Newbie - FAQ

Whatever floats your boat!
hiddenhills 143 Reviews 656 reads
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Many veteran hobbyists have favs that they've been seeing for a long time.  As mentioned before, variety is one of the attractions that bring us into the hobby. I've been seeing a fav of mine for a number of years, but, I also enjoy the variety that the hobby has to offer. So I've found a balance, see the fav regularly, but also see others providers.  There is no right or wrong answer, do whatever works for you.  BTW, nice start, 5 reviews in Feb., just don't burn out,  Good luck.

I'm new to the hobby and Ive found a provider that I totally GFE and amazing. I'm going for my second visit in two weeks tomorrow. Is it stupid of me to see the same provider repeatedly or does it really matter. Do you think providers ever develop a pseudo relationship with a client? What are the thoughts???

there nothing wrong with seeing her again.  

What matters is what matters to you and no-one else.  If she is tripping your trigger and you are happy with the arrangement, that's what matters.

There is a particular girl that I've seen pretty regularly for over 4 years now.

And yes, people do develop "pseudo relationships" and real ones too.  But, especially if you are new to this, just be really careful.  These girls know where the boundries are and most of them are pretty careful not to cross them.  It's much more common for the guys to think that the girl is in love with them and develop an unrealistic expectation about the girls.  

Remember, you are paying her for a service.  If part of that service is GFE, and she is really good at it, it can be a little difficult to distinguish what you are doing in fantasy land from reality.  

Good luck and most importantly - Have Fun!!

If you enjoy her company and dont want to see anyone else, don't.

Most of us providers really like to have repeat or regular customers - the sessions get better because you are both more comfortable with each other and that opens the door to new possibilities like longer dates, travel, and possibly trying things with her that you might not feel comfortable trying with someone you don't really know.

If after a few sessions the lady seems to be taking you for granted or you are just itching to try someone else, there is no harm in going out and trying someone new.  

Even if you love eating at a steak house all the time, doesn't mean you dont occasionally like to go out for seafood.

She really fried my brai the first go and seeing her again today so it will be interesting to see how today goes!! Good advice here I really appreciate it!

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I had 17 year relationship with 1 gal.  We enjoyed each other once or twice a week and had many breakfast and dinner dates.   We just clicked.  If I'd have known her 15 years earlier I would have married her.  The only reason it ended was her death due to a heart attack.  I've always been one to cross that boundary.  I still do today.  I've fallen and can't get up!  Get your hands of of me.  I don't want to get up!  I'm happy!  I would however advise you choose wisely and carefully.

it's probably very common, maybe more than most talk about.   I have been seeing my local fave lady for almost 4 years, and am seeing her again next week.  We both enjoy each others company and always have a good time together.  I have repeated with many other ladies as well.  After a time, each party knows what the other one likes and what gets their motors running.  

So if you want to see her on a regular basis, by all means, do it.  Many, if not most, providers want regular clients for a number of reasons.  It simplifies many things for them, primarily the screening process.  And yes, you develop some kind of relationship, it's hard not to do so.  While I see my local fave every month, i do see other providers, still like variety along with familiarity.

Swim

....as I always post under the wrong comment!

  I have been a part time courtesan for over ten years (before that a mistress), and I still visit with gentlemen I met ten years ago!  You are right Swim: gentlemen like variety, but they also like knowing they have a "connection".  I have seen gentlemen friends through business difficulties, loss of family members, end of marriages, promotions, etc.  It is a fine line, but it can be done.

  As a sidebar: thank you Swim, for contributing som much to this particular board.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

Many veteran hobbyists have favs that they've been seeing for a long time.  As mentioned before, variety is one of the attractions that bring us into the hobby. I've been seeing a fav of mine for a number of years, but, I also enjoy the variety that the hobby has to offer. So I've found a balance, see the fav regularly, but also see others providers.  There is no right or wrong answer, do whatever works for you.  BTW, nice start, 5 reviews in Feb., just don't burn out,  Good luck.

Thanks, the other reviews definitely did not hold a candle to Kirsten, going to see her in about 30min and can't wait!!

I hope my contributions help everyone.  Otherwise, TER would fire me from this high-paying job.....LOL

Swim

There may be exceptions...  but in my experience, eventually they start taking you for granted.  Services suffer.  They have expectations...  know how to pop you quick so they do not have to work so hard.  I stayed with one for a year...  but then had to take near a year off.  She thought I was gone.  When I went back, I got her full attention...

On the other hand, a new girl every time does not float my boat.  

I see ladies I believe are potential Favorites...  I have a small number of Favorites which I rotate...  fall for every time...  until the next one.   If one is not available, another one will be. This seems to work best for me.
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My suggestion is that the best thing is to experiment a bit before locking down into one.  You do not want feelings to get too close either way.  The point is to keep it fine.  Eventually you will line up about 4 to 5 providers who become like friends to you who you can call on a rotational basis so that no one takes anyone for granted.   The key is to keep things exciting.  If you see one provider too much you end up in a situation where it gets a bit too personal and the provider turns into a SO.  Keep it light.

...don't need him to forget how things work like camping out in my yard or wanting to dry hump me well over his alloted time.
Kinda like those mini refresher courses at work....lol
Nothing harder than having to retrain a man with pussy on the brain..seriously, it's a challenge
Regardless, If I was a guy I'd probably be the variety sampler kinda guy with a few regulars...maybe.lol

I think I may read some more reviews and find someone of the same caliber, and build a library of ATFs, I think it will help my sanity in the long run...

send any mixed signals or cross any boundaries. I have gotten too close more than once, and it always seems to end badly. I either lose money or a friend, and I prefer not lose the latter.

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