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Did anyone here stopped thinking about getting married ?
I am just wondering if there is anyone who started out hobbying when they were young has decided not to get married ?? Seems like hobbying is too much fun and now I am not at all interested in a committed relationship. Wat do you guys think ?
I doubt that I would EVER do that again.
Women are GREAT, in moderation!
People want different things outta life. It's that simple.
Personally, I still want to get married someday. But, I'm in no hurry.
Others like the relative freedom that hobbying offers.
Marriage is what you make it, don't accept anyone else's definitions. My wife and I have been happily married for many years. We still screw each other's brains out regularly. I would not want to live without her. But I also get to enjoy my hobbying on a regular basis. She knows how much I enjoy it and knows it does not threaten our relationship in any way. So I have her permission. Yes, she's an unusually open minded woman. But I worked hard to create the relationship I have. It did not just happen by itself. You can have your pussy and eat it too!
No I suppose you wouldn't equate marriage with a loss of freedom if your wife is OK with you having sex with providers.
DUH!
I wonder what % of women in America would be OK with this? NOT including the ones who want to be left alone in the bedroom.
You have one UNCOMMON wife my friend. Does she have sex outside the marriage as well?
She used to have more sex outside the marriage than I did. But recently she has not. I've encouraged her to do so and to try some hobbying, but she's reluctant. But she certainly has my permission!
You have an amazing woman by your side. It's difficult when we are raised to believe in this fairy tale where one person is supposed to somehow make you happy sexually, emotionally, spiritually "until death". The fact is men are more inclined to desire, if not need a varied, exciting sex life, Fighting that instinct leads to so many issues, and can even be the breaking point of a relationship. Having this experience has taught me that men have needs, and if I were ever to marry, I would be supportive of him living his fantasies, and strictly with pvdrs. It decreases the possibility of a messy emotional affair, and taking away someone's personal freedom is not what marriage should be about. A hundred years ago or more, it was accepted as tradition that men had wives and mistresses who they compensated. Everyone knew what they were getting out of the deal, and it just seemed to make sense...perhaps one of the factors to a much lower divorce rate. Sexuality is such a wonderful thing that we all should have the ability to explore without shame or guilt
Temptress, you are absolutely correct. As the noted columnist Dan Savage says, we should consider being "monogomish", not monogomous. My wife and I are totally committed to our relationship. But having a bit of fun on the side is just like going out and eating an ice cream sundae. It's very pleasurable and does not threaten the marriage in any way. In fact it makes it better because we are happier and more satisfied when more of our needs are being met. Happier individuals create happier marriages.
Dude you got an awesome wife but I see what you are saying...
Thanks Dude, yes I do have an awesome wife. But you could have one as well if that's your goal. I just put this idea out there to let y'all know that it is possible, if rare. Having that one special long term, dependable, relationship in your life is awesome! Especially if it means you can still get some hot pussy on the side now and then!
First was a disaster... she married my bank account. F**ked me one a month as long as the money held out. When the money was gone, so was she. Bankruptcy s*rks. Turns out she liked sex, was banging other guys the whole time... gave me just enough to string me along.
I'd have been way better off to have hobbied. Thankfully no children.
Second marriage, still in it. She'd been widowed... had not had sex or release during 5 years alone. "Could take it or leave it" (code for she didn't like sex) Sex has been once a year until recent years when it totally stopped. Early on when I complained... she promised "It wouldn't always be like this." (once a year) Nope, now it's ZERO. If I could afford to leave, I'd have been gone a long time ago. So I hobby when I can.
She has children, now grown & gone. Never had any of my own.
Women use sex... to get a man. To get the babies they want. Other than that, few women seem to like sex. (Or Maybe I've just been unlucky?) Providers seem to be smarter... realize men are wired to need sex. In My Opinion, it doesn't need to be that great sex. She doesn't need to be that beautiful (unless the guy is rich or powerful & thus a target for younger prettier women to throw themselves at him). If my wife F**cked me a few times a week, I'd have no energy for the hobby.
If I had it to do again, I'd be rich enough to afford what I wanted. I'd have a live in GF. During droughts, I'd hobby
There are lots of women who genuinely like, or even love sex. Just like believe it or not, there are women out there who absolutely love to suck cock.
Some women (just like some men) have a high sex drive, others don't. My last provider GF was what most people would call a "high volume" girl, even on her slow work days she would see at least two or three guys, and on many days more, but she always had enough "left in the tank" for me. I honestly can't think of more than two or three times in the six months or so that we were together where we didn't have sex because she was "too tired" Now there were many times where we might get too drunk and not have sex until the morning, but I honestly can only remember a couple of times where I "wanted it" and she was too tired from work.
An honest relationship is what builds trust.
Do you have any regrets so far or do you plan on staying like that forever ?
what's round the corner. So I won't make any predictions about my future other than that it would pretty hard to leave "sex on demand" with beautiful ladies.
That being said, I can see myself settling down for sake of having kids. You will always regret some things in life, but I read somewhere that the regret of NOT doing something is at times far greater than doing something (mistake)...
Mark Twain said it best. "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
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