I do not know and they would have to give me a believable one as I have no patience .I would probably just say if you cannot meet at that time forget it.
Ok. So what constitutes a "believable" excuse?
If a provider bumps an appointment, she has her reasons. Just as when a client cancels an appointment, he has his reason's.
Lets say Joe Blow has an appointment with Penolope Provider, he cancels, she graciously accepts, even though she has probably turned down a few because she had set appointment with Joe Blow. Now, Penolope Provider is out $$ from not just one, but possibly a few others wishing to spend time with her, but she was obligated to Joe Blow, so she declines other offers.
Penolope Provder happens to see a review Joe Blow then writes of Patty Provider for the time he had scheduled with Peneolpe Provider....now, you tell me who the heck bumped who for a better offer??????????
Exactly!
Just because a provider bumps an appointment, to assume she did because of a better offer is just your pride telling you she got a better offer, which, by the way, is bullshit.
Life happens. Deal with it. Dont read more into it than it really is.
Only had that happen once. I know this because the dude she saw after cancelling with me wrote a review. Almost fired her as a result...had I not seen her multiple times, would not have considered seeing her again. Message to the ladies: If you cancel an appointment last day that you had set days or weeks before with a regular because someone else came along with a better offer: Tell that guy NOT to post a review!!
There are many more reasons appts get bumped other than a 'better offer'. Before I address that though, I have a question. Re: this comment from the previous poster....
" I know this because the dude she saw after cancelling with me wrote a review"
How would you know whom she saw the day she canceled with you? Does she share her other client's information with you? When they have appts? Your statment is very troubling.
Back on topic....There is a difference between bumping and a total cancel. For many providers that do mostly outcalls, I can think of many reasons. Accident on the thruway..or wherever...even when they allow time for traffic, we all know things can come to a stand still.
Car trouble. Then there are things like family emergencies....kid sick at school and needs to be picked up asap.
If she doesn't bump or cancel except that once, cut her some slack. For every provider that cancels you, we have twice as many NC/NS to deal with.
Details written in the review dated it with 100% certainty. While the circumstances surrounding this are unusual, probably not unique. I agree, most reviews wouldn't be so obvious, and she never shared details of the session reviewed. If I had posted originally under an alias, I might be inclined to go into more detail. And I should mention I did not get bumped, but rather she turned down my appt. request, then saw someone else later in the day, spur of the moment. I indeed did cut her slack...this happened three years ago, and still see the lady to this day...
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Since reviews are posted at random (based on time written and approved) it would be very hard to determine that you were bumped by this individual.
Hell, reviews can be up to 90 days old and if you are not careful a session from Dec. can be reviewed in Feb. (ops forgot to change the default date on the review form)it happens.
Relax and enjoy - nothing in this world is perfect!
um Crazy, reviews reflect month and year only. Guys have up to 90 days to write the review. So unless the guy wrote something like "I saw so and so on April 12, at 1 pm" there is no way you can know that the review is from the exact same day you were supposed to have seen a lady.
I am in agreement with Crazy on this one as there are ways one could identify a specific day a review was alluding to.
Now of course none of us know the provider nor the review in question, but suppose the reviewer mentioned things like ... "saw her the last (or first) day she was in town", or "saw her the day before her family arrived from", or "saw her the day before she had her new pictures taken", etc. and these were things Crazy had been told about by the provider prior to his scheduled appointment.
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Yes, there can be any number of reasons to have to cancel or reschedule.
As meowbaby said, car trouble, kid trouble, etc. In some cases a previous client ran her late or she double booked and you lose. But give her the benifit of the doubt.
Maybe she's just gotten tired, or maybe doesn't feel up to it for any variety of reasons. This business can be hard on women, physically and mentally. Sometimes a person just needs a break and your an hour too late.
My point being try not to take it personally even though you might have been inconvenienced. Just try again, and there are plently of fish in the sea. Even me!
Giggle,
TS Jamie 
First, I wouldn’t worry about the reasons a provider re-schedules your appointment or cancels it altogether. Whether she tells you its a family emergency, she's sick, she got her period a few days early, she got called back into the office, etc., it really doesn’t matter. Life gets in the way for everyone. If it's a lady you wish to see, then accept what she tells you (you don’t have to like, but too bad) and re-schedule at a more convenient time.
Second, do you really think a provider (even its the complete truth) will actually admit to bumping you for another client?? That would be business suicide on her part as I would venture to guess most hobbyists would be offended by this reason and prob. never make another appointment. This would be a severe blow to the male ego that the lady preferred to see another gentleman over you (even if you booked only an hour and the other guy booked 24 hours). Thus this excuse would never be forthcoming.
Finally, all this aside, understand that hobbyists cancel on providers WAY MORE OFTEN than providers cancel on hobbyists. In 10 plus years of hobbying, I have rarely had providers cancel on me. I know I have definitely cancelled more appointments than the other way around. For the most part as long as you call in advance of the session and let them know, the lady will prob. be willing to see you again. They don’t care about why you cancelled. Therefore, you shouldn’t concern yourself with why they cancelled on you.
I choose to believe the lady, or anyone for that matter, until I have evidence indicating otherwise, which isn't going to happen in the circumstance you're describing. I can do this because my hobbying is more like dessert than being famished, and needing the meat and potato main course of the meal. If she cancels, I go to plan b, c, etc., and if they don't work out, I go back to doing something productive with my time.
mattradd said:
"... I go back to doing something productive with my time."
Um, I'm a little lost here. Are you saying that this hobby ISN'T a productive use of time?!?
Yes, for me it's definitely productive. The part that I was referring to, as not being productive, was continuing to strikeout and/or sitting around and speculating why I got bumped.
Thanks for pointing out the need for clarification
Sometimes stuff happens, kids get sick, cars need to be fixed, etc. If she cancels and you think it is legit, book another appointment. Most ladies will offer a discounted rate if they have to cancel and then you re-book.
I once had a provider actually admit that she was bumping me in favor of a better offer. I scheduled with her 3 days in advance. She e-mailed me back telling me I was confirmed for the appointment. The message also said to call her 2 hours before the scheduled time to get directions.
So I went ahead and called her. I heard a lot of background noise, but I could still hear her pretty clearly. She said she'd call me back in 15 minutes. When she called me back, she said: "Can we meet tomorrow instead? A regular just called me, and asked for a 4-hour session (mine was a 1-hour), and I agreed." I told her I didn't want to see her, and hung up.
So there you have it. In retrospect, it was partially my fault: she was on CityVibe provider, and I shouldn't have contacted her. But since that was supposed to be my first venture into the hobby, I don't think anyone can blame me.
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The assumption is that if she cancelled with you, it was to see another client. Most providers honor the appointments that they schedule and do not "bump an existing appointment." However, just like everyone, emergencies come up, whether its the flu, a broken water heater, a flat tire, etc.
A provider may contact a client and ask him to arrive a half hour later. This may be as the result of a previous client arriving quite late, or if they themselves are running late.
In my opinion.. most providers do not "bump appointments." Rather we see our clients on a first cum, first serve basis *wink*
SINfully sinthia
A provider bumping an appointment is so rare for me that the one time it happened, I assumed that she was a flake and had lost her crackpipe while trying to find driving instructions.
It is really, really bad form that shows a carelessness that could lead to worrying questions--did she wash her pussy after the last customer? Did she remove the pubic hairs from her teeth or is that black floss? No--bumping an appointment is real bad. Real bad. And if a first-timer hobbyist skips an appointment, assume he was never going to show up anyway and blackball him.
