How can you become verified but still be anonymous?

I am new to this and was wondering if there is a way to be verified and be discreet or anonymous?

How else can you get verified or what other information will providers take?

P411 is that the best way?

P411 is only a advertising tools for ladies. NOT screening site.  
Too many blacklisted guys on p411

can search for newbie friendly providers in your area. After you get a few OK's lots of options open up.