I'm looking for advice from hobbyists and providers on the etiquette of planning a 40th Birthday weekend for my best friend. He and I will meet in a City for 4 days/6 nights (we live on opposite sides of the country) and I am developing an itinerary of high end activities and events.
Central to our enjoyment is the company of 3 extraordinary providers – 2 for him and 1 for me. They would join us on the afternoon of the first day and stay until the afternoon of the fourth (so that’s 3 full days). I have had a good deal of experience with providers, but I have not planned anything of this importance.
Please provide feedback on my proposed course of preparation.
Currently, I am researching providers on TER to find compatible personalities and appearance. After identifying the most promising, I will fly to their cities to meet them in order to verify their appearance and personality, to review the weekend agenda and get their feedback and to get a sense of how this group of 5 would get along.
I plan for these meetings to be about 30 minutes and in a public place (restaurant, hotel lobby). I expect to pay for these meetings and to bring my assistant (let’s call her Julie) who will be handling the weekend’s logistics.
Most likely, the providers will not live in the destination City, so I will fly them in and have a car bring them to the resort. My friend and I will arrive the night before so Julie will meet them at the airport and accompany them to the resort, facilitate their access to our rooms, and escort them to us.
Upon arrival at the resort, Julie will compensate them for the first 24 hours. Each successive day at noon July will compensate them for the next 24 hours. If a tip is earned, it will be given upon their departure on their third day. When they depart, I will have a car take them back to the airport.
At the initial meeting, I plan to discuss the travel logistics and compensation schedule. Additionally, I plan to discuss some specific services and to propose a mutual STD screening protocol so that everyone is informed of everyone’s status. Neither my friend nor I have (or ever had) an STD and we do not want this weekend to change that.
Outside of commenting on this course of action, please give feedback on these specific questions.
Is it appropriate to compensate the providers at the initial meeting? Will they feel uncomfortable receiving money?
Will Julie’s presence at the initial meeting be acceptable to providers?
How can I best communicate that I’m not LE at or before the initial meeting so we can have an open and honest dialog?
Where is the best place to have the initial meeting? Are restaurants/hotels appropriate?
I have some ideas about how to do the STD screening, but is there an accepted or established protocol?
Is it acceptable to provide logistics and details of the weekend in writing at the initial meeting or should this wait until their arrival?
2 or 3 shorter dates.
That way if you don't click with 1 or 2 of the ladies there will be others.
The ladies I have dealt always got everything up front, in cash, from me.
I wouldn't want to have an assistant who know my business, that's a lot of trust.
Also you want to have some down time where there aren't any ladies hanging around. That way you can compare notes and recharge.
Meeting them in advance could also be problematic. Their schedule could change, who knows?
Just my .02
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This sounds awefully involved... a lot of potential for this to end in disaster. I agree with the previous reply... everyone needs down time. Sleeping time should be part of any contract.
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I think you are pushing your luck expecting this to work. I admire your seeming ability and desire to spend loads of cash on pussy but I doubt you will pull this off. Very few providers are into the whole James Bond aspect of what you are trying to do here. Most will want a deposit, some will flake on you and meeting a lady for 30 minutes in a public place is going to give you very little indication of what it will be like to spend a few days with her. Multiply this by three and you are simply taking on three times as much risk.
A wiser approach would be to pick a good city, travel there for a few days and line up dates with several local well reviewed ladies. I would never do an overnight with a woman that I have not already seen several times.
Leave Julie at the office, she has no place in any of this.
I don't know a high end, reputable provider who would go along with staking out 4 days for you (approx 5k day per lady) under go your "std screening" and aqueous to your odd meeting up front demands without a considerable deposit and to be paid upfront. Your dolling out of money, like holding out a carrot on a stick seems odd to me. i mean you're talking 45k + and you don't know how to let a provider know you're not LE? how about undergoing her screening process.... hard to put my thumb on why this doest sit right...ummmm.
My guess is maybe your new at this and or have watched too many TV/movies on escorts.
The question of what providers to use is paramount.
Do you or your friend have favorites that know you well, or at least somewhat?
If so, that's who should be enjoying this bash with you, not strangers.
If you are both newbies to this whole hobby scene, my suggestion is to forget the plan and find another way to celebrate. (Take a massage parlor tour maybe?)
This could really be an expensive disaster.
And to answer some of your questions:
1. Yes, they will want 100% cash up front. They will not be uncomfortable with that.
2. I think that they will be able to handle Julie.
3. They will want to screen you to be sure that you (and Julie) are not LE; i.e. they will want references. If you don't have references, you may be SOL.
4. They will want to have several exchanges over email and by phone first. Let them decide an appropriate place to meet.
5. Re: STDs: Don't even think of going there. If they are good providers, then all the activities will be safe.
6. You can ask them about logistics at the outset, and let them decide on that as well.
Good luck with this. I'll be very interested in seeing how this comes off.
i don't care if you your friend an Julie all screen well, theres no way anyone is peeking at my std test results. My real name is on there and thats not happening. We too have lives to protect and my real name is not part of this bargain. Plus all play with an establish gal will be protected, even with the testing you can never be 100% its a chance you always take, its risky.
This IS all way too covert and James Bond like for me.
Just research a few nice gals in the area you plan to be staying. Get the ball rolling from there.
you would be best served finding an agency in that area that can accommodate you. they could set the most difficult part, the 3 providers who are willing to book for that many days.
also, you have a better guarantee on quality/health of providers than with the massive amount of legwork you will have to do to get 3 girls on the same page. you also would not have to deal with transportation of these ladies.
just my 2 cents, since money doesn't seem to be the issue, so you might as well save yourself all the time.
So many issues here, where to begin...
If you plan to meet with a provider for sex or just a meeting, plan on paying for her time.
I would never get into a car and go to a meeting when I don't know the client or driver, no way, I will drive myself!
If I received an email that sounded like your above post it would get deleted with a quickness.
I am sure you mean well but you are expecting a lot from ladies who survive this business by being suspicious of everyone.
This is to much to ask for from a busy provider. you are better off going to the bar and finding a girl looking for a sugar daddy.
Providers whom are professional .. keep ontop of there std etc checks. Getting something.. is just bad for business and not a option. MOST women who are not the fly bys.. use protection because they care about them selfs and they clients.
There rep is on the line.
So... Rethink the idea..
Dude,
I don't know if you're a newbie, but this definitely sounds like newbie stuff (no offense). As everyone else has indicated, this is WAY too elaborate and in my humble experience, too many moving parts means more chances for things to fail or not work.
Your best bet is to just go to Vegas - it's a "fun" city (in every sense of the word), has a lot to offer (especially if you are willing to blow the kind of cash that you hint at), and you have your choice of:
a. local providers - Vegas has many (and I mean many!) to choose from, who are very well reviewed, experienced (i.e., knows how to rock your world), and come in all "colors and flavors".
b. legal brothels - several decent legal brothels are a short drive from Vegas and as they are regulated, they tend to be very legal (no LE worries), safe and STD-free (mostly). I'm sure they would be happy to put together an unforgetable "package" for you and your buddy (including extended sessions).
c. random party girls - check you and your buddy into a suite at one of the high end Vegas casinos, give a very large tip to the concierge and have the concierge arrange for a night out on the town - complete with a limo (or a great rental car) and private tables at sought after Vegas night-clubs - and you guys will probably have your pick of various party girls who are looking to have fun and a good time. Be sure to dress to impress and "bling" never hurts. This is more risky as you may end up with nothing and you're basically just hooking up with random chicks, but this could be fun also.
Good luck to you.
Just wondering if Julie is Hott.
to feel 100% confident when just screening one client. Add to this "julie", your bday friend, and 3 other ladies.
no thank you.
AND, at least for me, i have a lot of regular clients that i really enjoy being with but would NEVER spend several days with them.
let alone spend several days with unkowns....
This might be a little difficult the way you are going about it. A lot of independents won't work with a girl they don't know...and it seems as some others have mentioned, you've put a lot of variables in place.
What you might want to do is contact a high end agency with a great reputation, and tell them exactly what you are trying to accomplish. They could probably arrange an initial meeting with the girls - each all at once. YOu'll probably have to pay up front, but this will probably be the easiest way for you to accomplish this. It would also just mean one trip for you to meet the girls.
I appreciate everyone’s input, advice, and time. Vegas is indeed the city for that weekend. I have been to the ranches and I was unimpressed.
The suggestion to utilize a high class and reputable agency sounds like my best course. It seems to solve all my logistical difficulties and expands our options - as was pointed out.
Does anyone have any high class agency recommendations in Vegas?
By way of background, I have healthy amount of hobby experience, but the arrangements were always made for me. I have had some truly magical experiences! Given what I’ve experienced, I want to create something extraordinary for my best friend.
This is my first attempt at planning a serious venture, so my approach defaulted to what has worked for me in business. I appreciate that everyone weighed in to better guide my efforts and to help me avert disaster.
And, yes, Julie will be staying home (and of course she’s hot).
They do not exist
There are no decent agencies in Vegas. Everything is bait and switch and deceptive up sell for poor service. There are quite a few very good indie ladies in the area. Check the local board and look at reviews.
We can not recommend ladies or agencies here on the newbie board.
BTW, this may be a stupid question but are you certain that your best friend hobbies?
What you might want to try doing is an agency search in a few different cities, such as New York, Los Angeles and Miami.
Find a couple with numerous girls with high grades (you will need a VIP membership), and then review their websites and selections and then contact them.
If you get a VIP, go ahead and PM me and I'll see if I can be of further assistance.
Assistant, Logistics, Protocol, Course of Preparation, Weekend Agenda...All Bullshit.
Jesus, leave all that shit at the office, and learn to have some fun. What you've described here, sounds like a business trip.
The gentleman is just trying to ensure that it is an event to remember. Whenever there is a special occasion, most of us go the extra mile to ensure it's as memorable as possible. It can be as simple as selecting a nice restaurant based on reading the reviews, star ratings, etc. Or in this case, arranging for providers. Things that we may not do albeit for the special occasion. Just my two cents.