I know its the holiday season and many providers may be tight on funds or hobbyists may find themselves with last minute free time but before sending that solicited text or making that unexpected call, please think first.

Yesterday I was contacted by a very distraught hobbyists. A provider based in LA on p411 & TER and in which he hadn't met with in atleast 6 months ago in LA at that, sent a random text letting him know she is retiring soon and would love to see him. Unfortunately, his work phone that was usually cleared and off was left on his desk at home. His wife, who decided to wrap gifts in his office was annoyed with the constant alert that he had messages but called him to let him know his phone was there and as she was on the phone with him, opened up the messages so she could relay whatever it was just in case it was something important or info needed for work, low and behold there was this girls solicited text message. It had been so long he not only forgot who she was but because he was put on the spot, wound up telling on himself for who he thought was one of the girls he had met in memphis nope must have been a girl in NY - yeah so he pretty much let the cat out the bag, he's been cheating on her basically since they got married last December, a week before Christmas.

Im not sure why this provider decided on sending messages via text especially to clients who are not regulars, when clearly there are more discreet methods of advertising. But I understand that many girls and guys really don't care about others personally and are out for themselves regardless who they hurt or what family they tear up. This guy got home yesterday and his wife had packed up presents and children and started her unplanned holiday road trip to spend christmas with family other than him in Phoenix. He is not welcomed to join. He found her wedding rings on top of his phone.

Now this could go both ways for blame, but I have known this gentleman for several years, we have actually become friends over client/provider and in june when he last saw this girl, he said he was so uncomfortable with her, couldn't get off, and had a very bad guilty conscience about what he was doing and said she was the last one he had seen, since he decided he no longer wanted to participate in this lifestyle and it wasn't worth the risk since his wife is hot and so cool, works from home and takes care of kids fulltime, refuses a nanny unless they are out of town, realized it wasn't fair to them. In return, he has gone all out in the last 6 months to pamper spoil and show his wife how appreciative he realized she really is to him. She even picks up other hot girls to share with him - wow what man on this board wouldn't love that.  

Any ways, as a provider who understands many aspects as to why people guys n gals do this, It made me cry hearing him share this and knowing how sincere and genuine he has tried to be once he realized his wife was more important than any woman he could pay for only to have a random solicited text message sent unbeknownst to him, and force an ending to his marriage right before Christmas.  

Providers - being a provider for jeez over 10 years+ - I personally have NEVER sent even 1 solicited text to past clients to offer anything ever. It reminds me of the crackheads walking the tracks in Houston hussling cars for quickies because they need that money noooow. Its very classless, needy, and most of the time, unwanted. That is why we have advertising boards emails and messaging systems. Part of what a client is paying you for is DISCRETION. Overstep those boundaries and not only are you putting yourself on blast, but you may lose future clients knowing they cannot trust you to be discreet. I do understand it does work out for some, but in this businees, morally and personally it hurts those who do not understand it.

HOBBYISTS- many providers have atleast 2 phones but there are some for unknown reasons who use their personal numbers for business purposes as well. If you message someone because you get an inkling to blow loads, blowing a providers phone up - may also put her at risk. It shows hostility, unstableness, lack of respect for their personal space.  

So I guess the lesson of all this is to make it very very clear when you give your number out, how and when it is to be used and not abused. Providers, if you are excited about that daily special, post an ad or send an email, unless you have clients specifically tell you to use their phone number. Do not assume you just can. Guys, if there are no current ads and there is a particular girl you would like to meet, message her first unless she has given you permission to contact her directly via phone.

Any ways just a friendly reminder to all.

Merry Christmas!!!

Roxie GFE

Ask for an appropriate time and whether or not they prefer texting, calling, email, or no contact at all. I never ever send unsolicited texts or make unsolicited calls to anyone for any reason, but i alwas ask as soon as i am contacted for booking purposes only. After initially meeting, If they are interested in seeing me again they know how to reach me.  

I notice a lot of girls doing the "hey I'm leaving the biz" or "hey I'm in your city this week" kind of texts or calls to their favorites or whatever but I disagree with this tactic because it is luring someone to do something they otherwise would not have been doing at that point in time (manipulative), and because it breaches their privacy. It seems desperate to me and I am not sure that many guys would tolerate this or have something positive to say about it. If you read reviews where guys got called or texted to meet a girl, their account of the experience is negative.

I totally agree Sasha!  When gentlemen inquire about spending time together, in my response I aske them to " Please let me know the best way to contact you". I am absolutely fine using email.  An extra cell is sometimes hard or inconvenient.  An employer can state whatever you leave in your desk is their property and trying to hide a cell all the time is a game within itself.  Discretion should be a priority for all.  Privacy sometimes does not exist for some.  Thank you for the respect of anonymity.

Being in this profession a very long time, with many regulars that have become my friends over the years, I could not imagine texting or calling any of my clients unsolicited(unless that is our arrangement). To take it one step further, I get some newbies (to me) that get frustrated if I don't return their calls. If I can't return your call within an hour or two of your call, I do not return them, because for all I know you may be with your boss, or wife by then. They pay us for a reason, to have a wonderful experience and leave them alone. I know when or if a client gets the urge, he will contact me. I always recommend hobbyists have a "throw away" phone they use specifically for the hobby. Many do. If you can afford to play, you can certainly afford $30 a month for a boost unlimited plan. I have a work phone, that gets turned off when I head home every day, discretion is a must for all of us. Liked the post Roxie GFE.    

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Had a provider do the same thing to me. Had not seen her in over a year and she clearly just sent a mass text to everyone in her list. Wife saw it as I opened it while she was in the room.  

Luckily I was able to play it off as a wrong number but the girl kept doing it and would not take my number out of her list (did not have a great time with her so I had no plans of repeating).

Ladies always ask if it is ok to do this or expect to see your reputation go down with married, or otherwise committed, gentilmen.