I've been dating an older gentleman for a few weeks and I enjoy his company and the sexual experiences.

We have been seeing each other at least twice a week and I decided not to charge him each time we are together or when he takes picture.

Any gentleman I have seen on a regular that is generous and good to me... I don't charge or expect anything every time we are together sexually. I want to give them pleasure just because I want then to feel good without expectation.

My feeling on this is...when he does give to me, he is generous and the pictures are part of out sexual encounter so I don't ask for anything...

I don't feel he would exploit the pictures but a female said I shouldn't do this.. but I don't feel I'm doing anything wrong..or cheating myself.

I know he would help me if I ever needed it just because of the fact I don't take from him each time we are together.

I am new to this so.. am I being boo boo the fool?

Sorry, but this sounds very naive to me.  You don't charge sometimes and you even let them take pictures?  I really hope you are making good judgments and won't get taken advantage of.  If you are not comfortable charging, ask yourself if you really want to be in this business.

Don't let strange men take pictures of you LMAO. They're probably online by now. You are doing a disservice by not charging him to every provider out there who doesn't believe in that:read 90% of them. Youre too warm and fuzzy and naive for this. If you want to make people feel good, volunteer at a soup kitchen. This is a business, if you don't treat it as such they will walk all over you.

Huh?  Do you consider these men to be boyfriends?  The money is important for many reasons.  When someone pays for my time it establishes a boundary for both of us.  He knows I'm not going to call and complain because he didn't remember my birthday, and I know what to expect from him.  

I think you are foolish in believing your client will help you whenever you ask for it.  And the pics are not a good idea either.  How do you know what you client does with them?  Do you know what his life is really like?

though it can be a fun business its still a business and if you dont charge then you are soon to go out of business

the pictures, wow thats a whole can of worms that can come back to bite you in th ass in soo many ways its not even funny

Yikes!

As others have pointed out, the pictures could come back and haunt you; especially if they are graphic.  Now, if the pics are like two tourists posing arm-in-arm in front of a land mark, then no big deal other than your face is there for all to see.

Not charging?  Not a good idea.  Some day you may need to money more than you obviously do now.  A better arrangement might be to extend the time (i.e. he pays for an hour and the date lasts 2 hours).

I agree with Jenny.

This nice older guy is not your BF.  YOU are crossing the line.  Give him a senior discount, or frequent flier but CHARGE HIM something.  It's the PAY 4 PLAY that differentiates from the Civie world.  YOU need to hold firm on your boundaries.
We all flirt with the line...  I had to take a break from my (former) ATF.  Because I was mentally crossing the line.  We have resumed seeing each other but I make sure to always see others & I always pay for our time together.  Yes, we spend extra (uncompensated) time together each visit...  but when I leave the donation goes in her pocket.  There are times when I want to help her more...  so I schedule another visit.

EVEN if the gent is 110% trustworthy, what is someone else finds them?  Pictures are forever!  Do they show your face?  Coould they be used to id you?  

Please be more careful.
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You either charge them or you are dating/having an affair with them.  You aren't providing.  That's not to say you can't throw a freebie to someone who has seen you 20 times or discount a birthday service for a regular supporter - but NOTHING in the way you describe.

OK I'm a guy but I think it is nice that you can have a relationship that is a little more then just a client.  If this is happening with lots of clients it may be bad.  I pay to have an experience with a woman that is more then I can otherwise have as a married man.  I appreciate a little more enjoyment while still needing my secret protected.

I have a birthday in 5 months.  Maybe we should get together?  LOL

I may not know about this business.. but trust me.. I'll ask for advice.I've read some of the questions and responses on TER and learned from others mistakes AS WELL AS MY OWN.

He is a mature older gentleman over 60 and has too much to risk... as a businessman and husband of 35 yrs.. But I get the point..

I won't talk about it.. I'll do it...

After reading your responses and he since he is a professional photographer...
We did sign a contract stating he would not solicit or distribute the pictures...

Your definitely helping me handle the business aspect of this.. it's not about having good sex.. I AM A BUSINESS..

I WILL HANDLE IT THAT WAY FROM NOW ON...

Thanks LADIES... I wish I could hug you all..

If you go to a website...dogpile.com I believe, just throw up the pictures he took, it will do a search to see where they were first posted online, if anywhere. You need to know.

You are a free person. You can do whatever you wish.  You don't have to follow anybody else's rules about ANYTHING.

People are individual. Something that you do with one person that might help you and make you feel good, might do exactly the opposite with another.

I believe you should have faith in your own judgment; and learn to refine your judgment when inevitable human mistakes occur.