vary from gal to gal.  If you go to their sites, each usually spells out what is required.

Since you don't really have any references, I would suggest that you join a screening service like P411 or Datecheck, or Roomservice (in Chicago, especially.)

Some gals are fine if you give them lots of personal information like work and home address and phone number.

I also strongly suggest that you read the Newbie/Self Help Manual that is linked on this page.  (Look for the red and while life preserver.)  It not only covers this topic but also how to use TER and how to hobby safely and get the most out of it.

You are very lucky to have such an enlightened spouse.  That will make things a lot easier for you.

By the way, I should also mention that if you do searches on this board with the topic of screening, you'll find tons of threads on the subject.

You should also opt to become a VIP member so that you can read the reviews of providers on here to evaluate if they will be satisfactory to you.  You will also need this to find those who do couples sessions, which is one of the filters you will find on the profiles each gal has.

On more comment on the subject of finding a provider who sees couples:  Not all escorts are into doing this, but a significant number are.  One thing any legit provider will want to do is to talk to your spouse (often in private) and evaluate their feelings and suitability about doing a three-way before agreeing to same.

Given the complexity of the situation you have here, I would suggest that the more time you give this the better - at least a month.

Have a happy, healthy, and safe hobby experience.

Screening is different with nearly every provider.  Some do little or no screening, but you will be generally (and wisely) advised to avoid those situations.  Most providers seem to screen one of two ways.

1) Service-Based Screening.  You can pay a service like P411, DateCheck, or RoomService2000 to "verify" you, at which point your profile on the service (which does not contain personally identifiable information) will be tagged as "verified."  This involves, essentially, giving the service itself a bunch of information they can use to verify your real identity.  May include your drivers license, utility bills, pay stubs, etc.  Expect to give the service lots of information.  

The good news here, though, is that the services say they destroy it all after verifying you, and after that, some women will accept your verified, but now anonymous, identity on the site as sufficient to see you.  At least in the case of P411, I believe based on personal experience that is true.  This is awesome for the extremely cautious hobbyist, as it allows him to see providers on what amounts to an anonymous basis.  You may not require this much discretion since your wife is part of your plans, but even so, don't discount the benefit of not giving providers your, and your wife's real information.  

2) Direct Screening.  If you do not have a verification service ID to give to a reputable provider, then she will verify you directly.  She'll often require a work phone number where she can call a receptionist (posing as confirming a dentist appointment or something if asked) to make sure you have a job not in a police department.  Many will also require references from a couple of other providers.  This, of course, creates a chicken and egg problem for new hobbyists, but most reputable providers won't see someone without either a verification service or a couple of references behind them.

Personally, I'd go with p411 and after getting verified, look for " newbie friendly" providers on that site who have good reviews here.  After you've seen a couple and asked for and received "okays" from them (they'll also serve as references for the very few providers who won't accept p411 alone) you will be all set.

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Definitely screening babe. Love the part where your spouse is 'on board'...how fun for both of you, nothing to hide, can only add some spice to your marriage I believe. Even if one of you only watches the other and vice versa, will definitely bring your marriage back to life...the more the merrier I say lol.  

Anyhow, depending on how serious you are, yes 'screening' as most call it is mandatory for any top rated providers. Research and contact those whom appeal to the 2 of you together (how fun is that lol). Start the communication via email, you will know right off the bat if you get a good feeling from the provider or not. Explain your story and if she's down with it, she'll let you know. Understand tho, you may be looking at a higher rate for a 'couple' experience, but not always necessary.  

Good luck in your search.

Yes, happy hobbying for the pair of you.

T.

I'll have to look into the 411 thing. I don't have a problem sending personal info but it they do something like call my work phone, it's a cell that I keep with me 24/7 so I doubt that would verify anyting. I work for a large corp. and we just don't use land lines anymore. I do have pay statements I could send in and stuff like that. I don't think i've be comfortable sending email from my work address as well. I have plenty of tme so we'll see how it goes.