How does one become a sugar daddy. are there any searches on TER. do you just tell a provider i want to be your sugar daddy.

basically i find that if i go to a provider for the 1st time, its typically a bummer. i come too soon or its not enjoyable. just doing it for the heck of it.

so i think i'll be better with having a "Steady" provider so that we get to learn each other better and more in tune intellectually etc. I believe that is the same as sugar daddy.

I don't see being a sugar daddy and a regular as the same thing at all. Being the sugar daddy the two of you will do at lot of things together without paying by the time, instead you will pay for a lot of things for the lady. Having a steady provider can make a lot of sense to get to know each other better.

Another issue may be who you are seeing, are you utilizing the reviews to know what the experiences are like. Somee ladies are more in to pleaseing then others. It sounds like you want GFE, if so make sure the reviews indicate that she is true GFE.

Being a sugar daddy is not the same as being a gal's regular. If you want to be her one and only you had better have the bank account to back it up.
Additional, not every provider is looking for a sugar daddy type of relationship.

You are looking to run and you haven't even learned how to walk. Slow down.

First, it sounds like you are really having bad first experiences. Whether its nerves, guilt, lack of chemistry. lack of feelings, or just bad choices in ladies, you need to get over this hump. How can you even remotely begin to think about seeing someone for "a steady" (however you are defining your term) relationship if your hobby experiences are a series of bad first appointments? Try at least finding a lady whose company you enjoyed the first time and would like to see again. See if the second time is just as enjoyable and then proceed from there.    

Second, you really have to figure out what exactly what you are looking for in the hobby. As Bostonguy pointed out, having a regular, "steady" provider whose company you enjoy is NOT the same thing as being her "Sugar Daddy". Are you looking for an exclusive arrangement where you only see each other? Are you looking for someone to spoil rotten (i.e. lavish with expensive gifts, take on vacations, etc.) without the expectation of sex? Or are you just looking for a provider whose company you enjoy and perhaps you see her on a weekly basis?

Don't confuse being someone's sugar daddy with simply finding a lady whose company you enjoy and you find sexually desirable. You seem to be A LONG way off from cultivating an exclusive, "sugar daddy" type relationship. Look around; see what type of ladies really turn you and whom you connect with both sexually and emotionally (so that you can have an enjoyable "first session"). Turn that positive first session into a second positive session and than see how you wish to proceed. Remember, as others before have pointed out, the lady may or may not want the type of relationship you seek. Take your time and the right arrangement will ultimately unfold.

make a date longer than an hour. Start with 2, or a 4 hour dinner date, then maybe overnight

I've had success there, and in my experiences; its cheaper than the hobby!! As some girls would stay hours for a measly 300-400 bucks!! bt beware; some of the girls do get clingy!

there is a big difference between sugar babes and escorts.

Escorts prefer to "date" multiple guys, do everything for themselves, provide a service and get paid for it.

Sugar babes usually need their "daddies" to do everything for them, may or may not provide a service and still expect to get paid for it. Sugar babes also tend to be younger, needy, maybe immature and unpolished. Not all, but most.

In the long run being a sugar daddy is much more expensive than just a regular hobbyist with perhaps an ATF.

This is not a sugar daddy site but if that is what you want, simply Google it and tons of sites will show that offer this service. You can sign up, add a profile, view profiles of the sugar babes and what their needs are.

This is an escort site where most guys and escorts prefer to "date" multiple partners, escorts are expected to provide a service and get paid for it. Most escorts on this site are perfectly capable of taking care of their own needs outside of the "pay for play" arrangement.

It would be difficult and unlikely to find a sugar babe on this site especially with someone you do not know.

If your issue is climaxing too soon. Why don't you get a VIP membership, read the reviews, identify a few escorts you like and try longer dates with them for dinner or sightseeing etc in the 4-6 hour range. Once you find one(s) that you click with, you can see her(them) for a few overnights and develop an ATF type of relationship with them. Many guys do this.

The latter option is the much cheaper option in my opinion if $$$ are an issue as well.