I'm new, but I've seen several ladies more than once, and I've postd reviews of all of them.  Only one has whitelisted me.  Is it kosher to ask? And once I have two are more necessary? I've noticed that many of the big posters have none.  What's up with that?

some ladies do & some don't.  Some will use white list to help verify, others use their own system.  
Don't sweat it.
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