First timer here - I did my homework, read what to do and what not to do, what to say and what not tosay.  I read what seemed to be hundreds of reviews.  I settled on a provider with great reviews.  The reviews said the provider was kind of chatty, but once the action started was great.  The problem: she talked through an entire two hour session.  Never asked if I wanted to get comfortable until two hours had passed.  I even tried, without being overt, priming things, asking her if she were comfortable just to get things moving.  I had the feeling that if I got blunt, she would have left.  My question: how can a client get a provider to feel comfortable, but shut up and perform without blowing the whole evening?

I think I smell a rat.  jtime claims to be a first timer, but has 1 review, which certainly does not match up with what he described here.

Okay, assuming that everything is on the up-and-up, here are a couple of things to keep in mind.

1) You're paying for her time and companionship.  If you don't indicate your agenda for the session, she might assume that all you desire is a conversation with a lovely lady - it has been known to happen.

2) For their legal protection, many providers will not make the first move with someone new, until they are confident they are sitting next to a member of LE.  The lady is already there with you, so when your ready, tactfully suggest what you have in mind for the session.

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in her mouth. Works for me everytime.

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Sorry, I did not mean to create the smell of a rat.  This was the second provider I had seen.  The first provider basically would talk about any and every thing, which made me nervous initially.  I really watched what I said in case she was LE.  

I understand the legality of paying for time and companionship.  When she was getting ready to leave, I asked why it was that all we did was talk?  Her response was that she had asked me several times if I wanted to get comfortable and that she was nervous that I was LE when I did nothing.  She asked me exactly 4 questions in the two hours and did not repeat any of them: what do you do for a living, do you have kids, (after a discussion of my son) what about your daughters, and finally, after two hours, do you want to get comfortable.  

What I'm looking for is how to tell the provider what I'm looking for if I'm not supposed to say anything that will lead her to believe I'm LE or to be too overt?

Fishy or not still a good topic to discuss.

You could always start up with a question of "may I kiss you" (I can all but guarantee you what the answer will be) a little feeling  around and that should get things started. Hard to chat when you are in a lip lock.

Many of the guys on here who are married or have had a great success with women, have heard enough talking out of women.  I my self have not done a whole lot of talking with women over my 33 years so in this hobby I enjoy talking with them, but I am also a cheap skate so I cannot afford to be wasting money on talk (my internal struggle).  One session I really enjoyed was with a woman who I paid for an hour and she spent three with me, half the time talking.  Wasn't the best sex I ever had but I sure did not feel ripped off.

But you definitely have to ask for what you want.  I am still trying to grasp this concept.  I have a hard time asking a civi girl out on a date, how the hell am I expected to ask for an act that may be very degrading to her.  But I have found the times I did ask the answer was always an exciting "SURE!!" and that is just the best feeling there is (well maybe second best feeling)when a woman has an attitude like that.

Ask and ye shall receive!

After the lady has the envelop with her gift in it, I just go ahead and get comfortable.  She might even ask if I would like to "get comfortable.  That does not mean to sit down and relax, it means to "get naked", period.  Once you do, then she will, and things should take there natural course from there.

the action. Take off your clothes shortly after entering room and they'll get the hint. Many providers will talk their heads off until you have cauliflower ears and your time is up. Take Charge!