I scheduled an apt for a provider who only does outcalls.  Seemed like a quality (if new) provider in my area, she has two very favorable reviews.  Booked a hotel room, got it all setup, and then the apt time came, went, and nothing.  She didn't respond to any txts that I sent, she didn't answer or call back when I called her.  This has been over 48 hours now, and I've heard nothing back from her.  So I figured I would leave a review to warn others, only TER rejects my review as a "no-show".  They only accept reviews where I meet the provider face to face.  WTF?  How am I supposed to warn others about her behavior if I can't leave a review when she blows me off without a word?  I know that providers have their own 'blacklist' site for hobbyists who no-call, no-show.  What gives?  BTW, I am a paying VIP member, so I'm not trying to game free status from reviews.

and you tell the story, and you say "PM me for the provider's name"

Post on the regional board and say you know a girl that NS on you.  

One option would be to post on your Local Board to give other guys a heads-up.

That's a good idea.  I'll try reaching out to her again.  I understand that emergencies occur, but I don't think a simple txt is too much to expect.  If providers blacklist guys who NCNS, then they have to expect the same in return.  I've cancelled apts with providers before, have been asked to send a courtesy donation to make up for it, and I have done so happily.  Went on to later see that provider and all was good.  I will try to contact her again and see what happens.  Thanks for the advice.

Curious, why keep it via a PM?  I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to understand etiquette.  Thanks for helping, it just really burns to drop the cash on a room wasted.

No need to wait any longer if any of those are true. Max I would give her is 72 hours.

regardless of any culpability on the providers' part.

I am not sure that you can't mention a provider's name if she was a no-call-no-show (NCNS).  Go ahead and post about it on your local board and see.

It's more about etiquette. While it is awful to be stood up, when you weigh in everything, if a thread is made with her name, it can quickly turn into a nasty thing that can end up hurting her way more than what it hurt you to spend on that hotel. Though it was rude, it's the version of taking not the highest road, but at the very least a higher one than revenge.

Sent her a follow up txt and still nothing...

between coming off like a vengeful ass and sharing the experience is hard to see.  I asked a friend to txt her ad, looking for an apt.  She is responding to him promptly, but still will not respond to me.  No i'm sorry, i forgot, or had car trouble, or anything!

Our time is very important too and NCNS is just flat out rude. Unless she got hit by a bus and in coma in the hospital or something like that,  she has access to email phone text so there's really no reason to make a simple friggin call saying "Sorry I can't make it"

Did anything happen in your communication that could have spooked her, talk of sex and money or anthing like that? If she's a young or high volume girl NCNS happens quite often with them, they'll block your number like it was your fault and move on to the next guys in line without thinking twice about it.

If you're having a friend text her, that means your judgment may be getting a bit compromised.

Nope, all our communication was clean and above board.  We settled on day/time for the apt, the exact address of the hotel, and exchanged pleasantries.  No inappropriate talk what-so-ever.

You may be right.  And this is the first anything like this has happened to me, so perhaps I am reacting more than some hobbyists who have been around longer.  But it is incredibly rude.  I was concerned that a legitimate reason prevented her from seeing me or responding, such as a medical emergency, etc. But that clearly is not the case.  And I do appreciate the advice, and I am 100% fine if it just turns out that she became uncomfortable and didn't want to see me.  No problem, that's fine.  But I do not feel that expecting an answer or apology is asking too much.

They don't ever think that a girl they saw for a few hours of their lives could possibly NCNS someone.  

While wanting an explanation isn't unreasonable expecting one might be and getting the respect you deserve from her is unlikely. My advice is to move on and find someone else that will be happy to see you and show you the good time and respect you should get as the custumer. Even if you do get in touch with her you wont change her ways. It sucks that NCNS happen, but they do happen every day on both sides. Count yourself lucky if this is the first time it's happened to you, you must be doing things right.

Your initial knee jerk reaction was actually spot on.

YOU aren't doing anything to her reputation, her actions are. If she can't be bothered to even tell you why she wasted not only your time, but your money as well, you not only have every right, but IMO you have the obligation to shout it from the highest hill. Until guys (and girls) stand up to rude behavior we are all giving tacit approval of said behavior.

NCNS is the ultimate in rudeness, and if she cared for her reputation she could have sent you a one line text telling you to basically "fuck off" even that would be better than leaving you hanging.

In answer to your OP and the responses you have received from the two ladies, I ABSOLUTELY disagree with both of them and think that there is no reason whatsoever not to name names.

Keep in mind that this site was created for this exact reason, not to act as an ad venue for hookers, but for guys to share information, both good and bad about the women that we see, or in your case "don't see".

I will warn you that you may run into a few White Knights, spineless little suck ups who run to the defense of any women who's reputation they deem has been sullied, but pay them no mind, you have the truth on your side, and if she did it to you, she either has or will do so to someone else as well.

The "I didn't feel comfortable at the last minute" b.s. needs to come BEFORE the appointment time, not days after.

I've frequently advocated understanding the provider's end of the business, including not seeing anyone they didn't wish to, setting their rates as they please, and offering whatever services they choose to.  I believe very strongly that this is a professional job that requires intelligence, skill and a work ethic to be one of the best.  That said this seems like an odd position to take.  

This ncns bs is rude!  Don't feel bad about not being able to write a review about it though.  I had a guy book a 3 hour appt. He was a preferred 411 member.  I rented a hotel (in my area hotels are $250 and up unless you want bedbugs) paid for parking, his favorite drinks etc. He confirmed appt day of before I would book hotel.  NCNS.  I wanted to put it on his 411 profile to warn others.  They said no (can only document if I met him). TER isn't the only one with that rule.  Rude and no excuse but it does happen.  We can post that the incident happened on the provider board here on TER but we can't mention any names.  Have to describe and say pm me if you want more info.

I've yet to see a post about a NCNS that didn't end in a train wreck. The last one I saw was in Chicago and the woman came back and explained herself and made the guy look pretty awful.

She obviously wasn't in a car accident since she answered someone else inquiring promptly. She continues not to respond to you now.

You got the hotel room to see her so you incurred the cost. She never let you know she wasn't coming no text no call no email no NOTHING.

If it is what you want to do, POST on your local board as suggested by several people here.

I personally think she just f'ked up and doesn't want to deal with it now.

Also, in the future, if this ever happens again and you have a room, put up a post explaining you just got stood up and would like some company asap and I'm betting you'll get some responses.

Of course then you'll have to screen!

Seriously I'm sorry this happened to you, it shouldn't have gone down like that!

xoxo,

Steph

I have also seen trainwrecks that started with exactly the post that you suggested, a warning post that names no names, but the BSC hooker that committed the NCNS recognized herself and went all BSC with her accuser.

The truth of the matter is, when a hooker goes all BSC over an accusation of NCNS, it shows to the entire board just how BSC she is. I avoid these women like the plague.

IMO if a woman (or a man) has to come on the board to defend her/himself to a NCNS charge and that's the first communication since the incident, that person has already lost the argument IMO. I am a businessman and I take my business personally, if I were on my way to an appointment and got into a wreck and was unconscious for a week, the very first thing I would do upon regaining consciousness would be to reach out to the person I stood up, I would not log into TER first and THEN respond there. There is NO excuse that I buy when the defense is posted on TER instead of directly to the person who was stood up.