I realize that " your mileage may vary " refers to the unique chemistry and resulting experience with each provider / hobbyist. However, after a couple of first time experiences that did not even come close to the many reviews that I had read I think some help may be in order. But if the experience is a "let down" then I am loath to go back to that same provider and risk throwing good money after bad.l Up front, let me say that the basics of being polite and courteous and clean are "a given" and are always followed. I notice on many provider sites, a warning that that I interpret as, any attempt to discuss specific services will not be responded to, and I think that it is a wise approach because of LE. So, I am left with these questions and issues: Can a first timer, with a specific provider, approach that session with realistic expectations based on multiple reviews ? Or, should I just figure that I will have to invest $$$ / per session for multiple sessions before having experiences similar to the reviews that I've read ? Or, are reviews typically embellished to the point where many of the specifics ( like DFK , BBJ , BBJCM, GREEK ) are not reliable ? Also, I wonder if there are times when a reviewed provider would prefer that some specifics were not included in a review even though they are true. What she may have been willing to do with one client, might be an uncommon activity in her normal routine. If that is the case, would it compromise the integrity of the review for that to be stated by the provider ? For that to be left out of the review might be a service to us all, if including it would lead us to unrealistic expectations.
Where a well reviewed and highly rated provider had a forgetable session with me. I did everything right. I noticed that she was a bit uptight and in a hurry. Nothing in her many reviews implied that she would present herself in such a way. And like you, I will not take another chance on her. I chose not to review her because I figured that she was having a bad day. I was able to find a visiting, newbie provider who made the night much brighter. The best way to avoid this situation and it is one I failed to use in the case of my bad session, is to look at how accurate the reviewers are on other reviews. If they do reviews of other providers and hobbyists that follow them echo the same rating, then what they say is believable. I know of several hobbyists whose reviews are very accurate and when they rate a lady highly, I had better jump in line as soon as possible. Most providers would prefer that a reviewer stay with the basics and describe how he felt about the session. Many reviewers, and I had this problem early on, are far too graphic in their descriptions of what happened, even down to counting how and how many orgasms a lady had. When I review ladies not I focus on describing the basics of what they offered. If a provider has something that I think another hobbyist must be warned about, like a hygiene problem, then I try to state the fact in a direct, but respectful fashion. It is common for a provider to give some hobbyists "more" than she gives some others. I have had ladies that have a profile of no kissing DFK me because I presented myself well and had fresh breath. On the contrary, I have had one or two ladies that gave BBBJ cover me because they felt that doing so was appropriate for their own reasons. What you get is dependent upon the lady and how she perceives you, although the top level ladies appear to work at delivering consistent services. I have vowed to myself to leave somethings out of reviews if they do not change the profile of the lady. For example, if a lady DFK me when she either do not kiss or LFK others, I will not mentioned that she DFKed me. Hobbyists that choose her would expect her to not kiss or LFK from her profile, so I leave it up to her to provide some of them with more if she choose to. I would not want every hobbyists that she see demanding DFK because I wrote that she did it. I feel the same way about greek now, I will never again say that a provider did it with me if her profile does not indicate that she offer the service. I admit that I an struggling with leaving stuff out of reviews and may change things to state that what the lady offered to me may not be offered to everyone, or vice versa. The last approach may be best in that it states what the lady offered but warns other hobbyists that their experience can be different.
”Can a first timer, with a specific provider, approach that session with realistic expectations based on multiple reviews ? Or, should I just figure that I will have to invest $$$ / per session for multiple sessions before having experiences similar to the reviews that I've read ? Or, are reviews typically embellished to the point where many of the specifics ( like DFK , BBJ , BBJCM, GREEK ) are not reliable ?”
Yes if the “multiple reviews” are consistent with respect to service provided.
“I wonder if there are times when a reviewed provider would prefer that some specifics were not included in a review even though they are true. What she may have been willing to do with one client, might be an uncommon activity in her normal routine.”
Yes this is often the case, especially for “ specifics ( like DFK , BBJ , BBJCM, GREEK) and her request should be honor
“ If that is the case, would it compromise the integrity of the review for that to be stated by the provider ? For that to be left out of the review might be a service to us all, if including it would lead us to unrealistic expectations.”
No! You should only expect the activity that is frequently mentions in her reviews. As one lady frequently says, anything extra is a gift and you should accept it as that only. Many times you will not receive these gifts on the first or even the second visit. So yes it may require investment in both time and money. This fact is somewhat understood by most of us and therefore has no bearing on integrity.
The bottom line if you want DFK,BBJ, BBJCM, and Greek on the first visit look for ladies who advertise this activity on there web page and have this activity consistently described in there reviews.
If it didn't feel right for you move on. Just because 10 other guy's supposedly had the time of their live's with her doesn't mean you will. I saw a local provider that has lot's of very good review's, actually a couple mentioned she was picky and first visit's were limited. Other review's mentioned how their first visit contained multiple serving's and the whole nine yard's. My first visit was somewhat reserved and I felt a little lacking, but all in all nice. I saw her again just to see if it would make a difference and it was much better, she was totally willing and ready to please, very enjoyable. If the provider is one you liked and feel worthy of a second visit go for it if not find another.
I, at first, always had very high expectations and arrived at each and every date with much anticipation. Quite often, for the first several times at least, I felt I had only acheived very average results. Then, with a couple of great dates that exceeded expectations mixed in, I came to realize that not each time, especially with someone new, will be perfect. I also did not communicate what I desired. I noticed your one statement about not discussing specific services (avoiding the LE trap) which is smart. However, once you are "comfortable" with your date and things are heating up, you may need to mention or encourage what exactly it is that you want (she can't read minds ya' know). Some ladies will even ask, once foreplay has begun something like "So, what are you into?" or "What do you like to do?" and I never had answers at first. I just let her take the lead figuring she was the professional here. Now, I know how to help steer things in the direction I prefer when needed. Experience has taught me that it can be extremely difficult for two people who have never met before to fully enjoy each other's company the way we intend to within that first hour. Those ladies that can do it are very skilled at their craft. Not every experience will be a mindblowing once in a lifetime encounter, some will be rather ordinary and average. The point I am trying to get at is that, I kind of lowered my expectations to something realistic and obtainable. Now I go into a date with only a few basic expectations and let the experience naturally progress to whatever we make of it, and I find that I usually have an enjoyable time, though sometimes when the planets aline just right, you meet in the right place, at the right time...
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