This post is basically here because I have to tell someone. And, since I can't talk to anyone I actually know about it, I figured posting to complete strangers on the newbie board will have to do.  

A bit about me to put things in perspective..  I'm in the early 40s, been married around 15 years, and have 2 kids.  Other than one brief recent experience (which I'll get to) I've only ever had sex with my wife.   I "fooled around" with girls before my wife, but not actual sex.  This wasn't for religious reasons or anything like that...  I always over think things and came up with various reasons not to.

I love my wife, and she's beautiful.  She's not fridged but she is on meds that lower her sex drive.  Mostly that's OK, but it does get old.  That's not really the issue though.

The real issue is every few years I find myself trying to convince myself to not like her (I wouldn't go so far as to say hate), and the start working on some woman that I have a thing for at the time...  never successfully because.. I over think things  but it does make me resentful of my wife for a while.

Anyway, in trying to break that particular cycle, and not end up like others in my family (affairs with psychos.. or even not psychos)....  I've decided to see a couple of providers on an upcoming trip.  

I'm hoping doing this will help "scratch the itch" once or twice a year, and maybe help me work on some of my other issues.

There's more to it of course, and I'm not deluded enough to deny that I'm getting to that "mid-life crisis" stage in my life.

I don't seem to have a real question...  I'm not asking for advice (although I wouldn't be surprised if I get some of that with a big dose of criticism ...it the internet after all).  I often see men complaining about their wives on the board..  and I often wonder if they convinced themselves they disliked their wives in order to justify what they do.  I realize I'm doing some justification of my own though.

Anyway, that's more than enough for now.

convince us for your reasons to have sex, or not have sex, outside of your marriage..

Lot of guys hobby for lot of different reasons..

Some because they don't get sex in their marriage...

Some because they just like to fuck different, beautiful girls...

For some its more about companionship than just hardcore suck my dick..sex...

Whatever your reasons are they are fine, and they are personal to you. So go have fun and don't fall in love with the hooker.. LOL

People are here for different reasons. Ill just say good luck, and have fun with your first providers.
and since you are here, I hope you did read up and do the proper research. Also some of these ladies are really, really good at the GFE, but remember the E part. It is an experience, not your real girlfriend, so dont fall in love.

Definitely did the research (the over thinking thing)... No concerns there. Both top 100 providers in their areas.

No worries about falling in love (or maybe I should say staying in love after my time is up). That's the whole reason I'm paying.

And.. Not really worried about being judged.  Just had to get it out/state it.  Sometimes I think the Catholics got that part right.

If not, I suggest you read it immediately. Upper right corner by the life preserver on the main newb page. Pay attention to the "covering your tracks"  

Thanks, I haven't read that in particular, but have read similar on other forums.  Definitely helpful info.  Also have read a lot about sugarbabies.. which I'm definitely not after (to much like an actual relationship).. but reading the horror stories there will definitely raise your level of paranoia

This is a judgement free zone!, everyone has their own reasons for seeing us, and mainly because we don't call you afterwards right? We are drama free! Either way, I read your post and my only advice to you would be to do a lot of research on whoever you are seeing (you didn't specify where you found these two ladies),it would be really bad for you not to have a pleasant experience, get a VIP membership here and maybe even tell the girl it's your first time (I may sound silly now but you will thank me later). Either way, I hope you enjoy your two dates and be safe!


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