The only way it's going to do anyone any good is to know who she is, unless you are proposing the OP should be ready to field dozens of PM's
I say give her a couple of days to resurface with a decent explanation, and then let the community know about this time waster, and this goes both ways when the ladies get stood up with out so much a text saying sorry.
I should know this, having been in the hobby for a year, but I don't and it seems like a newbie kind of question so here goes -- what is the appropriate response to a no-cancel-no-show? I had called a provider in the morning set up a time for 730-900 that night. She got my information, said great, call me back at 715 and I will give you the hotel (I already knew the area). I call back at 715 at 730 at 745, no answer, never hear from her again. I even called the next day to check in and see what happened and if we can reschedule -- no response.
How does one deal with this? Besides the obvious -- move on -- which I already understand and is fine. But does warn fellow hobbyists? Does one post a notice on a regional board "hey, look out for [...], she sets plans and then doesn't follow through."
Some guys try to warn others by posting a review or posting on boards. Or back channel. On the other hand, some providers are BSC and never admit when they are wrong. It's crazy but when the girl is crazy what else can we expect. In that case, I will have no choice but to state it in the review. Sometimes they get BSC about an honest review too.
If it's a girl I've seen a few times I give her the benefit of the doubt if she contacts me explaining the situation soon. NCNS is not acceptable and not professional. It's what immature people do, imo.
It's one of the reasons I am no longer limiting myself to 19-29year old girls, cuz girls above 30 tend to be more mature about this. I've seen some immature 30 somethings too tho.
The only way it's going to do anyone any good is to know who she is, unless you are proposing the OP should be ready to field dozens of PM's
I say give her a couple of days to resurface with a decent explanation, and then let the community know about this time waster, and this goes both ways when the ladies get stood up with out so much a text saying sorry.
If she is not super highly rated anyway, then if you are so inclined, use your alias ID and post on the regional board. If she goes bat shit crazy or if other people try to be her white knight, they are yelling at your alias ID anyway, screw them. By the way, I post everything under an alias ID now. I write all my reviews using my regular ID. That way I can speak freely, and my posts can't be connected to who I have seen, and by extension, where I hobby.
I have not met her, just to follow up on the earlier conversation. I don't think I will out her on this -- that seems a little unfair as it only happened once and who knows why. But if a thread does come up, I will mention it or pm people.
here's what I did. My NCNS was a fairly well reviewed lady in my area. I posted what happened and told the guys if they wanted to know who it was they could PM me. Many of them did. By not posting her name, you eliminate the shitstorm that might follow by white knights and the lady herself.
Unfortunately it looks like your attempt to purchase VIP membership has failed due to your card being declined. Good news is that we have several other payment options that you could try.
VIP MEMBER
, you are now a VIP member!
We thank you for your purchase!
VIP MEMBER
, Thank you for becoming VIP member!
Membership should be activated shortly. You'll receive notification!
