: Newbie - FAQ Discussion : Why do you say it's awfully coincidental?

Julian_Rios 1783 reads

posted 8 years ago

1 / 15

So, I started to text a provider who is on here and could potentially be my first encounter. She was polite and accommodating, she just didn't want to meet as late as I needed yesterday. I will still try to arrange something with her at this point.

I was using my brand new burner phone and she was literally the first contact I made with it. I wake up this morning to texts from "Jenny" at some other number. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume my first provider forwarded my info to Jenny.

My question is, is that normal? The first provider could have just been trying to be helpful and sent my info to someone who was available. Or, could it be the start of junk texts fre-flowing into my phone with my number marked as a eager client? Maybe I'm being too cynical?

Any and all feedback is welcome.

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jayofx2 6 Reviews 116 reads

posted 8 years ago

2 / 15

Not normal

No friend, this is not normal. I've hobbied for over 2 years and this has never happened to me. In fact, I've rarely had any woman I've had the pleasure of a date with reach out to schedule a date. I have almost always initiated, and I'm over 20 providers in.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 117 reads

posted 8 years ago

3 / 15

Did you reply to Jenny?

Is Jenny a provider? Was she trying to set up a date?

No, it is it normal for a provider to randomly give out a potential client's phone number to another provider. Is it possible that "Jenny" is the assistant or scheduler for the provider you were reaching out to?

Since you didn't give enough info, and we have no idea if Jenny is a provider, an assistant, or just some random woman who has nothing to do with this hobby, my first assumption is "wrong number." Jenny could be texting whoever owned your phone number before. Phone numbers are recycled. It's a brand new number for you, but that number most likely belonged to someone before you.

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Julian_Rios 156 reads

posted 8 years ago

4 / 15

Re: Did you reply to Jenny?

I replied to "Jenny" asking if she had TER or P411 ids and I have not received a reply. I do not believe she was with the first provider since she did not identify herself as such in anyway.

I didn't give many details because I didn't have many to give. I simply got a text saying "Hey, what's up? This is Jenny." I got this the morning following a failed connection with another provider on a brand new phone. Sure, it could have been a random wrong number but a vague text from a women to a phone used for such purposes seems awfully coincidental.

That being said, assuming the first provider did in fact pass along my number, should I be concerned about that? Should I ask if the first provider shared my info? That seems a bit accusatory but at the same time, I don't want my number all over the place.

trex44 9 Reviews 113 reads

posted 8 years ago

5 / 15

Best thing to do...

...especially considering this is the Newbie board, is to ditch your present burner phone and get another phone with another number. If you're intent upon scheduling with the original provider (1) you can do it with your next phone and (2) you might ask her about "Jenny."

Personally, I wouldn't take the chance -- I've been doing this off & on since 1992 and I've NEVER had a provider contact me "out of the blue" for any reason. Once I've contacted her, then yes -- there may be communication back and forth, but even that is usually limited and for specific purposes.

There's a reason it's called a BURNER phone -- burn it and get another, then keep researching other providers you might want to see.

HappyChanges 135 reads

posted 8 years ago

6 / 15

How many reviews.......

does the provider have? Are the reviewers legit? If so, she probably didn't give your number away unless she is fucking with you for some reason. Although highly unlikely if she is legit.

Most likely, it's pure coincidence and you asked a complete stranger for their ter id and 411 id. Lol. All phone carriers recycle numbers and it is not uncommon to receive wrong number calls/texts when you have a new number.

A good response to "Jenny". Would have been, "Hey, what's up?." And see what the response is. You may want to take the above posters advice and get a new phone if you're paranoid.

2648667 31 Reviews 133 reads

posted 8 years ago

7 / 15

Why do you say it's awfully coincidental?

If all she said was "Hey, what's up? This is Jenny." I don't see why you would jump to the conclusion that Jenny is another provider. It's possible the woman you contacted gave your number to Jenny, but considering neither of them said anything to you about it, and the fact that that is not SOP, I think it's extremely unlikely. IMO each of the following are more likely to be the truth.

Someone was giving their number to Jenny and she heard it wrong, wrote it down wrong, or punched it into her phone wrong.

Someone at a club or someplace gave Jenny a fake number.

As PS said, it was someone else's number.

The woman you contacted has two personas and got them mixed up.

Just a simple wrong number. It happens.

I would say don't give it a second thought, but since you asked her about TER & p411, maybe there's a little reason to be nervous. Burn the burner if you want, but I don't think I would. Let's say it was just a completely random wrong number and Jenny's dad is a preacher and her brother is a vice cop. Could they find you? I'm not saying it's completely impossible that they could, but could/would they do what that entails?

harborview 10 Reviews 121 reads

posted 8 years ago

8 / 15

No NOT SOP

Your response was unwise. Now, spammers & such are hitting cells now but you have no idea. Such a vague message either ignor or reply: Who are you? or wrong number.
Now, some unknown person knows a hobbist is at your number... Can they fnd you? Probably not. You do turn your phone off when not in use, right. But you have little invested in this number now... only one attempted contact. I think I'd continue with this number while you see if your reviewed provider comes through...

Burning the phone is no big deal at this point... You could possibly retain the phone by calling them & asking for a new number because of spam calls. Or just dump it & start over. Some spammer got a hold of my hobby number & I got a call every time I turned it on... I burned it & started over.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 131 reads

posted 8 years ago

9 / 15

Why would you assume Jenny is a provider?

Why would you think "Hey what's up? This is Jenny." would be anything but a simple text from a random stranger who either dialed the wrong number, or dialed the right number but it no longer belongs to the person she was texting. Haven't you got wrong numbers or random texts on your regular phone? Why didn't you say "Jenny who?" or "Sorry, I don't know any Jennys." Of course she didn't reply to your text asking her if she is on p411 or TER. She has no clue what the heck you are talking about and figured out she texted a wrong number.

When you say, "a vague text from a women to a phone used for such purposes seems awfully coincidental," why would you think anyone knows what you are using that phone for? Just because you bought it to hobby with does not mean the last person who had that number used it as a hobby number. Now that would be a 1 in a million coincidence.

No you shouldn't be worried about the first provider giving out your number because there's a 99.9999% chance that is not what happened.

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perfectstorm 19 Reviews 141 reads

posted 8 years ago

10 / 15

Why would you ditch a phone because someone dialed a wrong number?

A random text "Hey what's up? This is Jenny." Is a reason to ditch a phone? SMH.

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impposter 49 Reviews 142 reads

posted 8 years ago

11 / 15

His mistake was replying with too much info.

Posted By: perfectstorm

Re: Why would you ditch a phone because someone dialed a wrong number?
A random text "Hey what's up? This is Jenny." Is a reason to ditch a phone? SMH.

He said, "I replied to "Jenny" asking if she had TER or P411 ids and I have not received a reply."
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I get unwelcome calls all the time but texts are more rare. I ignore everything from unknown sources. The most common calls are robocalls, bill collectors, solar panel sales reps, and other scammers. "Jenny" now knows (or can look up TER, P411 and then know) that the OP dabbles in the hobby. If Jenny is a Russian extortionist or other trouble maker, OP's phone number is compromised.
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I would NOT have replied in the first place. I would probably ditch the phone number and start over. (He only contacted one Provider and one "jenny" so he isn't losing a long list of contacts.)

SCBodyRub 13 Reviews 124 reads

posted 8 years ago

12 / 15

Re: Why would you assume Jenny is a provider?

I agree. Every time I switch burner numbers, I get random calls, texts, bill collectors calling/contacting me.

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 128 reads

posted 8 years ago

13 / 15

Wait, whuuut?

So you just mentioned TER and P411 to a random gal named Jenny? As others have said since numbers are recycled over and over with burner phones, it's probably a call from someone trying to reach someone who used to have that number, or it's a wrong number. It's HIGHLY unlikely it had anything to do with the provider who had spoken with before.

I wouldn't panic and ditch your new phone, I'd just chill and assume it zero to do with the provider. In fact I wouldn't mention your newbie blunder to the provider you are interested in meet at all. You wouldn't want her to think you didn't have your act together and made a mistake like this. Just roll with it and see if you get a lot of these random calls. If you are bothered by a lot of them, then maybe get a new number, but keep the phone since you just got it.

Learn from this mistake, and move past it. And here's a little ditty I just had to add for a giggle! Let's hope Jenny loses your number thou!

Steph XO

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