If she is a TER member, at the end of the date, just ask her if she would give you a whitelist referral.  You, of course, should return the favor with a nice review.  

Posting on your regional board will help raise your credibility as well.  Since you are still moderated, posting on the regional board will demonstrate to the moderator that you can follow the posting rules as well as let people know about you.  After you have posted for a while, you can ask the mod to un-moderate you.  When that happens, your posts will go up immediately, rather than waiting for them to be approved.

Swim