I spend a bit of time at a competing forum/website to research potential future providers. Every once in a while one of the members will, while reviewing their visit with a provider, post a picture of the provider that he took himself. My question to providers is, do you ever get guys that ask to take a picture of you? And if so, do you allow it? Clearly what those guys do is a violation of privacy by posting it on a forum, but what if it was kept private? Ok then?

she was aware of it and agreed.

I have often taken photos for a lady at her request, but I always give the flash card to her.  I tell her I'd like her to send me her favorite on out of the bunch, and some do/some don't.  Occasionally I've asked a lady I've seen a number of times if it's OK, and some don't mind.

To me it's the same with posting.  I've done it occasionally, but always because she asked me to or I checked with her first.

I would view it the same as if she took a photo of me without my concent.

...that in today's world where every phone has a camera that takes stills and video....providers get asked this all the time.  Hopefully I'm wrong.  I'd hate to answer the same questions over and over.  

I've seen several provider sites that list fees for various types of pics/video so they are clearly ok with it.  

For the ladies...I'd never trust one of us guys to "keep it to ourselves".  Once a pic is taken it is controlled by someone else.   There's a rare few that have that kind of discipline and are only motivated by having something to remember.  I'm one of them...but, I probably will never ask because I don't want her to have to tell me no and besides...just seems a little tacky.  

My read, many of these ladies want to say yes to us and like to have a good time just like we do.  Introducing something that may be stepping across a line risks that.  Shoot, I saw a lady once that was peeved with me for reaching into her condom drawer when we were ramping up to another round.  I was closest to it but her preference was to be in control and my reaching was a breach of the very little privacy she enjoyed while at her work.  Was she over sensitive?  Maybe.  Did I mind? Nope.  In fact, I apologized immediately and thanked her for speaking up instead of just dealing.  That way I wouldn't make that mistake with her again.  It was my desire to treat her with as much respect as possible.

So...to your question, I wouldn't expect to take pics and personally wouldn't ask unless the provider's site indicates she offers this as part of her service.  Just my 2 cents....

(God, what are we going to do if they get rid of the penny?)

I don't mind if he is keeping it for himself, but I don't want our personal time out on the forums.

And I think it's tacky as all hell to even ask.

Ok so we're at two Yes's and one No. Odds are in my favor of not getting slapped when I ask, lol.

Would love to take a personal pic of the providers I've had a memorable time with. Call me crazy. ...Or tacky. What-ev.

How about guys asking for the panties you wore on your date?
         

Agree: duh!

Having said DUH, I brought a gift one time of an awesome OSU shirt to one girl and asked if I could take a picture from the back, she let me but in no way did I expect or hope of a facial shot!

If he buys them that's fine, but I'm not giving away my hard-earned panties!

I wouldn't slap you, I'd just tell you to promptly gtfo.

Seriously, think about it: what if a provider asked to take a photo of you, saying "It'll only be seen by me, I just like to have something to remember my favorite clients by."? You'd probably laugh in her face.

How are we supposed to trust that those photos will stay private? In this day and age, once something goes electronic, it's forever.

I won't call you crazy, but I'll definitely call you tacky. Tsk tsk, Kinot. Tsk motherfucking tsk.

Tobi,

You've got to quit being so shy and introverted. Tell us what you really feel! 😜

But no pictures with a mask?

have I wanted to ask for a photo. One of my favorite ladies surprised me by wearing my favorite teams jersey. It was a great surprise and sexy as hell, really wanted a photo of that moment but I didn't ask. No matter how much I wanted it and no matter how true my belief that these would stay private I know there is no way I can promise that. Nothing in this day and age of technology is 100% secure and safe. There is some 10 year old kid out there that could hack my phone or laptop whenever he wants. Unless your taking polaroids there is too great a risk of things getting out on the net. Too much risk for just a little personal satisfaction.

Some girls even state on their p411 ads that photos/video are ok. I can understand not wanting them out there, especially action shots. I dont see a huge insult in asking but probably never would.

I have no problem with you saying "HELLl no!" and I would do the same if I was a provider, but I disagree with it being "tacky" just to ask. There are actually a lot of providers who are fine with clients taking pictures of them, and even videos. Some state as such on their websites, and some even charge extra for it. Many reviews also mention that photos were taken. However there are many more that allow it on a YMMV basis, and don't mention it on websites or anywhere. So without asking, how would a client know? I don't think it is tacky at all to ask the question, and I don't think it is tacky for a lady to answer, "fuck no! You can't!"

On the other hand if someone took a picture without asking permission, that would be tacky and down right disrespectful, and for that, having his cell phone or a high heel shoe shoved up his ass might be the appropriate response.

I have taken photos during dates with providers, for my own use only. I have never and would never share it with anyone on a website or by email, PM etc. Of course I realize the providers don't have control over that, and are taking my word for it. What I have done is email copies of all the pictures to the providers after the session and some of my photos have actually ended up on ads and websites! That was not expected but was a pleasant surprise when I see it.

Not saying you should go over there and post and advertise, but sometimes these kinds of sites are worth lurking on to see if someone is posting bad shit about you (or posting your pics). For the record, I don't know which site he is talking about, but I know of a few. Anyhoo, just saying it would be good for someone to PM you the site name, but it might nit becessarily be good to "avoid the shit out of it." i think all you gals should "monitor" all sites where there may be info about you. That doesn't mean "using" the sites, but just know what's out there.

Hear, hear! Well written post. Thank you.

How did you go about asking for permission to take the picture? Im not totally sure how to approach it if I decide to go ahead and try my luck one time.

Like a lot of things tackiness is a subjective determination.  I respect your opinion but I still personally feel its tacky to ask.  

My earlier point is that if there is no previous evidence that a provider is ok with that kind of thing, then it might be offputting to her to have to tell you no to taking pictures and even risk the mood.  Maybe not that big of a deal for some...I prefer not to even attempt to push a lady into anything.  

This endeavor also requires discretion.  Everyone can of course choose how much or how little they are comfortable with.  For me, a provider that allows pics or vids is choosing to not be discreet.  I am less likely to book with such a provider if that kind of activity is evident or advertised.  

Posted By: Beerformyhorses

I have no problem with you saying "HELLl no!" and I would do the same if I was a provider, but I disagree with it being "tacky" just to ask. There are actually a lot of providers who are fine with clients taking pictures of them, and even videos. Some state as such on their websites, and some even charge extra for it. Many reviews also mention that photos were taken. However there are many more that allow it on a YMMV basis, and don't mention it on websites or anywhere. So without asking, how would a client know? I don't think it is tacky at all to ask the question, and I don't think it is tacky for a lady to answer, "fuck no! You can't!"

On the other hand if someone took a picture without asking permission, that would be tacky and down right disrespectful, and for that, having his cell phone or a high heel shoe shoved up his ass might be the appropriate response.

I have taken photos during dates with providers, for my own use only. I have never and would never share it with anyone on a website or by email, PM etc. Of course I realize the providers don't have control over that, and are taking my word for it. What I have done is email copies of all the pictures to the providers after the session and some of my photos have actually ended up on ads and websites! That was not expected but was a pleasant surprise when I see it.

True, but that still boggles my mind.

I was just stoked to have a client who loves my team!

I like my response better.

In at least one case, I had read in one of her reviews where a guy took pics during the session, so I assumed it would be ok, but I asked in the beginning of the session before we got undressed if it would be ok if I took some souvenir photos. She said of course and actually started doing a strip tease and posing. In other instanses I asked in an email prior to the date, but after being screened.
Something simple like, “Would it be okay for me to take some pictures of you for my own use? Of course I totally understand and respect your decision if it is not okay.” If they say no, the topic never comes up again. If they say yes in a preliminary email, then I still ask again at the session. The ladies that have said no, have always respectfully said no, but I would not be offended by a “HELL no!” from the likes of Tobi. Any type of no and the topic is over. Of the ones who said yes it is usually more like, “Of course you can take photos of me!”

If it is something specific, like the guys who mention the sports jerseys etc., you could ask, “If I bring xxx for you to wear, can I take a picture of you in it?”

Now I havent asked every lady I have been with. Sometimes I feel like it and sometimes I dont. Also some that I have asked in a preliminary email who said yes, I still never took pics when we got together, either because I forgot, or just didnt get to it, or it just wanst important, at the time, with other more fun things going on.

The point is obviously to ask first if you want to do it, and even though Tobi thinks it is tacky to ask, and I respect her opinion, I dont feel that way, and I dont think most ladies are offended if you ask. They are not mindreaders and neither are we. The other point is obviously they are for your own use, so do not share them with anyone. (Except the subject of the photo, as in my case I sent them all copies. They can keep them or delete them or do whatever they want, but at least they know what I have.)

*fistbump*

As you said it is subjective. But just to clarify my point, I think asking respctfully is not tacky. If you read my reply to Kinot right above, you will see that I have asked in email correspondence prior to the date (but after screening) so I dont see how that will risk the mood. If I had a yes with reservations I would not proceed. To me that is almost a no. An enthusiastic yes, on the other hand is a green light. Now someone busting out a camera (or phone) while the lady is underessing and asking, "Can I take a picture?" could definitley be offputting. I think the way it is asked and the circumstances could definitely be tacky in some instances, but the act of asking the question is not tacky. Anyway. That is my opinion and you and Tobi are certainly entititled to yours

Tobi honey I love you to death, but I myself don't think it's tacky to ask. I think if the guy does it without asking then yes that is downright disrespectful, and my foot will be in his ass on the way out the door. But with regulars I have had pics and vids taken. But  only once I get comfortable with them. I don't put this on my site, or in any of my ads, because I don't do it all the time. I guess I have to be in the mood for it so to speak, and I think it's very respectful and says a lot about the gentlemen when asking ahead of time if he can take pics or vids. At least that way we can get that out of the way in the beginning.

With the ones I have let taken, they do it with my phone, and I email them right then and there a copy of it, but then I have the original. To do this day, I have never had a problem with it, but I will reiterate that I only do this with regulars, not someone I am seeing for the first time.

Ally,

You (and Beerformyhorses) have both added conditions that I think make it more reasonable.  The OP didn't provide any context so I (and others) might have assumed a more spontaneous encounter where the pic taking was proposed.  That is the scenario I was responding to in my earlier posts.  

Asking ahead of time I think significantly reduces the potential downsides.  Additionally, the provider providing the camera also helps reduce the risk of unwanted photos getting out.  Not even considering unless it's a well known/repeat client.  All good ideas...

I could still see a provider like Tobi saying no dice to even these conditions because her skin art makes her potentially more identifiable.  

My view hasn't really changed...I won't pop something like that on a provider when BCD but I agree asking ahead of time reduces the tacky factor.  

Cheers

Don't get me wrong, if they offer I'm all for it. It's  just something I've never thought to ask for. If the woman is comfortable with it then go for it. I just don't know how you should approach the subject without risking the mood of the session. I like the after screening email idea but based on the ladies you've reviewed I'm guessing most of them don't have websites and email addresses. Not a judgement, everyone has their own taste and preferences, though I think financial is probably the ultimate decider for us. I'm willing to bet that if you offer additional compensation you may find a few takers though I personally would not risk having a fun time for my money by asking anything I think would make a girl weary.

I hate your team and John.  Not really just for the sake of football not real life.

I'm glad to see you not only agree with me that asking is not tacky, but you also agree about the boot in the ass for someone who tries without asking!

At the end of a session or during chat time after the "deed."

So if no pictures is one end of the extreme, then I have a story for the other end of the extreme haha.

I have a client in Raleigh that books me for a 4-hour appt each time, and for 3.5 hours all we do is take pictures.  Keep in mind that this guy is not a pro photographer--he's using a cheapy lil' digital camera--and I guess that is his 'fetish'.  Some guys like feet and golden showers, and this client likes to take pictures.  

From a client's perspective, if the lady blurs her face in her online photos, there is a high probability that she will not let you take pictures of her.  But if her face is showing, then she just may let you snap a few photos.

Honestly, some of my best pictures have come from sessions with my clients.

I'm new to the biz and I'll apologize that I'm more of a listener than a talker (in this case a typer) but geez I think ya gonally answered the age long question.  Personally tho it would frighten me to no end if someone took a pic during a session.  That would redefine the definition of paranoia for me.
Fun read tho!

I would never ask for a pic but thats just me.   Personally I would be worried people would find it and it would come back to haunt me.  Yikes!

Way more participation than I was expecting. Well done Ohio.

What can I say...us Ohio chics know how to rock it

By the way, here's my MacBook's desktop...

I never, under any circumstances, allow cameras of any kind.  This is a risk I would NEVER take.  I get this request often.  The risk is too big for me.

Yeah...sure