I saw a provider website that asked for clients to be on the TER whitelist.   (newbie here... sigh)
Is that something that providers put you on, or is it more like Preferred411.

I just signed up for Preferred411.  I don't really have references (none of the providers I have been with would remember me because its been a couple of years, and although I am kind, generous, no hassle, and very easy to get along with, I doubt any of them would have any memory of being with me. I am not Bradd Pitt, and I am not Jabba the Hut. ( I am closer to Brad than Jabba though :}).....  

If I was a total asshat, they might, so that is a good thing that they would not remember me in that regard...

So hopefully getting on Preferred411 will help be be able to schedule some quality time.  Will TER White list help more?    

This is the classical chicken and egg problem, you have to have experience to get experience..  Aaarghhh.

TER white listings are much like P411's OKs. you ask for them at the end of the date and the provider if she has her handle linked to her reviews can at her discretion give you one. They are not mandatory like P411's OKs and the lady can remove it at any time and for any reason. But to get one you need to see the lady first most of the time as how can a lady know that you are unless she has met you?

When providers give white listings to every hobbyist who asks  provided they write a review,  and hobbyists they have seen only once, to solicit business from the ego deprived, the white listing
mean nothing. White listings are much more prevalent than they should be often giving a false sense of security  .

 The way white listings are recklessly thrown about, they mean much less than the original intent.

  There are providers who give white listings to almost every John they see. When providers use white listings as an advertising campaign their white list credibility is moot.

 Providers who desire to play it safe, will always ask for a couple references regardless of white listings.
 
If a provider I've only seen once asks me if I would like a white listing I always say NO thank you
 with an explanation why .
Her safety and the safety of other providers is more important to me than my ego.

Anything can be abused. Just because it can be doesn't make the entire situation dangerous. How do you think the White List should be done in order to make it Not Oh so dangerous?
Come on, if you say it's a problem then offer a solution.

but to say "whitelists are dangerous" is irresponsible. How is it any different than a provider "OK" on P411, or a verification on date-check.  If a provider is trading a whitelist for a review, can't she just as easily trade an ok, or a verification, or a reference for that matter? And where did it ever say you have to see someone more than once to say somebody is okay? If she saw the guy, he came, he paid, he left, and he caused no problems whle there, then why shouldn't he be whitelisted?

I was not insinuating the white list program is entirely dangerous. I was making a  point to the OP from  "another perspective" . He  won't need a white listing to visit providers once he has some referrals.
White listings are not a  guarantee to never become intertwined with  LE or worse .
 Things change and so do people .
There are some providers who always check references regardless of white listings.

 I am only speculating , one advantage of a white listing would seem to be he isn't a time waster ,
 Providers would probably reply to email from someone  white listed with the belief he isn't another one of those guys only looking to be an email pal.  Who knows how many of those they weed through ?
 
I was  giving my view, white listings shouldn't be given  out like fortune cookies at every meal, and providers should always check recent references for an extra measure of safety.
 If white lists were a 100% guarantee ,there would be 0 white list Johns on the National Blacklist.
 That's as clear as I can articulate my opinion of white lists and why they shouldn't be the only source of reference.




" When providers give white listings to every hobbyist who asks  provided they write a review,  and hobbyists they have seen only once, to solicit business from the ego deprived, the white listing
mean nothing. White listings are much more prevalent than they should be often giving a false sense of security  .

The way white listings are recklessly thrown about, they mean much less than the original intent.

 There are providers who give white listings to almost every John they see. When providers use white listings as an advertising campaign their white list credibility is moot.

Providers who desire to play it safe, will always ask for a couple references regardless of white listings.

If a provider I've only seen once asks me if I would like a white listing I always say NO thank you
with an explanation why .
Her safety and the safety of other providers is more important to me than my ego."

...some other client a White list after she has seen you two times, three times?
P411 Ok's and what ever they do at Date chek  seems to be the same situation. About all it really means is the guy didn't hurt her, rob her, push her boundaries, etc. the one time she saw him. (If it was only once.) The client having several white lists would be what then builds his reputation as a client a provider can trust and that is the point of the white list, have many of them just like the provider having many good reviews builds her reputation.
Additionally, I have never heard anyone suggest that the white list should be the only screening resource the provider uses. (Though I did read a post by a provider where in an unusual circumstance she said she did just that and everything went splendidly.)

Again what you're saying can be said of any similar verifying process or device, so what do you suggest should be done to take away the deficiency?

Only because i went for years n years providing in hotels, I d be scared every time i opened the door i was goin to get mutilated. I wouldnt do doggie, cause i wanted to always see there hands, {so they couldnt pull out a knife, } that was how i spent from 2004 til 2011 escoritn, no one ever pulled me aside and explained web sites ter ect. i just saw ter as some mean place whered peopled  clarify you are ugly and i already had bad self estemm, At 30 well i am somfortable in my skin now, and can take the bad reviews that say my butts too big and what now with grain salt, I personally make it a point to whyotelist each n every client asap, only because i like knowing it may help some other woman be able to escort with out fearing for her bosy bein in one piece at end of the night, I think its truly gret system they have goin here, and am hapy to do anything to make it where some lady can invite starnger in,.have unattached sociapathic good sex with no strings ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,And NOT HAVE TO HAVE THE WHOLE BOTHER OF FEARING FOR YOUR SAFTEY THAT GOES ALONG WITH IT FOR SO MANY,,,,,,,,,,,,, i def am ademant abut whitelisting guys after i see them, wether they wat to review me or not soeant matter i never had problems getn appts before , i dont think there will ever be ashrtae of horny penis, out ther,m and with out a web site , what i did do before was i dmeet them a the clubs i danced at n feel them out that always worked good too................then u can slso pcik the one you want most , and actually the ones inj there do not go on ter, so youdnever hav met them other wise, i landed some good appts by meetin in person,,,,,,,,, i thinbk whitelisting is the best thing since sliced bread, i am all over it, it can take some of the angst away for a gal before she invited you to be alone in a room with her, which is kidna risky, i mean think a all the thinsg that could happen or go wrong, whe  its starnger,.

i think it can prove somewhat helpful but i just watched this awful u tube clip showing women in pastic bags that been suffocated and i am sure that no matter what ,,,,,,,,, it s never 100 percent safe and maybe staying in my house with my doors liocked is best,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,hahha, no , but after watchin that u tube ckip i am spooked right now,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I am really way more at eased before hand when i see they are utilizing the whitelist tool, as part of referencing with other ways, i think it shows they may know the routine and not end up being a potential problem or being really rude, . or just violent and rough and mean,,,,,,

Whitelist should mean, and only should mean, he paid, he was respectful and he wasn't LE (which is pretty much every guy I've seen).

What else is it supposed to mean?

If I see several whitelist references by reputable providers, that tells me that the guy is safe to see.

Period. What more would I care about than that?

For a last minute appointment (like when the guy has a cancel or no show), and it is unlikely you will be able to contact a reference in a different timezone in the late evening, whitelisting may be the only screening a guy has.

The only way it would be "dangerous" is if ladies are giving whitelisting referrals to guys they haven't seen. I highly doubt a reputable lady would ever do that. You have to check the credibility of the lady giving the referral in order to know if the whitelisting holds any merit, just like when getting a reference.

I think it is a great tool to help ladies feel safe meeting guys when they are unable to get ahold of a reference in order to verify a guy, just like a Preferred411 "okay" or Date-check "recommended."