following on an earlier post:   I don't really get the "no fingers in hole" thing ...  I like to stimulate manually while DATY & I figure as long as I'm gentle, a GFE-type girl should not object....... any thoughts on this subject?

Many ladies simply don't want uncovered anything down there. Be a gentleman and respect their wishes. Also less than perfectly trimmed and smooth fingernails are dangerous and a HUGE turn off.

It's her body, what *YOU* like to do to it is irrelevant.  There are many reasons ladies may not allow fingers.  If she tells you no, maybe ask if she has toys that she prefers?

I always do as much research as possible. Sometimes, there simply isn't any info, so I'll occasionally take a chance. Alot of my research has to do with what she'll allow, enjoy, etc. Part of the reason for reviews is to see if the provider and hobbiest are into the same things, thus increasing the chances of an enjoyable session.    Personally, I'm into the finger thing, alot. If a provider doesn't allow it, I know I won't have a very good time, so I move on. I feel that if she's restrictive about something as common as that, there's likely to be many more 'I don't do that' sort of things as well. True enough, it's her body, and I respect that, but I'm paying what I consider to be alot for it's use, so there's got to be some sort of balance.

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in fact it states whether outside or inside.

I find most providers receptive to the idea, but you have to ask, and be very gentle.

And yes, do keep the fingernails short, short short and clean.

OK, we are not renting a life size rubber sex doll here, we are booking an appointment to spend time with woman. Specific activities that involve her body are her decision. Obviously there are certain expectations but ultimately it's her call and a gentleman knows that it's a bit of a gamble walking in. Yes, do your research and hope for a positive experience. If you don't enjoy the experience don't book again.

Bostonguy...thank you!!  On what I would consider to be on behalf of all providers, the post you responded to was, well, kind of rude.  But in a provider's opinion, it's up to each guy that I see.  If he's clean in general and fingernails are trimmed, then I have no problem and will definitely enjoy it, however many times little details like fingernails are overlooked and since it IS such a sensitive area, and jagged fingernails can cause days off work, I do in fact sometimes say NO.  But it really just varies from session to session.
~Marisa

I do respect the lady's wishes if she objects ... but the post was intended to educate myself on "why" she'd object .... Thanks to the feedback, I know now.

But I agree with wanderineyes12... I'd move on if the menu has restrictions....  I want a true GFE session, & that means not having to hear "no" to a list of stuff....

I'm very gentle & I keep my nails well manicured Essential_Marisa. When can I see you?

The fingers are THE dirtiest part of the body, particularly fingernails. Add to that, most guys don't tend to keep their nails trimmed, and then add to that most guys have NO idea how rough they are, it all works out to an experience I prefer to pass on. Oddly enough, this is one of my few restrictions, but there you have it - I just don't like fingers down there.

PS: The idea that GFE means she won't say no to anything is getting REALLY old. That isn't what GFE is supposed to be about.

When I was was in Amsterdam a few years ago I was surprised that one rule that was almost universal was "no finger insertion". The window girls there are unionized and they and their facilities are usually immaculately clean. I really believe that many girls just don't like it, for one reason or another, so I rarely do it. I will do it only if I see repeated review references to the fact that she truly enjoys it.

Tantra... very serious here... there is an art to making love and ensuring the lady is comfortable.
You may want to post this on the Erotic Highway board.

I've always found that the session goes better if I please the provider first and myself second. This may sound a bit odd to those of you who can't get past the "get what I'm paying for" mentality but hey, too each his own...
My two current favs both encourage finger play but in the form of "button" massage, not full finger insertion. They are both good "coaches" when it comes to letting me know exactly where, how fast (or slow), pressure, etc. Gentlemen, taking direction here pays huge dividends...trust me on this...