I have a date in a couple of days with a well reviewed lady, though no reviews since November of last year. Yesterday she sent me a confirmation email and then a second email saying she forgot to mention that I should bring 300 roses in a sealed envelope and where to put that upon arrival.

I've been at the hobby for over a year and never had anyone mention something like that.  I always figured it is understood that I will know the price and how to deal with logistics like that.

Am I paranoid to worry that I'm being directed to a "paper trail" that could be part of LE activity or is she just being super mindful of detail?

but most gals in the know, know that money, roses or otherwise, should never be mentioned or even alluded to by either party.

Does her site or ad mention the donation?  If not, then I guess she felt compelled to mention it.  This is a good reason not to see providers who have no price information out where we clients can see it, as it forces one or the other to inquire beforehand, which is never good.

If you have an uneasy feeling about this, then I would cancel.  This is supposed to be fun, not paranoia inducing.

Perhaps she took a break??  but you still want to know, google her phone number, email etc.... As far as the envelope, technically she is not mentioning anything explicit but if you have a strange feeling about it, I just wouldn't go...just give her the courtesy of canceling right away if you are planning to....being paranoid is not a bad thing.

gaps in reviews happen and you can pay a companion for her time, just don't talk about money for sex.

...I'm going to assume you have been screened and meet her requirements. In that case some providers consider it ok to mention donation etc. in communications. She may be one of them. You have to do what you think is best but this isn't necessarily a red flag.

I would not assume that it is understood not to mention money or donation ... Everyone does things different and I've seen many hobbyist who don't follow this as well or know how, when, where, and what to give.  

Here is where I am confused. I have heard do not ever talk about money or details in emails or texts as they can be printed. Yet escorts have websites with rates clearly listed (that can be printed) and I've seen many providers who have specials on occasion and ask that when you are requesting an appt with a discount that needs to be mentioned in the first contact (email) ... On the flip side I have heard do not ever talk about money or such in person or on the phone as it can be recorded. What do you do when they do not put the money down or you can't see/find it or what if the money is short ... Something gets said right? The biggest thing that is confusing is that being an escort is legal (pay for time and companionship) so why so secret on the rate/price???

And in the end, many cops will lie and say whatever to whomever to arrest and charge plus convict you regardless of how you do things or what you say. If they want you, they will get you.  

 

I myself have review gaps.  I happen to see many hobbyists that do not review.  Many of them are repeat clients.  I welcome reviews and feel they are a great tool  You are being cautious and that is good.  Go with your gut.

This answer seems to be the best here. Many gals figure we are not as cautious as they are. We have already looked at their websites and reviews, so we have already "verified" them.

Once they have checked us out, quite a few of the ladies relax about how they communicate.

If you were/are concerned about the gap in her reviews, you should have asked right away, ask her now and maybe even PM a few of her old reviewers and inquire there.

Good luck and have fun!

than to discuss them on the phone or in an email.

The reason is that it is very difficult for many technical reasons to enter a website into evidence in a courtroom than it is to bring in a recording of a conversation or transcripts of emails.

Good providers put their rates on their sites just so they don't have to discuss them in other venues.

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so for LE to subpoena them and get them entered into a court case is just about impossible.

This place is more or less a safe haven, but one watched by LE, so still be very discreet.

link goes to her Eros ad and all that is there is an email address. She has no reviews on TER. The only way I know to find out about her donations is to ask about time.

The actions you mention do not significantly change the odds of you getting busted. They do marginally change the odds of you being charged and the charges sticking, but as others have noted, if you find yourself in search of a provider in a room with a cop, how things turn out is going to be much more a function of how you handle yourself, and how intent the cop is on busting you than anything else.

It is very, very, very unlikely that this lady is a cop, or that this is a sting. Feel free to PM me if you want the reasons I say that, but it is true.

OTOH, if you feel nervous about going ahead with the date, by all means cancel. You are the only one with the full, clear picture, and you are the one who needs to feel comfortable with it.

A long time ago I made a date while on a trip, and the lady did not screen me. Then it turned out her incall was in her house. To cap it, the condom broke. When she did not screen me, I asked her about it, and she said my call was her screening, and eventually I came to understand what she meant. But I was nervous, came here for reassurance, then went ahead with what was a pleasurable date, but also a train wreck. The funny thing is, it would have been a pretty good idea to cancel that date, but not at all for the reason I was worried - the train wreck was something I probably should have avoided and there were some signs of that in the early communication. But it all worked out fine.

I would go ahead and learn from it, probably enjoy it, too. But that is me.

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should not worry about it. so a provider will have gaps. I only will give reviews if asked, but it would also depend on my experience with her.