Newbie - FAQ

Yes, I'd say you are gonna have a pretty tough time.
AshleeLeeson 2630 reads
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1 / 16

so I'm just getting started and, well, maybe i'll get flamed for this but i don't really like doing bj's

is that a deal breaker?

Bostonguy57 48 Reviews 789 reads
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2 / 16

To be honest you are going to have a tough time making a living in this business if you can't give a convincing BJ.

crazyshit 718 reads
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3 / 16

Unless your pussy is made of gold, you have some other really great qualities, or if your rate is low enough.

hiddenhills 143 Reviews 682 reads
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4 / 16

It's usually a dealbreaker. I'm going to guess you haven't read any of the juicy details of the reviews. I can't remember when the last time I read a review and a bj wasn't part of the activities

mrfisher 112 Reviews 1116 reads
posted
5 / 16

But if I told the boss that I'm just going to do things here I like to do and not the rest, I am going to be on the unemployment line.

Why do you think you're getting paid for this?

If you truly don't like it, get into another line of work.  Try doing lap dancing or something like that.

Or do FBSM instead.

swimtrekr 58 Reviews 1069 reads
posted
6 / 16

I don't think you will get too many clients w/o offering a bj on your menu.  First off, many guys only want that, and don't really need or want FS.  Many guys, like me, will not even see a gal that doesn't offer a BBBJ, if is one of my 2 deal-breakers, the other is DFK, got to have that too.  

While I wish you the best, but maybe you better reconsider providing if you don't enjoy giving oral.  Start by asking yourself why you don't like it, and/or what is it about giving oral that you don't like.  You can give oral w/o allowing CIM. if that's what you don't like, and CIM is not always required by the guys.

Swim

voyager-43 11 Reviews 777 reads
posted
7 / 16

and say you might want to take a step back and re-think your expectations for this business. It may not be for you. It is a competitive business after all. You will be competing for business with providers that are willing to do more for their clients.
I suggest you look at the Reviews section and take notice of the section Services Offered.  There are 16 services listed. Think of it as your menu. If you only offer a very limited menu, then you are seriously restricting the potential clientele.
Finally, if you try to fake it, you had better be a damn good actress. If we, the clients, wanted plain vanilla , faked enthusiasm sex, most of us would just stay at home and keep the money.

Somegirlsdo 618 reads
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8 / 16
harborview 10 Reviews 676 reads
posted
9 / 16

need not be to completion but pretty necessary to get the guy going without taking all day.  

You might want to take a look at FBSM (Full Body Sensual Massage)...  usually doesn't pay as well but can just have a HJ for a happy ending.  Now a BJ or FS as an add on will still pay more but some gals do just fine without it.  

Consider that adult services might not be for you.  Not everybody can do it.  If you can't, then you've learned a valueable lesson about yourself.   No one is flaming you.

saturnsky 565 reads
posted
10 / 16

Why not try FBSM because blow jobs are not the norm there. Some here might tell you different because it's in their favor if they do. Not all guys act like guys on boards. There is a great market share that approach this game quite differently.

Do what is comfortable for you and seek another market share if this one is too much. It can be very lucrative and less stress.

London Rayne See my TER Reviews 746 reads
posted
11 / 16

You have to understand that as providers, we are offering a service that most guys are NOT getting at home, and blowjobs top that list. If it were not for my oral skills, I would not even make it as a provider, because my kitty is a bit handicapped lol.

Here's my advice...don't go the gfe route if you don't like doing BJs. You can make a good living as an FBSM provider who only does a hand job ending, so that's the route I would go. Even if you have to go as low as 150, you're not using any part of your body but your hands, so that's not bad money to me. You also won't attract the bottom feeder douche bags, who search for sex at that rate, but decent, clean, and professional men only looking for a massage.

2hot4u2 228 Reviews 740 reads
posted
12 / 16

For me kissing is an art ,eyes & lips will get me every-time lol

natashalynne See my TER Reviews 703 reads
posted
13 / 16

and BJ is a pretty big part of this job.  You will sometimes have clients who ONLY want a BJ, in fact.

Obviously we all have limits and things we won't do (many don't do anal or rimming, for example), but those are mostly for 'extras' that many guys don't care about.  You will find very few guys who don't care about BJs.

I suggest you decide if you're more comfortable with BBBJ or CBJ (personally, my decision was made based on the fact that I hate the taste of latex), then figure out how to change your mindset about it.  There are flavored lubes that can make it more pleasant.....

harborview 10 Reviews 1122 reads
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14 / 16

You can'rt make it in the sex business without spilling some cum along the way.  It's not toxic or hazzardous waste (generally).  It is proof of your superior skills as a woman.  
A fav lady is FBSM but once she gets to know you allows extras up to & including FS.  BJs can go several directions with her.  She might get you going & then use her mouth to apply the condom before FS.  Frankly, it feels terrific.  Or she might do a CBJ to completion.   Or she might do a BBBJ to completion but generally not CIM.  Now how does this work?  She works on trigger spots with tongue or more of a closed mouth.  Very close to the "lipstick technique" seen on Cosmo.   http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/tips-moves/597244-8   But 'he' is cumming near your mouth if not directly into it.  There is a risk of accidental CIM.  Yes, that happened to us once & she returned from the bathroom with the smell of mouth wash...  but never an unkind word.  She kissed me & lay down beside me...  superbly please with herself & us.  

Do you see yourself in here?

impposter 49 Reviews 661 reads
posted
15 / 16

Some have suggested FBSM but you could consider the other direction to BDSM and stuff like that.  Get a black leather or black latex body suit, a whip and a cane.  If he asks for a BJ, whack him good!

As for me: no BJ , no date.  My personal pref is BBBJNQNS.

Good luck ... and don't hit me.

clarence37 37 Reviews 1075 reads
posted
16 / 16

WHY you don't like giving head. Is it taste, smell, "fear" of CIM? Is it the submissive aspect, or fear of choking or not being able to breathe? And what about kissing, do you have a problem with that too?

I'd have to agree with most of the respondents here, that BJ without sex is a lot more common that sex without BJ, and that it would be difficult for you to prosper, very difficult to command "GFE" prices.

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