Now that I am finally getting reviews (thank you, guys!) and a bit of a presence, it offers me the luxury of requiring men to prove to me they aren't cops or women beaters or any other bad thing before we meet for the first time.  Well, prove to me in theory, anyway.  This is fairly easy to acomplish with the use of these sites or referrals from other providers.

I have a couple of gentlemen who want to see me.  One has never used a provider before and the other hasn't in 25 years.  I can't think of any other way to reasonably screen them.  Do you have ideas or should I just leave them be?  My safety and well-being come first, even before cash.  But at the same time I feel for them as I was in their shoes not that long ago: Trying to build a good reputation as a newbie.

Is meeting with them in advance effective?  Or meeting in the lobby? But I don't feel that tells me anything at all and leaves me just as vulnerable.

I appreciate your thoughts.