think you can justify the rip-off of anyone by saying they should have been more knowledgeable, or more careful. While it is undeniably foolish of them to make the mistakes they make, it doesn't validate the thief's actions.
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